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A Neuroscience Approach To Learning Game
Anyone who has been involved in the community for a long period of time has no doubt came across decently normal guys who have studied pickup and seduction for over a year and yet still has lackluster and inconsistent results at best.
I believe these lack of results often stems from learning and practicing seduction in a wrong and inefficient manner. Here is what normally happens…
Guy stumbles onto the whole concept of “game” and PUA stuff.
Guy reads, watches, and listens to everything he can all at once.
Guy goes out and approaches women and tries to implement everything he ”learned” from those resources.
Guy realizes he can’t remember a thing while in set.
Guy post questions on seduction forums and receives lots of conflicting advice.
Guy continues to meet women and “brute forces” and grinds his way to slightly better results over a period of time. Its inefficient and slow.
Ive seen countless men, most of whom were normal with no huge issues, go through this process and still have lackluster results even after a year (sometimes more) of hard work. This SHOULD NOT be the case. Having sex with women is one of the most natural things in the world. While its not rocket science, there is a science to learning complex skills quickly.
I’m not a neuroscientist but I’m going to briefly explain, in overly simplified terms, what happens when a man attempts to learn game.
When he crams all the material into his brain he is putting it into his short term memory. For a short time after reviewing the material he feels as though he understands it and feels confident. So why does his mind freeze up when hes out talking to women?
1) He never made that information real and transferred to to long term memory where it becomes a skill he can access on demand. Our brains are actually horrible at learning so much information at once. We have to chunk complex skills down other wise there is a “traffic jam” at the door that connects our short term memory to our long term memory. All that knowledge gets jammed up at the door and very little of it gets through.
2) He is trying to run before he walks. Before Navy Seals are taught close quarter combat techniques inside buildings they first have to master the basics of keeping their finger off the trigger, knowing how to hold the firearm, how to bring it up into constant and consistent sight alignment, etc. They need to learn the basic fundamentals before they can do more advanced close quarter combat. Why? Because our brains can only focus on so much at once. If their brains are to busy trying to process how to do the basics, they can not effectively perform the advanced task required of close quarter combat room clearing. You must get the easy stuff down to where you brain can acccomplish it without much conscious thought before moving onto harder stuff. This isn’t what the average guy does. He tries to apply everything from opening techniques to advanced sexual escalation techniques all in the same night. It just wont work.
This is great and all but how does it actually apply to you getting better results faster and more efficiently?
Here is the process that men should use to quickly advance their game and start getting laid consistently.
The Rapid Learning Process:
Let me know if you have any questions. I’m not on the forum a lot these days but I try to log on at least a couple times a week.
P.S. I feel like I need to add an important disclaimer onto this article: If you do not yet possess basic social skills and have the ability to engage with friends, coworkers, and other people you happen to meet naturally, trying to learn cold approach pick up is a waste of time. You must first learn how to connect with people in a normal way before trying to seduce random women. Trying to make the jump from “Scocially Awkward“ to “Smooth Seducer” is skipping the important step of being a normal socially well adjusted guy.
Anyone who has been involved in the community for a long period of time has no doubt came across decently normal guys who have studied pickup and seduction for over a year and yet still has lackluster and inconsistent results at best.
I believe these lack of results often stems from learning and practicing seduction in a wrong and inefficient manner. Here is what normally happens…
Guy stumbles onto the whole concept of “game” and PUA stuff.
Guy reads, watches, and listens to everything he can all at once.
Guy goes out and approaches women and tries to implement everything he ”learned” from those resources.
Guy realizes he can’t remember a thing while in set.
Guy post questions on seduction forums and receives lots of conflicting advice.
Guy continues to meet women and “brute forces” and grinds his way to slightly better results over a period of time. Its inefficient and slow.
Ive seen countless men, most of whom were normal with no huge issues, go through this process and still have lackluster results even after a year (sometimes more) of hard work. This SHOULD NOT be the case. Having sex with women is one of the most natural things in the world. While its not rocket science, there is a science to learning complex skills quickly.
I’m not a neuroscientist but I’m going to briefly explain, in overly simplified terms, what happens when a man attempts to learn game.
When he crams all the material into his brain he is putting it into his short term memory. For a short time after reviewing the material he feels as though he understands it and feels confident. So why does his mind freeze up when hes out talking to women?
1) He never made that information real and transferred to to long term memory where it becomes a skill he can access on demand. Our brains are actually horrible at learning so much information at once. We have to chunk complex skills down other wise there is a “traffic jam” at the door that connects our short term memory to our long term memory. All that knowledge gets jammed up at the door and very little of it gets through.
2) He is trying to run before he walks. Before Navy Seals are taught close quarter combat techniques inside buildings they first have to master the basics of keeping their finger off the trigger, knowing how to hold the firearm, how to bring it up into constant and consistent sight alignment, etc. They need to learn the basic fundamentals before they can do more advanced close quarter combat. Why? Because our brains can only focus on so much at once. If their brains are to busy trying to process how to do the basics, they can not effectively perform the advanced task required of close quarter combat room clearing. You must get the easy stuff down to where you brain can acccomplish it without much conscious thought before moving onto harder stuff. This isn’t what the average guy does. He tries to apply everything from opening techniques to advanced sexual escalation techniques all in the same night. It just wont work.
This is great and all but how does it actually apply to you getting better results faster and more efficiently?
Here is the process that men should use to quickly advance their game and start getting laid consistently.
The Rapid Learning Process:
- Before anything else the student must begin working on his fundamentals. These include things such as: His physical looks and appearance, basic social skills and ability to have normal conversations, his posture and body language, ability to hold eye contact, his voice tone, applying the law of least effort, etc. Chase and others have some great stuff written about this. Most guys try to skip the fundamentals because they are “boring” but this is a massive mistake that will prevent you from having good results.
- Pick ONE dating coach/guru to learn from right now in order to avoid confusion and conflicting advice. Get his flagship product be it a book, course, audio series, whatever and stick to it only for now.
- Quickly go through their entire product (book, course, whatever) and take good detailed notes. This is designed to “prime” your mind and not actually make you into a skilled expert on it. There is a lot of science behind why priming your mind on the material is important but we are skipping this for now as its not important for our purposes. Just follow this step.
- Go through your completed notes and on a separate sheet of paper write down every single major concept you took notes on. Opening, hooking, rapport, sexual escalation, etc. You will have a list of all major concepts at the end of this step.
- Now go through each and every concept and apply The Feynman Technique. This works as follows:
- Under each concept attempt to explain it in your own words without looking back at the notes. Pretend you are teaching it FULLY and IN DEPTH to someone else. What this will do is help uncover any gaps in your understanding. For example: You may find that when you try to explain the concept of “hooking” to your invisible student, you are having trouble articulating it in very simple, clear, and concise terms. This means you dont fully understand the concept.
- Circle any concepts that you feel you dont fully understand well enough that you could teach others.
- Go back and study those circled concepts again from the same source material.
- Repeat step 1 with the circled concepts until you have a good theoretical understanding of all these concepts.
- Go out and work on getting good at ONE concept at a time. Start in a order that makes sense. For example: You will practice and get good at Opening before you try to master sexual escalation. Dont over complicate this step! You are simply CHUNKING the entire process down to single steps and getting good at each step before moving onto the next. Once you get good at one step your brain can put that step on “auto pilot” in the future and it frees up brain power to focus on other steps. This is called ‘Automaticity.” You want to be good enough at something that you brain can do it without much conscious effort. When you get good at one step before going onto the next it will allow you to free up brain power to focus on learning the next step. Again, follow the process and CHUNK it down. Go out for a week or two and practice getting good at OPENING, then once you are decent at that, practice only HOOKING (you will automatically use what you learned from opening), etc. Dont overthink this… You are simply focused on learning, applying, and good good at once single step at a time and overtime you are applying each step without having to think “what do I do next and how do I do it?”
Let me know if you have any questions. I’m not on the forum a lot these days but I try to log on at least a couple times a week.
P.S. I feel like I need to add an important disclaimer onto this article: If you do not yet possess basic social skills and have the ability to engage with friends, coworkers, and other people you happen to meet naturally, trying to learn cold approach pick up is a waste of time. You must first learn how to connect with people in a normal way before trying to seduce random women. Trying to make the jump from “Scocially Awkward“ to “Smooth Seducer” is skipping the important step of being a normal socially well adjusted guy.
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This will be a strong copy paste to the many in here facing exactly what you outline.