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Verify my own instance of "Indirect Direct"

Zeke

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I read the "How to do Indirect Game Right" article, and I could relate to the examples of James Bond and "loving the view" with Halle Berry. I'm getting back into the swing of watching more TV as medical school winds down so I may be more comfortable doing indirect direct without need for assistance.

This was the example I had last night during a salsa social - and I just need someone to verify it is what I think it is:

*I had just finished dancing with this woman who seemed to be at least 5 years my senior

Me: Thank you for the lovely dance! I didn't get your name by the way.

Her: I"m Angie.

Me: It's hard to hear in here - and I actually know a lot of Angies, what's your last name?

Angie: I think we should leave it at just "Angie."

*at this point she winked at me and nudged my arm.

Me: Oh, is this the "I can be any name you want me to be tonight" game? Two can play this game here you know. Maybe I should use some cheesy pickup line, too, you know, "did it hurt when you fell from heaven?"

Angie: Oh ho ho HOOOO!!! *laughing - in a way that may signify she realizes what the innuendo really is.

Me: You dance very well, I'm glad to have kept up with you (she is a well known dancer and performer in the local salsa scene) even when I haven't been dancing in 6 months (I have actually been dancing for 4 years and I am okay at it - I can style and I am somewhat musical)!

Angie: Oh! No way! Is it another woman? It must be, isn't it?

Me: *pausing because I think this might be indirect and a way to show mystery - "Well...it actually has been more like many women. All gorgeous, and all wearing white."

*I'm trying to conceal or at least mystify the fact I am in medical school - the women in white refers to the nurses.

Angie: "Did you marry them all or something? Oh, no, wait, they must be Victoria's Secret Angels!"

Me: *sly smile

So that's all of the conversation I remember - because I got yanked away to dance with another girl. If you're asking why I didn't go any further, the fact is that I wanted to work on my own skills for conversation first, with some flirting on the side, before I could transition into building an actual process for seduction. I can easily get the deep diving part and warmth and inspiring part as they teach us some components of it in medical school - however, handling transitions and then the actual moving and seduction process has to wait until I get down all of my fundamentals and basic conversational skills re-established - after all - physicians tend to be some of the most socially inexperienced out there when compared to other professions - at least in the training stages of pre-med and med school.

So how do you guys think I did?
 

Tyme2k

Cro-Magnon Man
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Flawless. Although what you say is not that important, more how it's said. The only problem I see is what was your goal with this woman? Did you acheive that goal?

It was also great you got pulled away to dance with another girl, shows you are in demand.
 

Novacane

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Beautiful interaction I give it 2 thumbs up :D
 

Chase

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One thing I'll put out to improve on here - when she asks you, "Was it another woman?" if you say "yes" (or anything approximating yes) you end up looking like either a) just another guy (and she gets to smugly think, "Ah ha, men are so predictable!") or b) like you're trying to impress her by telling her you have women in your life.

So a better answer would be:

Her: Oh! No way! Is it another woman? It must be, isn't it?
You: [melodramatically] There is no room in my life for women... only DANCE.

Then later when you trade numbers and she tells you she thought there was no room in your life for women, only dance, you can say, "Occasionally I deign to make an exception, but only for the most exceptional of women."

Chase
 
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