Casual/FWB Want to find a woman to 'teach' me through sex - how to do it?

[Humay]

Just been intimate with a girl recently, and i'm attracted to her a lot.

My questions:

1. I want her in a type of relationship where I can visit her frequently (maybe 3-4 days a week), and she can teach me how to pleasure her (I still think i'm a bit awkward in sex. I want a woman to be my guide around her body). I want her to be open with me on what to do to give her more pleasure. How do i go about achieving this type of relationship, when Chase says you can only see a girl 2 times a week max to keep it casual? i don't think this is enough.

2. When I mean committed, I mean that this relationship remains unwavering, and will not end until both of us want it to. I don't mind if she sees other guys, and I want to see other girls. Should I tell her my stance, or should I assume this goes unsaid anyway, since i make it clear that this is a casual, sexual relationship?

3. How should she go about teaching me? We're too busy 'doing it' during sex for her to stop and tell me to do this or that. And afterwards, i won't think she will be in the mood to be teaching me how to satisfy her yet again!

4. How long does it take for sexual attraction to fade after sex? I had sex with her last weekend, but i've been too busy this week to meetup again, so we're going to meet up this sunday. Would i be back to square 1 after those 8 days, or will she want sex?

 

[Franco]

Humay,

Good to see you on the boards! It's been awhile.

1. I want her in a type of relationship where I can visit her frequently (maybe 3-4 days a week), and she can teach me how to pleasure her (I still think i'm a bit awkward in sex. I want a woman to be my guide around her body). I want her to be open with me on what to do to give her more pleasure. How do i go about achieving this type of relationship, when Chase says you can only see a girl 2 times a week max to keep it casual? i don't think this is enough.

You can't have a casual relationship where you are seeing the girl 3 to 4 times a week. No matter what your words communicate to her, and even what she may respond to those words, a girl is going to assume that things are slowly getting more serious as time progresses. The more often you see the girl, the more quickly she will move toward putting pressure on you for something more serious (or she'll decide she needs to move on to more promising prospects).

Now, that's not to say that you can't keep a relationship going like this for awhile if you manage expectations correctly. On average, I would say a girl will be okay with this type of relationship for 2-3 months, but after that, something usually has to give.

EDIT: Check out Chase's article today titled, "4 Stages of Every Friends with Benefits Relationship"

When I mean committed, I mean that this relationship remains unwavering, and will not end until both of us want it to. I don't mind if she sees other guys, and I want to see other girls. Should I tell her my stance, or should I assume this goes unsaid anyway, since i make it clear that this is a casual, sexual relationship?

Well, if she wants it to end before you do, then it doesn't matter how you feel about it. A girl will follow her emotions, and if her emotions are telling her that she's not getting what she wants out of the relationship between you two, then she'll cut ties and look to satisfy her needs elsewhere.

If a girls starts asking about where the relationship is going, you can attempt to communicate to her that you're not looking for anything serious at the moment, but you have to be prepared for the fact that she may not want a "casual" or "FWB" type of relationship, and you'll have to let her go. Just make sure you don't get roped into a committed relationship if it's something you do not actually want!

How should she go about teaching me? We're too busy 'doing it' during sex for her to stop and tell me to do this or that. And afterwards, i won't think she will be in the mood to be teaching me how to satisfy her yet again!

In the bedroom, it's the man's job to give the girl a pleasurable experience, and it's likely that she may not even know how to satisfy herself properly if she hasn't had many partners! Asking her to tell her to tell you what she likes is only going to disappoint her and make her feel like you're not a strong, dominant man that can satisfy her the way she hoped you could. There are a few articles on sex that you should check out for some tips:

• Make Her Orgasm Hard From Sex in 8 Minutes or Less
  3 Steps to Help Her Orgasm From Sex
  How to be a Good Lover (and Give Girls Orgasms)

How long does it take for sexual attraction to fade after sex? I had sex with her last weekend, but i've been too busy this week to meetup again, so we're going to meet up this sunday. Would i be back to square 1 after those 8 days, or will she want sex?

Sexual attraction doesn't fade if you're blowing her mind in the bedroom! As a matter of fact, it's usually what keeps girls coming back! So really work on your sexual technique and use the articles above to improve yourself so that you feel more confident in your ability to satisfy women in the bedroom. Keep in mind that every guy with at least a 3 inch penis is capable satisfying a woman (which is 99% of guys anyway), so you just need to keep working on finding what works best for you. My advice: rhythmic, powerful, and deep thrusts are what women really love. Imagine you are trying to move her entire body with your cock when you thrust into her. Women love this.

Hope this helps!

- Franco

 

[DesiBro]

Franco pretty much nailed it with his post.

One other thing worth mentioning is that practice is important - in order to be refining your technique, you need to be gaining experience. Experiment with techniques you read about or imagine up yourself, and observe her to find what gets you the best reactions.

 

[Humay]

Hey thanks Franco, and DesiBro, i find this helpful! Actually, i'm not planning on staying for long unfortunately. I've got more than my fair share of things to do instead of being on the computer all the time

 

[Amadeaus]

The advise above is spot on.

Also, if you are young, do not shy away from women that are a little older than you. ie: if you are say 20, a woman that is 29 or 30. They know that you are much less experienced, but you have something to offer them, youth.