"Want to steer clear from men for awhile"

[Mullero14]

5 months ago I approached a chick and got her number. We chatted online for a bit and I got the conversation to be sexual, phone sex, nude snaps etc. Unfortunately due to covid I couldnt seal the deal and do anything in person.

Eventually lockdown was lifted and we went on a afternoon coffee date. We ended up in the car making out and me playing with her body. I got blocked from going further due to her sister calling her and she had to rush home.

We would chat over the phone for quite a bit and got to know each other and the chemistry between us was crazy. She would call me all the time. The sexual tension was high. I dont want a relationship but this girl made me want to be in one with her. All the girls ive hooked up with/dated are nothing like her.

One night we were on the phone planning our next date and figuring out when were free. She stops and asks me what I am after. I told her at the moment nothing but I do want to see where this could lead to. She informs me she just got out of a relationship and doesnt really want to date guys or sleep around and that she regrets all the sexual stuff we did and that she doesnt really want to see me again as it would be "wasting each others time".

Obviously I got upset with her and ended up getting rid of her. I deleted her socials and number and moved on, dated other women, hooked up etc. But since then I couldnt get her out of my head, I tried my best to forget about her but I find that every girl im with is not the same as her. Shes on a different level and I really missed her.

Last night I ended up DM'ing her (ended up on phone call aswell) and I asked her out. She complied with hesitancy saying she MIGHT go with me as long as I dont try to fool around with her. She says that she doesnt want to hangout with a guy unless shes keen on dating him. I asked her if shes ready to start dating and she stated that she "Wants to steer clear from men for awhile".

I know the right thing to do is what I did before and block/get rid of her and move on with other girls to forget her but I have tried that and im still obsessed with her months after. I really want to fight and attain her (Either seal the deal and sleep with her or relationship) How should I proceed? Go on the date and try to escalate sexually? Her barriers are going to be up so itll be difficult.

Has anyone ever had a really bad case of oneitis?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@Mullero14 dude! You're right to meet new girls and move on, this will fix your oneitus. It's the only way to cure it, you'll meet many more amazing girls and realise you were caught up on her for nothing. Most dudes here would have had oneitus at one point, it happens.

Your biggest mistake here is you're pursuing a relationship. This is the girls job. You mentioned this yourself about either sleeping with her or having a relationship... no dude you sleep with her, this is how you get into a relationship. Don't commit first.

She's gave you a green light telling you she doesn't want a relationship, and in a bid to steer away from men she's agreed to meet up with you..... go out with her and escalate. You've already been emotional with her and she's still agreed to meet! :')

Don't be emotional again that she's ruled a relationship out. That's not the goal. The goal is to get her out, check. Sleep with her, pending...

She doesn't know what she wants, so lead her to what you want. If she complies she's interested. Escalate as far as you can and you might even get the relationship you want with her.

For your own sake give yourself a cut of. You will only try x number of times. She might take 2 or 3 dates, but set a number and stick to it.