Warmth and confidence

[SeptemberGold]

I've been working on basic fundamentals this month--good posture, keeping my head up, and deliberate movement. I've noticed a difference in how girls react to me, BUT-- for some reason I can't seem to be warm and have good confident posture at the same time. It's either warm and soft, or "confident" but distant/standoffish. I've gotten better, but I still miss the quick rapport/connection that seems to happen when I'm softer. Obviously this kind of rapport causes no attraction, so I need to figure out the balance.

Is there any particular thing that may help with this, or things to be mindful of when trying to maintain warmth while still being confident?

 

[leadingbealwaysido]

Great that you are seeing difference! I mean that is so valueable, because you can see you have better control.

It seems to me that you are forcing your posture, just by what I am reading. Which makes it becomes a thing you are conscious of. Its not good for your life or your body alignment to force and be conscious about your posture all the time. I did it for years and actually got gut issues because of that... I discovered a way to naturally have good body posture. You know that anthony robbins talk about power pose for confidence... Well what if you are just naturally in a power pose. Well that is what functional patterns and goata will teach you. I believe in your case, if it is more natural, you are able to express yourself better without simul. being conscious about perfect body posture.

Let me know how it goes!