LR Weird bar, weird girl, good sex

[Verisimilitude]

So I've been away for a bit. A long time actually. Law school is hard, and I don't have a ton of free time (plus the girls at my school are below average). This is from a while back, but I wanted to put it out there, mostly because I have no idea what I did right or wrong. It was a weird encounter, but the girl was fun. Maybe you guys can get something from it too.

We actually met on tinder (it's a lifesaver for meeting girls when your busy, but the girls you get are much lower quality). I go through the tinder routine. It's something I've gotten pretty good at, but it makes things seem mechanical which is no fun.

Right off the bat she's texting me weird shit, like incomplete sentences and stuff. I think its weird and I figure she's probably just messing around, but I play along and eventually we agree to meet up for drinks. It was actually my first tinder date. She'd been day drinking all day so she's tipsy already.

We walk to this bar, and the vibe is super hipster/divey. Not my kind of place (well I love a good dive bar, but I despise hipsters). But for some reason I attract the hipster girls, especially on tinder. I decided to stick around because although she's wearing weird clothes (almost gothy) she looks hot (she's dressed really sexy). I spill beer on her, and apologize (just a reflex) and she say she doesn't mind she thinks it's hot. It completely through me off because this was five minutes into the date, but I make a half-witty remark and go with it. I move in closer, so we're touching and she loves it. We get more drinks, listen to the awful band (hipster jazz), and then get food. It's all on one plate and you eat with your hands, which is actually perfect for a first date. We talk about generic topics (travel, her life, her friends, her family). Most of it's focused on her, which is good.

I tell her my place is right around the corner and make some excuse for why she should come back (I don't even try to be creative anymore) and she immediately agrees. We go back, I escalate and we have sex. I don't remember it taking much convincing, but this was a while ago so I could be wrong. She has a headache in the middle of the night (we didn't really sleep) and she tries to say its the air, but we both knew it was the alcohol. We have sex multiple times, and she leaves.

She texts me a couple days later about coming over to her place to meet her dog but she sorta backs out and says she's sick. I don't really care much either way, so I go along with it (I probably should have gone over, but I don't want to date this girl and I was busy). She still is super weird even sober. We meet up later, but nothing happens (I was very drunk and my friend shared his radical political views, which I'm sure she didn't appreciate). We didn't text after that. Still bummed I didn't get to meet her dog.

Honestly, I think what happened was she thought I was hot, and was tipsy and horny. Not really anything special. I think the deep diving was good too, and we had enough of a connection she wanted to fuck on the first date. Sorry for the lack of details, it was a while ago, but I'll be happy to answer any questions you guys have. If you guys have any advice, I'd be happy to hear that too.

-V

 

[NotRealFakeDude]

Re: LR Weird bar, weird girl, good sex

What is your tinder routine? I recently got back into using tinder and i get a lot of matches, my profile is great, but not much results. I'm 19 and match with girls from 18-24 if that helps. setting up dates seems impossible.

Also, it was a good LR. It seems like you were pretty smooth and did a good job of leading and charming her. Good job of focusing on her during the conversation. You could have easily turned this into a fwb if you wanted.

 

[Verisimilitude]

Re: LR Weird bar, weird girl, good sex

My tinder routine...is really boring.

I use the pretty ____ opener and add in something different (how's your weekend, how'd you like traveling to X?) to be a little unique. I get her talking about something, travel is my go to. We talk about the same stuff like food, tv, etc. for a bit, then I ask her out. This usually happens in a day , sometimes less. You should be able to feel when you should ask her out, just like you should feel when you should move a girl. 7 messages each is a good number, but I think I could usually ask her out even earlier than that. You just need enough time to show her you're a normal everyday person and not a serial killer.

The best tip I have is ask her out first before you get her number!

I have no idea why this works, but I kept getting no responses when I asked for a girls number, but I nearly never get rejected if I ask them out first. I went from getting rejected 85% of the time to getting a yes 85% of the time. Once you ask them out, then just throw in some b.s. about how you like to text better and then she'll be happy to give you her number. I even had girls give me their number as soon as I asked them out.

Keep things simple too. You don't have to do a show and dance, you know she's already attracted to you. Just be normal like you would at a bar or any other approach, and then ask her out when the time is right.

The downside to this is you have to meet with her quickly. I'm not funny or clever over tinder message (I don't want to be funny), and there's only so much you can say over message/text. So if you have to wait a month, then it might not happen. But I think that will be the case no matter what you do. I'm better at connecting in person anyways.

Something I haven't tried for long term tindering is after you grab her number, to say, "Hey Idk about you, but texting after a while gets boring, would you be cool with talking more when we can both meet up?" It's a risky play. But I don't really see any other way to keep things going.

So:
1. Have an opener, but add in some unique element about her if you can (or just how's your weekend/day going)
2. Get her talking about an interest, keep it simple
3. ASK HER OUT FIRST
4. Grab her number
5. Meet quickly

Hope that helps! Let me know if you have any follow up questions.

-V

 

[Chase]

V-

Yep, sounds like she was ready to go from the get-go. Telling you it was hot when you spilled beer on her a few minutes in, etc.… Right away you know it’s already on her mind.

The incomplete sentences and her being weird, things like blaming “the air” when you both know it’s alcohol, etc., are often clues to a personality disorder of some sort or other. You’ll meet a disproportionate number of personality disordered women online, probably because they tend to have disproportionately high sex drives and online makes it easier for them to keep their pipelines filled.

Good to see you on here, hombre. Hope law school’s working out well.

Chase

 

[Verisimilitude]

Thanks Chase! It's great to hear from you and be back here, especially after being too busy with school to participate. This site has done a lot of good for a lot of people, including myself.