Wet Dreams

[Licker]

I came up with the title because of the wet dream I had last night.

Three hot babes and I, just ravishing each other in a red, heart-shaped bed, floating in outer space. Heavenly. Haha.

The effect of not masturbating and not watching porn is intense. It makes you sex-crazy. I have been doing it for years.
I can't focus on work sometimes because I get too horny. I close my eyes and see DD tits falling flat on my face.

That's very good, haha. Confirms at the very least I have not turned gay.

I have been procrastinating on meeting more women and putting it off due to apathy, laziness, and intellectual masturbation.

I need to get back in shape and break my dry spell. I realized I have to restart from scratch again if I want to be good at this. My game is nowhere near where it was before COVID hit. I've had some successes here and there since then, but very few. I want to make a comeback and go beyond.

There is a lot of stuff to learn and relearn. All this seduction terminology confuses me honestly.

I am a simple man. I like women a lot. Too much for my own good.

But I also don't seem to have any need for their attention or any yearning for a long-term relationship. To me, they are all like fellow good-natured human beings who I would like to have in bed and share a good time with.

I don't plan on marrying because I want to live the Charlie Sheen lifestyle. Chill, low effort, decent money, lots of chicks on rotation till I die haha. I told to my friends and they said it isn't possible. So I dumped them. Life's been peaceful since cutting out all the negative influences. I've burned through a lot of friends in my 25 years of life because they had limiting beliefs or cynical mindsets.

I didn't know about the Gunwitch method before reading Bloom's LRs and interviews, but I realized it was similar to what worked for me back in the day. I had developed it somewhat naturally. Extreme sexual state and intense eye contact. My game was mostly non-verbal, mixed in with innuendos, intrigue, and being an asshole sometimes.

To document it for posterity, I will try to explain it with an example. It's very hard to describe it in text. But Feynman said if you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it.

I was at a party last month at my neighbor's house. I was in the bar making myself a drink and beside me was my little brother - doing the same thing.

This chick whom I met at the same house party a few months ago walks in to get something. Last time, I had hit on her friend and that did not go anywhere after the first date. So I decided to hit on her this time. She was 8 years older than me, a bit cute, and slightly tomboy-ish.

Me (smiling): Hi.

Her (cheerful): Hey! How are you?

At that point, a switch activates within me - which is not in my control. I can't describe it, but I stop thinking from my brain and start thinking from my cock's perspective.

It's like shooting an invisible cum-shot from your dick straight onto her face. To put it simply, I feel sexual.

After a brief pause, I responded with, "I'm good. How are you?", with a softer, relaxed, and sexier voice tone. Like you are a total fuckboy. Haha.
She gets excited and replies, "Good! Very good!" with a toss of her hair and a bright smile.

My brother who witnessed this small encounter shot his eyebrows up. Though my eyes were locked on her, I noticed his reaction from my peripheral vision. This broke my state somewhat for the rest of the evening and I didn't make it past isolating her and closing in for a kiss.

After the party was over and I was back at my place, I asked him, did I do something weird? Your brows shot up. He replied, "Bro. What the fuck. How did you do that? You barely said a few words to her and got her this excited?". He was genuinely amazed. I realized I have some skills left intact.

Maybe that's what works for me, I don't know. I bought SeductionMMA yesterday and plan to go through it slowly to see if it vibes with me.

There are other goals as well - such as quitting excessive smoking, breaking my irregular sleeping patterns, and losing my slight beer belly, improving my writing skills so I can write that damn novel and get it published.

I've had little wins and I feel like I am not giving myself enough credit.

I lost a lot of winter fat by reducing my calorie intake, and look way slimmer. I saw a picture of mine from 4 months ago and, man my face went from being round to a bit square haha.

People ask if I go to the gym, which I personally hate - I used to do a lot of bodyweight training when working on Jeet-Kune-Do back when I was in college. Have got some muscle, but I prefer being lean-muscular rather than being Superman. I like food a lot too so I can't get that physique anyway haha.

Got a few blatant stares, a lot of hair play, and a few smiles from women whenever I go out. I did not find any good ones with steady lone-wolf traffic so far, but I feel like I should try more.

Well, at least my fundamentals haven't degraded too much.

I have set up an easy goal for myself. I usually go around chit-chatting people in my daily life. But lately, I haven't been talking to many strangers. Just the same ones I see every day. I decided that I'm gonna talk to at least 1 new person every day as a baby step. Just chit-chat. Not try to run any game, just to get my social fluids running back again.

Talked to this one girl who lives in my building as we were stuck in the lift together. She looked older, and had a cute lab. Opened her casually and turns out she had a pretty cool vibe. I thought she might be someone's wife - so did not try to flirt with her at all haha.

I realized I was putting too much pressure on myself, haha.

It feels good to be writing after so long too - I used to like writing back when I was a teen. It was therapeutic practically.

To small victories and big wins.

Cheers.

 

[alexlaguma]

Good to read bro. You're starting from a solid base.

If I can give one piece of advice ... get out there and do cold approaches. Build the social momentum. Within a few days you will feel fckin amazing.

The way I feel at the moment ... if I see an opportunity, I'm going for it. I'm going straight in. Its a great feeling to have. And you don't get that without doing the approaches.

Get out there and keep us updated !!

 

[Licker]

Just came back from a scouting/shopping trip.

Accountability
Talked to 2 new people on the following 2 days around my apartment just taking care of my goal. That was easy
One was a delivery boy who drives from 1.5 hours away to get shit delivered. And I thought my life was hard.
The next day was a retired military guy who teaches poor kids in the evenings. Pretty nice guy.

Scouts
Yesterday, I went to a shopping district that was supposed to be happening since I was a kid, but now it's dead as fuck. I could hardly see any traffic. After exploring for about 3-4 hours I gave up and sat on a pavement to chill and smoke. I got cold approached by a sales lady though. Haha, after some banter she left me because I did not satisfy the criteria for her program or whatever and I saw the same struggle in her eyes. She was desperately looking for lone wolves like me across the street.

Today, I went shopping in the most popular shopping mall near my place which is about 30 minutes away HOPING that I'd find some decent lone-wolf traffic, but alas. I counted the lone wolf traffic and I could count them on my fingers. I scouted the area for about 4 hours and ended up getting a drink and food and came back. I was hoping to drop in Straydog's shopping opener on some chick just to field test, but there was no lone chick near me when I was shopping. And most of them were not even borderline-cute so I could drop my standards. Again lots of couples, children, some high-school kids, some mixed groups, girl-groups, guy-groups, etc.

I did notice that you get a sort of reality distortion thing going on when coming here or on GC and reading all this stuff - especially about fundamentals. But when you go out in the real world and see all the other men (and sometimes women) have bad as fuck fundamentals you realize you are pretty much better than most of the population. I think I saw about a handful of guys (infact even chicks) who looked cool or had any good style. And a lot of couples were a classic example of a dumpy guy with a chick who was better looking than him. There you go redpill boys haha.

Learning SMMA
There are three keys, namely:
1. Social Frame
2. Emotional Stimulation
3. Sexual Arousal & Escalation

I did not understand it 100% as it was my first time going through it, but I got the gist. Universal understandings was awesome and it made me realize how I should not judge myself based on a sole failed interaction. Gun also sounds like a pretty fun and cool guy.

There are is a Learning It audio which goes over how to learn it. I will go through it today and decide on my mission for the next week.

@alexlaguma Thanks for the words of encouragement brother! I used to approach back in my college town a lot but that fell off due to COVID hitting during my junior year and us getting sent back to our homes to do online classes. Then I sort of focused on work after graduating and had a few successes here and there, dialed down learning game and got rusty.

I'm back in my hometown since winter, spending time with my family before I leave for California in late July, and the logistics are shitty. Now it's like I have to SCOUT to find chicks. Back then, it was like I used to walk out of my door and say which girl is gonna get fucked today haha. There was just an abundance of hotties walking around alone and ripe to be approached.
Groups I was never good at - well because my style was directly infusing raw sexual tones right from the opener. I always get cockblocked even if my target likes me.
But I still think there is merit in approaching because I want to be hot and warmed up from Day 1 when I land.

 

[Licker]

Went around scouting today again nearby to get a feel of the neighborhood and surrounding neighborhood. Pretty lonely and not a lot of foot traffic. Had a pleasant drive though.

Have to travel a lot farther than I thought to scout and make some approaches I guess. Ugh.

Saw one cutie when I was on my way back and shopping for some ice cream. She was flitting about from one place to another in a shopping frenzy. Made brief eye contact with her when I first saw her. Thought of saying hello

She walked as fast as she could run though. As she crossed me to her next shopping destination, I almost had my hand up and was about to wave and stop her, but chickened out at the last moment. She passed me by in an instant. Haha

I went through the learning it and decided to make my own goals to suit my circumstances.
I planned to approach 5 girls per week for the next month or so.

So feel free to berate me if I don't.

 

[alexlaguma]

Good updates bro. Well done on getting out there.

Sounds like you've got it rough in terms of approaching opportunities ... that sucks. Keep exploring new places though ... all about getting your numbers up and building social momentum, so that when you are in California you don't even think ... approaching just happens naturally for you.

What is SMMA by the way?

 

[Licker]

What is SMMA by the way?

Seduction MMA. It's a system/model created by gunwitch and used by Bloom, who was seducer of the month in April. Check out his LRs. They are awesome. After reading it I discovered what gunwitch method was and what smma was. I thought it was similar to how my style is.

 

[Licker]

It has been less than 2 weeks since I moved to California. First week I stayed with my cousin (in the suburbs). and he helped sort out my logistics near campus - which luckily is in downtown and near where all the action is. I figured this city has lack of mass transit options like New York, but luckily I got a place near my campus which is straight across the road, and within a walk of 30 minutes there are bars, cafes, etc.

I haven't been approaching much, but I am going around chit chatting with people and flirting with women whenever I can. Now, those flirtations are not leading anywhere because I am unsure how to close them. They were mostly hired guns like waitresses, clerks, and bartenders. But I get positive responses.

I am trying to get my shit together and explore as and when I can. I'm still trying to figure out stuff out. It's pretty dead out here on campus because people are back home in the summer or doing internships. A girl I talked to in campus did tell me though it's gonna be like ants crawling all over once the semester starts (which is in 2 weeks) - so hopefully I will be able to make a cool friend or two I can hang out regularly with soon.

Anyways, onto the FR.

FR/FU (Night)
Monday, August 5

Less than two weeks after landing in America and in California, I got a recommendation from a bouncer the previous week I went out that this is THE place where you can pull ass from. I decide to check it out. I wasn't feeling super well. Had an upset stomach from eating too much outside food. But I was bored and they have a live Jazz band playing every Monday. I thought I will at least have some fun.

I dress up and walk in the bar after about 30 minutes of walk at around 9.30 PM. There is a jazz band playing right out in the front. There is a bar stretching all the way down to the end. Pretty small venue I would say - you could walk back up and down pretty quick. Most people are around in the front, near the band, and as soon as I walked in, I notice two blond girls stroke their hair back. They were cute and young, but man they were right where the crowd was, and if I approached them, it would be under a spotlight. I discarded them and went to the back. Took a mental note to open them if I find them again.

Made some small talk with the bartender. He asked me if I had popped out yet? I didn't understand the slang but thought he meant if I got a drink yet. I said no, and he asked me what do I want. Told him give me the strongest cocktail you got and if he could bring it to my table. The only empty table I found was in the back corner of the bar. Pretty bad choice but I decided to sit there anyway, just to observe and enjoy the music.

The crowd was mixed. Couples, female groups, guy groups, single guys like me but very few. I think there were single, lone female wolves too, but I don't recall exactly. The waitress was sort of cute and curvy though.

Beckoned her over and asked her I could smoke in here somewhere. She said no, but you could go outside. Go outside?, cool. I responded back and she left.

Sometime later, I go outside to have a smoke and meet her on the way. Tell her I am leaving my coat and drink on my table and just going to have a smoke outside, implying that she watch my drink. She nods three or four times in recognition. I have a smoke and just casually say hey how's it going man to another bartender who was chilling outside. He says all good and nods, and I go back in.

After a while, finished my drink and I went to the bar again and waited for the bartender to come around. The waitress came up and asked me if I needed anything. Told her I want one more of this, pointing to my empty whiskey glass. She asked what is it? I shrug and I say I don't know, that guy recommended it to me. She leans forward to smell it. I just push it forward, more to her lips. A bit playfully.

She smiles and gets nervous. "I'm sorry, I just wanted to smell to find out." I laugh and tell her it's okay. She now gets what I want and I go back at my table and sit, and she brings me my drink.

The bar starts to get a little empty after an hour and the male: female ratio is now way better. It's in my favor. I go out and sit in the middle of the bar. The two blondes are gone sadly. But there is a bachelorette party female group behind where I sit. Bunch of 30 year olds.

I saw plenty of guys hit on these four girls over the night. The to-be bride was wearing a beauty-pageant like sash, with the word BRIDE on it. The other three were friends. Even the bartenders in their slick outfits were doing it lol.

Two of them came up to the bar to order a drink, and I just said "hello" casually. She said hello back glancing, but not looking me in the eye, kinda reserved, kinda awkward and shy. Let's call her HB_Single. Bitch shield? Auto-rejection? Maybe. I didn't care much, and I smile to myself and go back to vibing with the music. We will get to her later in the report.

They get their drinks and leave. A few minutes later the waitress comes back with her bag on her shoulder. I ask if she is going back home? She says yeah, and I tell her to be safe. She kinda half closes her eyes like she felt shy and says thank you like she liked it. She comes next to my side and talks with the bartender about work stuff and then talks to me, "do you like it?" pointing at my drink.

I say yeah, and she recommends another drink. Says It's pretty similar but a little different. I'm like what's so different about it? She says it's just as strong but a little different. I say alright I will try it. I ask her to tell the bartender what I want. She tells him and leaves after a while.

Maybe I could have followed her outside and closed her? I didn't know how to close her right in front of her co-workers. That seemed like too much effort though.

A while later, another chick from the bachelorette party comes and sits right next to the empty seat on my left. There were more empty seats besides me but she sits there. I thought maybe she is there to order a drink and it has nothing to do with me.

Let's call her HB_Married. And I notice her fixing her earring/strands of her hair. I was zoned out and felt some anxiety. Nothing major, but a little hesitation. I size her up a little and she looks here and there as if looking past me. I follow her eyes as she scans the environment, and just generally nod my head to the music.

I breathe in for a second and tell myself I am just gonna open her. That's it, that's all I have to do.

So I open her. "So, how's your night going?", with a sexual undertone.
She smiles, leans into me a little and says it's going good. She's cheerful. She asks me if I like Jazz music a lot. I say yeah, what about you?
She responds Oh it's my first time in here, do you come here often?
I respond, yeah sometimes.
She's like yeah you are out here by yourself. As if she was impressed. I respond, yeah, what about you? Big group of friends?
She tells me it's her friend's bachelorette party. I tell her she should ask for free shots from the bar.

I made a mistake then I think, I broke circle and fuck around with the bartender. "Hey, it's her bachelorette party", pointing towards my back, "Could you give them free shots?". Dude is looking at me confused. "And if you are giving them free shots, I'm with them".

She laughs out loud. I laugh along.

I don't remember how exactly it happened after that, but there was a silence and maybe she ordered her drink and said I will be right back. "Sure", I said and got back to vibing with the music. After a while, I move spots again and closer to the front where the band is. I pay my tab as the band had concluded for the night, and I was feeling drunk. In control, but I had four strong drinks.

I walk towards the restroom, and sure the bartenders are talking to those bachelorrete party girls, but HB_Married wasn't with them. When I get there, all doors are locked. I wait and notice two doors open. Out from one HB_Married comes out with her friend and from the male restroom, two girls walk out.

I look at those two girls like WTF and start laughing out loud. They laugh with me. Then HB_Married notices me and says, He's still here.

I don't know but something in my gut tells me HB_Married wanted to fuck my brains out or maybe I'm projecting.

Anyways, I walk inside the washroom as I'm tired, ignoring HB_Married and piss myself out.
I finally walk out of the venue, and I don't even look at the party girls.

I have a final smoke outside and some dude comes and asks me for a lighter. I give it to him and we chat. I notice he's lighting up a joint and I take a drag or two of it. Now I'm high as well. He gives me a fist bump and leaves. He's also new in town - moved in 3 months back.

Remember HB_Single? She is out there smoking. I chill and smoke near her, and suddenly a hobo comes out of nowhere flailing his arms across. She recoils and so do I.
After he passes I look towards her kinda like WTF and smile. She eye codes back and then opens me, "So how's your night going?".

Her walls are down now.

"It's alright. And you?"

I turn towards her and we start talking. I think I should have leaned back and made her lock in to me instead of me locking her in.

I don't remember the exact chain of dialogue that went between us but I will try to summarize my attempt at closing her. I was drunk plus high too, so now I'm relying purely on instinct. It was fun, slightly flirty. I tried to build tension but I guess a bit carried away and was goofy and laughed a lot.

She told me it's her sisters bachelorette party and that she got to take care of her. I responded with something like "So I can't steal you for the night then?". She's like no, she got to take her care of her.

We got to know each other a bit, where you are from? what do you work, etc. I asked if she liked her public healthcare job, she said yeah, and then somehow the conversation steered towards her age.

"well you hardly look older than 25" I said.

"Thank you . but I am actually 36, I feel old."

I told her I could make her feel young with a smirk. She bends over and starts laughing. I couldn't help it, I start laughing too.
Unfortunate cause it broke the sexual tension. "Oh my godd! You are craazzzzy!"

"I know", I replied with some cockiness. "Are you single?"

"I am single. But I am not looking for anyone right now. Are you single?"

"Yeah. Recently."

"Oh my god, what happened?! did you break up?"

"Yeah I just moved here." And then I notice a tattoo on her forearm. I point towards it and she shows it to me. I use this chance to break the touch barrier and grab her arm to inspect it.

"That's cool. What does it mean?"

"Oh it's something me and my best friend got together."

"Oh that's it?"

So far, I don't think a pull is in sight. She is giving me verbal resistance but I'm persisting as much as I could. The whole group party dynamic also looks unpromising. I might have to stay at the venue even until later and party with them a lot longer.

I throw my hail mary attempt at getting her number.

"Well can I get your number then and ask you out sometime?" This on reflection was wrong. I should have asked it on a high point instead of when the conversation was beginning to end. Also the wording was very stock. Should have seeded a date idea, and then said let's exchange contacts. This was very low odds. But I was improvising.

"I don't give my number out." She replied with some hesitation. "I could give you my instagram though."

"Oh that's okay." I take it as a soft-rejection and was nonchalant about it. I should have maybe replied.

She excuses herself "I have to go inside." I told her sure, and then ubered back home.

Good thing I didn't pull, because as soon as I walked in, I rushed to the toilet and puked my guts out. Sat in a daze for about 5 minutes and then pulled myself up and off to bed.

--- End of FR ---

Just thought dumping.

Need to increase the amount of sets I am opening per week. Opening a few like this every week is maybe a 2 or a 3 on the effort scale (GWM).

I should head out to day game instead.

Since I am on a low momentum and going through a bit of culture shock and adjustment, I will keep it basic and simple to just GWM.

One good thing is I see a lot of hotties as soon as I walk out of the front door and sprawl around the campus. Logistics are way better here.

 

[Licker]

Yesterday, I was going to meet an old friend I know since school in a 1 hour away. I had some work in the administrative office. Thought I will complete that and go meet my friend.

On my way, I see this girl on the crosswalk saying bye to her friend as we walked across. I couldn't think how to approach a moving target in the moment and I was in a hurry.

I reach the building first and was waiting in line when she opens me by asking how she could a student ID card. I tell her how and she goes for it.

I get my shit done and walk out, just chilling in the shade before moving on. She comes out of the building door and I open her as soon as she comes close.

I ask her if she got her card. She said yeah, thanks. We start walking together.

She wasn't a stunner but sort of cute, and I was down to make a female friend. We get to know each other a little bit.

She's got a fiance of 7 years and she is here to do her master's. An international student just like me and from the same country.

We get along. Ask each other's names. Shoot the shit a little bit. I helped her with figuring out directions and told her I could drop her to the library since it's on my way.

She says thanks for escorting me. In a sort of shy, nervous way.

Confusion. That's what was going on in my mind. Didn't she have a fiance? I thought maybe she's nervous because it's her first day.

We trade some incidental touch and I take her hand for a while as I get her name.

On our way, I act like a guide. Show her all the different buildings and she's curious and asking questions too. I tell her how to be safe at night and stay away from the hobos. She's appreciative.

She's again like thank you for escorting me.

I am getting confused even more.

When we reach the building where they do mental health stuff, she asks me what it's about. I tell her and joke she would maybe need it after getting married for a year.

She's like probably in 1 month.

Again, confusion. Looks like she isn't super happy with it.

I drop her in the library, and give her the instructions to get her library card on her request.

I didn't know how to close in the moment without it coming as unnatural, so I was ready to just move on.

For the last time, she bends a little and thanks me nervously for helping her.

I smiled and told her no worries and was out of the library, trying to get a scooter outside.

She comes out after a while, we make eye contact and she tells me she got her library card.

I smile, tell her great and she walks up to me and asks me for my number with a if you don't mind at the end. Lol

We exchange contacts. She tells me it's her WhatsApp number as well. and I ask her to help me with something. She complies.

She tells me I'll be in touch. I'm like yeah sure I am bored anyway, let's hangout soon.

She tilts her head and looks at me kinda with a sly glance and says sure.

I'm confused but I go with the flow. We part ways and she is like let's be in touch.

I smile and say sure.

I went about my business and texted her on my way to meet my friend about 2-3 hours later.

Me: Hi. Nice to have met
Her: Likewise
Me: I am with a friend in the next city. Will be back during next week. Lets catch up then.
Her: Ah ok

I think she is disappointed with me. Or I am being cocky. Haha

Let's see if we can close this.

 

[Licker]

Approached one girl with GWM in night game. She ate it up. Though she already gave me an IOI before I opened.

I got one IOI from a mid 40s blonde in a red dress as she passed by but I was tired and unsure how to stop a moving target passing by you.

Most guys are uncalibrated and cannot read how compliant she is before moving on the next step. All night, I sat in field just observing the venue and how guys here hit. The prospects were slim. Not a lot to fish for since it was mostly a 35+ Latin night with couples and a few singles (8-10). A lot more single men than women.

She was just happened to be around my friend, who I had just caught up an hour after with after he got drunk and left our table to hit on chicks at the bar.

All night I was just chilling by myself at our table, head bobbing to music.

About closing time, I open her with a grin sort of like this,

"Are you done with all the lame guys hitting on you all night?"

Her face lights up and she preens on the open. Unfortunately she didn't speak much English and it was getting hard to talk with the music.

Meanwhile, my buddy got himself into a mess with the bartender and security guy. I left her almost right after the open and de-escalated and left.

It was a crazy night. Terrible hangover.
I'm going to stick to day game for a while.