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I've caught myself doing this quite a bit during cold approaches and I'm starting to get numbers and dates now so I don't want to do this on dates.
Sometimes I worry too much about it which is perhaps the problem. I notice that I generally succumb to it when I start thinking about it.
But I don't even have any desire to steal glances when I don't think about it.
It doesn't just apply to down a girl's shirt or up her skirt.
She could be wearing jeans and have a shirt that is just short enough such that I can see the skin above the edge of her jeans. I thought this was cute but it triggers the anxiety in me which makes me start thinking about skin.
I would imagine that there could be 2 different categories of tips perhaps:
1. Based on some practical steps I can take to physically make sure that I don't steal glances
2. Some changes to mindset that I can make
Couldn't come up with the terminology to find any relevant posts through the search engine. If there are prior threads on this, would really appreciate if someone can direct me to them.
What I'm thinking of is:
Accept that I can have from mediocre to severe waves of anxiety come back to bite me. Every time it comes back, I'll just say to myself "Stop". This is not who I am. Sometimes it may happen but that does not mean I am at the very centre a person who even likes to steal glances (I really find it pointless).
Listen to the girl because she wants to be listened to and make an effort to enjoy her personality
In any case, would appreciate ideas from anyone!
Y
Sometimes I worry too much about it which is perhaps the problem. I notice that I generally succumb to it when I start thinking about it.
But I don't even have any desire to steal glances when I don't think about it.
It doesn't just apply to down a girl's shirt or up her skirt.
She could be wearing jeans and have a shirt that is just short enough such that I can see the skin above the edge of her jeans. I thought this was cute but it triggers the anxiety in me which makes me start thinking about skin.
I would imagine that there could be 2 different categories of tips perhaps:
1. Based on some practical steps I can take to physically make sure that I don't steal glances
2. Some changes to mindset that I can make
Couldn't come up with the terminology to find any relevant posts through the search engine. If there are prior threads on this, would really appreciate if someone can direct me to them.
What I'm thinking of is:
Accept that I can have from mediocre to severe waves of anxiety come back to bite me. Every time it comes back, I'll just say to myself "Stop". This is not who I am. Sometimes it may happen but that does not mean I am at the very centre a person who even likes to steal glances (I really find it pointless).
Listen to the girl because she wants to be listened to and make an effort to enjoy her personality
In any case, would appreciate ideas from anyone!
Y
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