What do you respond when girls say "this is friendly, right? I am not looking for a date!"

[kristian]

At least my intentions seem clearer, which makes girls know what I want without telling them. Lately, I've encountered this a lot more, especially from social circles. There might be other guys and million other reasons why she says this, but it's getting annoying.

So what do you guys respond to when she says something like this? I usually say "I am not a boyfriend guy anyways. Just wanna hang out."

Any suggestions that both cover pre-selection and makes me cancel our meeting, don't wanna seem like I am ghosting her, and don't want to agree to her frame as well. My philosophy seems to replace them and not think about them at the spot - but I want to do that in a way that we both save face. We will be meeting up since were in the same circles.

Any ideas?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@kristian dude! Ignore their silly little words and look at their actions. If they've agreed to meet up with you they've agreed to meet up with you.... if they say this in front of people it's to save face and cover ASD but doesn't mean she won't fuck. If you're on a tight social circle or you're clearly beneath her on the totem pole this will be harder and she might hold true but date doesn't mean relationship or sex, hanging out doesn't mean sex but it's an opportunity.

Tell her hey it's just drinks/coffee/walk it'll be fun. You're not complying to her frame and you're unfazed and persistent. You're painting a fun picture and getting her out casually for a low pressure meet. If you get physical, it just happened.

Alternatively flip the script and mess with her words, you're looking for a date?! You can buy me lunch if you want... you're looking for a date? I only thought we were getting drinks.... tease her for it, your social value will go up, she'll try and qualify herself to you in protest or she'll play along. It'll be a lot more fun and she'll be turned on dude

 

[Skjöldr]

Everything @Fluxcapacitor said and i might add something i do personally: Disqualifying myself from "date"

The term "Date" sounds like formality and hollywood romance. https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/should-you-stop-calling-it-a-date.23488/

 

[kristian]

Everything @Fluxcapacitor said and i might add something i do personally: Disqualifying myself from "date"

The term "Date" sounds like formality and hollywood romance. https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/should-you-stop-calling-it-a-date.23488/

I never suggest "a date" or anything, just "hanging out and grab a drink". However, it seems like I'm getting slotted in that category, even when I ramp up my flirting, sexual projection. It might be that, but I don't know.

 

[Fuck This]

"if it was a friends activity I would have invited your boyfriend"
" Is that what you say to get out of paying for my adult services?"
"So should I cancel the couples massage I had planned?"
"just promise you won't fall madly in love with me and stalk me after."

Some of the Responses to blow her off or push some buttons.

If you set a romantic tone from the get go there is no question about your intent and you don't get questions like that. It is tough with social circle girls. You might need to prime them a little more to seed the romantic viewpoint. Sometimes that takes some close dancing and kino. But usually Social circle girls I'd date are second degree....Friends of friends. Those first degree friends are kinda off limits.