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ron back with the fire! Such basic yet oddly overlooked and existential questions.
I suppose it matters what you want from her, or she from you.
Some women want to fuck you once and throw you away like used tissue. It ain't a bad life.
If you're talking about a typical relationship, i think they want strength of character, dominace, leadership, kindness, drive etc.
Sometimes i look at women and i see in them just an ocean of ambivalence and uncertainty. in my relationships they've been looking for that comfortable, solid landmass that holds against ever shifting emotional landscape. Some of them are like flowers that want to bloom and you gotta be that sunshine. Some of them want buttstuff because they're allergic to latex condoms and that's all you have so it's 'safer' nevermind
More broadly speaking, this entire game works bc we're all out to breed. i've always seen it as a super fucked up and weird dance on the way to healthy, stable children, bottomline. The part of us that sees but does not think wants that.
I suppose it matters what you want from her, or she from you.
Some women want to fuck you once and throw you away like used tissue. It ain't a bad life.
If you're talking about a typical relationship, i think they want strength of character, dominace, leadership, kindness, drive etc.
Sometimes i look at women and i see in them just an ocean of ambivalence and uncertainty. in my relationships they've been looking for that comfortable, solid landmass that holds against ever shifting emotional landscape. Some of them are like flowers that want to bloom and you gotta be that sunshine. Some of them want buttstuff because they're allergic to latex condoms and that's all you have so it's 'safer' nevermind
More broadly speaking, this entire game works bc we're all out to breed. i've always seen it as a super fucked up and weird dance on the way to healthy, stable children, bottomline. The part of us that sees but does not think wants that.
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Probably the simplest answer is leadership. The man leads and the woman follows.
This is so vague. Lead her where? In what context? Lead her through life? Or lead her through the jungle?
I am looking to see the big picture of what a relationship is all about. My notion is that it's helping each other succeed in life in general. But she and I have to be on the same paradigm.
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This could be a deep topic. The short answer is, women want men who have masculine traits. You don’t necessarily “provide” these things, you embody them.
that’s why @ElderPrice mentioned leadership. And @Jan mentioned knowing where you want to go is an important part of that.
There is plenty more to masculinity and relationships with women, like I said this could be a deep discussion considering the way you posed your question.
To give you advice, just read up more from girlschase and meet more women. Don’t worry about this question, but continue pondering it. Don’t let it stop you from gaining experience, because ultimately that is your goal and the way to true understanding.
There are also answers to your question in many articles, especially Chase’s older articles on the main GC site.
that’s why @ElderPrice mentioned leadership. And @Jan mentioned knowing where you want to go is an important part of that.
There is plenty more to masculinity and relationships with women, like I said this could be a deep discussion considering the way you posed your question.
To give you advice, just read up more from girlschase and meet more women. Don’t worry about this question, but continue pondering it. Don’t let it stop you from gaining experience, because ultimately that is your goal and the way to true understanding.
There are also answers to your question in many articles, especially Chase’s older articles on the main GC site.
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From a seducers perspective we are sex provides exchanging sex for sex, no exchanging sex for material things... please read this post is crucial to understand the fundamentals of what a seducer provides:
The 2 types of men when it comes to seduction - The Skills Method
There are 2 types of men when it comes to seduction. One is successful the other one is not, one is a lover the other one a provider.
www.theskillsmethod.com
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Start with the foundations. You provide her with orgasms - and/or any kinks she wants and you enjoy. It goes from there.
Where it goes from there really depends where she's at in her life (and where you are). Some women have their own direction and certainly don't need a man to provide it. Some want a diversity of excitement. Some want a diversity of validation. Some want a connection. Others want other things.
But don't become a performing seal. @POB is right: a lot of this is also about what she can provide you. IMO, it's a two-way street or else it's dysfunctional. If the latter (i.e. dysfunctional), then it's short-term, and largely sex-oriented only. Which is fine until personalities get in the way.
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But there are assumptions in that question itself. It seems to preclude the notion that there is a wide variety of dynamics and relationships you can have with other people.
So I say to ron there are many types.
Whatever the flavor, probably a more frequent or successful variety is where a man is 'dominant' or a 'leader' in interacting. I guess I can share my thoughts about that.
So when you're meeting women, 'leadership' just means taking them through whatever interaction you want to have (and that she wants to have, too). You want to be intimate with her? How does that happen? You lead her through the journey. Make sure her emotions are on point for it. Find the easiest and best way to get her to sex. You generally need her to feel the correct things and have a place to take her. Going through those steps together is 'leadership' unlees she's taking care of all the logistics, which is not super common.
If she's your girlfriend, you're usually deciding where to take her and what to do with her. You're usually initiating for sex. You're usually defining the status of the relationship, her happiness in it, and how far it will go. One thing you might quickly learn is that when you need something done, it's usually done best when you take point on it, and use her help.
Those are just examples i can think of, and there's a wide variety.
It isn't hard to be a leader, or dominant. I bet it emerges naturally, over time, as you deal with women and their nature. Go discover what a shitty, wishy washy day you can have if you let a woman be in charge of it. That will inspire leadership in a hurry.
So I say to ron there are many types.
Whatever the flavor, probably a more frequent or successful variety is where a man is 'dominant' or a 'leader' in interacting. I guess I can share my thoughts about that.
So when you're meeting women, 'leadership' just means taking them through whatever interaction you want to have (and that she wants to have, too). You want to be intimate with her? How does that happen? You lead her through the journey. Make sure her emotions are on point for it. Find the easiest and best way to get her to sex. You generally need her to feel the correct things and have a place to take her. Going through those steps together is 'leadership' unlees she's taking care of all the logistics, which is not super common.
If she's your girlfriend, you're usually deciding where to take her and what to do with her. You're usually initiating for sex. You're usually defining the status of the relationship, her happiness in it, and how far it will go. One thing you might quickly learn is that when you need something done, it's usually done best when you take point on it, and use her help.
Those are just examples i can think of, and there's a wide variety.
It isn't hard to be a leader, or dominant. I bet it emerges naturally, over time, as you deal with women and their nature. Go discover what a shitty, wishy washy day you can have if you let a woman be in charge of it. That will inspire leadership in a hurry.