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I know Tinder game that you should get a date set within 10 messages or so. Some girls are a little skittish though, and say they want to talk for a while. What's the move when this happens?
Move on. There are greener girls.I know Tinder game that you should get a date set within 10 messages or so. Some girls are a little skittish though, and say they want to talk for a while. What's the move when this happens?
Was basically going to say this exact same thingMove on. There are greener girls.
If you really are stuck on her say “cool, what dyou want to know?”… it likely won’t go anywhere.
A girl that’s interested and looking to get laid/meet you won’t ask you that as it kills the momentum.
I know Tinder game that you should get a date set within 10 messages or so. Some girls are a little skittish though, and say they want to talk for a while. What's the move when this happens?
dont go by amount of messages, girls are not comfortable that is why they are asking to get to know you or will flake........ Go by the structure open>banter/flirt>qualify>move off app(serves as compliance)> open off app or get open>banter>at high point of interaction>soft close> only if soft close positive>hard close...I know Tinder game that you should get a date set within 10 messages or so. Some girls are a little skittish though, and say they want to talk for a while. What's the move when this happens?
The best answer I have is answering "I'm looking for this" and sending the music video *I want it all* by QueenWhat I do when they say that is propose a video call on the app. Low pressure, and you get to talk face to face. When they are genuinely uninterested, they will unmatch/ignore you. But it's fairly common that they are just on the fence and will accept the video call. If they do, you just ask them out on a high point during the call
The one I really hate on online apps is "what are you looking for ?" after like 3 messages. If you say "relationship", you're weak/boyfriend candidate. If you say "casual", you're a fuckboy. If you're evasive or answer with a joke, they insist and you have to qualify. If you call out their lack of tact, they unmatch. The best I found so far is to say something like " i have no expectations, hard to know before we meet" and it's still low odds. I'm sure most girls who do this are just uncalibrated and do it to filter "fuckboys" aka guys looking for hookups but pretending to be interested in LTR... as if actual fuckboys would give them an honest answer lol. It's annoying
"you seem cool/fun/interesting, let's (grab a drink, coffee, etc) and see if we vibe"What do you mean by "qualify" in Tinder terms? How would that be done
she’s not interested. move onSo I said we should get to know each other in person and it's easier, and she says she prefers to get comfortable first. She seems like a big nerd (which itself is not a problem). I just have no indication of how long this will take
100% agree here with @Skills. If you keep moving on to the next target, it is not a game anymore. It is a number game. You have to learn how to jump off the hurdles. Always calibrate to the girl.dont go by amount of messages, girls are not comfortable that is why they are asking to get to know you or will flake........ Go by the structure open>banter/flirt>qualify>move off app(serves as compliance)> open off app or get open>banter>at high point of interaction>soft close> only if soft close positive>hard close...
If you go by structure properly you will not get the get to know objection.... The other alternative burn a lot of leads and look for greenish girls but even with those is meh strategy...
The one I really hate on online apps is "what are you looking for ?" after like 3 messages. If you say "relationship", you're weak/boyfriend candidate. If you say "casual", you're a fuckboy. If you're evasive or answer with a joke, they insist and you have to qualify. If you call out their lack of tact, they unmatch. The best I found so far is to say something like " i have no expectations, hard to know before we meet" and it's still low odds. I'm sure most girls who do this are just uncalibrated and do it to filter "fuckboys" aka guys looking for hookups but pretending to be interested in LTR... as if actual fuckboys would give them an honest answer lol. It's annoying
Sounds great, I will try that next timeThese are normal questions that you will get online and you should have a high odds prepared answer to destroy that type of question...."to be 100% honest with you, i am looking for a cool girl, that she is easy to get along with, good connection and amazing sex" ... You need to keep it ambiguous, you can even say if after i get to know her she has does quality i am open for a relationship with the right girl.... (does not matter as long as you are fucking her, just you are not committing but keeping it open)....
Whatever she respond you say "i am glad we are on the same page" and take control by just curious, and throw a qualifying question??/ such as what are your 2 best qualities that have nothing to do with your appearance??
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Sounds great, I will try that next timeThanks
I gave the topic a re-read and I agree with this, but how are you supposed to build compliance over text, or even worse, on a dating app chat ?@Maurice , any time you are thinking of moving on from the lead, read this theardAttraction - Can it be Generated? - An Introduction to Compliance-Based Game
It's just 2020 and you guys are still having the same dumb discussion as 2002. I disagree here. Yes newbies where rationalizing back then. This has always been the case. But what seems to be the new trend is that newbies tend to be "VERY SURE OF THEMSELVES". And of course, they never ask...www.skilledseducer.com
didn't i say this.... I guarntee you this is what happening:you may not have built enough comfort with her