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DISCLAIMER: My relationship is different from a lot of peoples
Hey slb,
First of all welcome to the boards, I'm currently in a long term relationship with a gorgeous Spanish woman. No relationship is easy but, it has been a very engaging relationship because of the relationship dynamics I established at the beginning. I also screened my girlfriend harder than any other girl before for because I knew what I wanted. It's awesome because I'm sleeping with an amazing woman, I have someone to go out to places with, and to work with to achieve something amazing in life. As good as my girlfriend looks I don't put her on a pedestal because truth be told there's always going to be a better looking woman out there.
I could give you laundry list about how awesome my girlfriend is but I'm not. Because my taste could be completely different than yours. I find my relationship new and exciting everyday because I challenge it to be that way. Sure my girlfriend is attractive, but that's just one side of her. I've looking to know all to know about her.
Another time,
Just Dave
sibkhaow said:
DISCLAIMER: My relationship is different from a lot of peoples
Hey slb,
First of all welcome to the boards, I'm currently in a long term relationship with a gorgeous Spanish woman. No relationship is easy but, it has been a very engaging relationship because of the relationship dynamics I established at the beginning. I also screened my girlfriend harder than any other girl before for because I knew what I wanted. It's awesome because I'm sleeping with an amazing woman, I have someone to go out to places with, and to work with to achieve something amazing in life. As good as my girlfriend looks I don't put her on a pedestal because truth be told there's always going to be a better looking woman out there.
I could give you laundry list about how awesome my girlfriend is but I'm not. Because my taste could be completely different than yours. I find my relationship new and exciting everyday because I challenge it to be that way. Sure my girlfriend is attractive, but that's just one side of her. I've looking to know all to know about her.
Another time,
Just Dave
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Hey sib,
There's some research establishing that looks and intelligence are linked; essentially, the most successful males have generally been of above average intelligence, and the position, power, and wealth achieved through their success allowed them to take mates of above average attractiveness. Since women are attracted most to signs of intelligence in men (confidence, humor, resourcefulness, ability) while men are attracted most to signs of beauty in women (youth, facial symmetry, hip-waist ratio, butt/breast size), it makes sense that more attractive women and more intelligent men tend to end up together, leading to a mixing of attractive / intelligent genes (might also be why you see a lot of ugly dumb people, but not a lot of BEAUTIFUL dumb people).
So you'll tend to find beauty and brains pretty closely related, despite many mainstream stereotypes portraying this not to be the case.
More attractive people also tend to be happier and more positive as well, and more confident / ambitious.
Generally speaking, you'll find that attractive women have fewer insecurities, more self-assurance, high intelligence, higher drive and ambition, and fewer problems with jealousy, possessiveness, or fear of being "left" than less attractive women do. There are exceptions - e.g., the beautiful girl who went through some rough stuff and has a host of insecurities now - but most of the time, it's just better dating beautiful girls.
I'll differentiate here between "beautiful" and "hot," though. If you look at what most guys call "hot," it isn't beauty, per se; it's a girl getting done up with makeup and hair and nails and clothes and heels. You can look at what most guys call "a really hot girl" and zero in on just her face and body and realize that she isn't actually intrinsically all that attractive; she just makes herself look very sexually appealing. Most actually beautiful girls stay away from looking "hot;" they'll usually take care of their hair, and they'll usually dress well, sometimes even sexy, but usually somewhat conservatively. "Hot" girls who show off a lot and place a lot of emphasis on flash and appearance tend to be relationship nightmares, as they're focused more on appearances and less on the whole person (both themselves and you); they can be as insecure (or worse) than unattractive women who aren't trying to be hot].
Beautiful girls who are more conservative / natural in their dress tend to be more focused on their development as a person, and lack the insecurities that "hot" girls have. They're the ones who surprise you with their looks - you knew she was pretty, but with her clothes off, suddenly you realize she's way more attractive than that "hot" girl you pulled last week.
Those are the two kinds of attractive: "hot," where the girl tends to be insecure and focused on her looks, and a nightmare in a relationship (high maintenance); and "beautiful," where a girl is simply naturally attractive, and knows it, so rather than try and draw a lot of attention to herself as the "hot" girls do, she plays it more conservatively / with greater subtlety, so as to attract the "right" kinds of men rather than the "wrong" kinds.
Chase
sibkhaow said:
There's some research establishing that looks and intelligence are linked; essentially, the most successful males have generally been of above average intelligence, and the position, power, and wealth achieved through their success allowed them to take mates of above average attractiveness. Since women are attracted most to signs of intelligence in men (confidence, humor, resourcefulness, ability) while men are attracted most to signs of beauty in women (youth, facial symmetry, hip-waist ratio, butt/breast size), it makes sense that more attractive women and more intelligent men tend to end up together, leading to a mixing of attractive / intelligent genes (might also be why you see a lot of ugly dumb people, but not a lot of BEAUTIFUL dumb people).
So you'll tend to find beauty and brains pretty closely related, despite many mainstream stereotypes portraying this not to be the case.
More attractive people also tend to be happier and more positive as well, and more confident / ambitious.
Generally speaking, you'll find that attractive women have fewer insecurities, more self-assurance, high intelligence, higher drive and ambition, and fewer problems with jealousy, possessiveness, or fear of being "left" than less attractive women do. There are exceptions - e.g., the beautiful girl who went through some rough stuff and has a host of insecurities now - but most of the time, it's just better dating beautiful girls.
I'll differentiate here between "beautiful" and "hot," though. If you look at what most guys call "hot," it isn't beauty, per se; it's a girl getting done up with makeup and hair and nails and clothes and heels. You can look at what most guys call "a really hot girl" and zero in on just her face and body and realize that she isn't actually intrinsically all that attractive; she just makes herself look very sexually appealing. Most actually beautiful girls stay away from looking "hot;" they'll usually take care of their hair, and they'll usually dress well, sometimes even sexy, but usually somewhat conservatively. "Hot" girls who show off a lot and place a lot of emphasis on flash and appearance tend to be relationship nightmares, as they're focused more on appearances and less on the whole person (both themselves and you); they can be as insecure (or worse) than unattractive women who aren't trying to be hot].
Beautiful girls who are more conservative / natural in their dress tend to be more focused on their development as a person, and lack the insecurities that "hot" girls have. They're the ones who surprise you with their looks - you knew she was pretty, but with her clothes off, suddenly you realize she's way more attractive than that "hot" girl you pulled last week.
Those are the two kinds of attractive: "hot," where the girl tends to be insecure and focused on her looks, and a nightmare in a relationship (high maintenance); and "beautiful," where a girl is simply naturally attractive, and knows it, so rather than try and draw a lot of attention to herself as the "hot" girls do, she plays it more conservatively / with greater subtlety, so as to attract the "right" kinds of men rather than the "wrong" kinds.
Chase
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Chase said:
I would add that a beautiful girl both physical and personality knows how to support her man. They won't try to upstage you or run all over you, if you set the right types of frames in place "Team" and "Sexy Man". They won't ask you "Are they Pretty or Fat" questions because they're very secure. They also don't seek attention but will let you live your life and won't hold you back. Rather they'll encourage you the same way you should be encouraging them.
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I have a question about dating as well...
I am not sure exactly how it works. Right now at college, my only idea for improving my game and eventually getting girls is going out every Friday and Saturday night for parties and doing that. I have been readings posts by this guy who's username is "Tool" and he talks to girls at the campus and gets their number... But then what happens after that? When I hear date I think of tied down and I do not want that so early when I am trying to get better with women and also hopefully get laid in the process.
So my question is what is the exact definition of dating and how should one go about it?
I am not sure exactly how it works. Right now at college, my only idea for improving my game and eventually getting girls is going out every Friday and Saturday night for parties and doing that. I have been readings posts by this guy who's username is "Tool" and he talks to girls at the campus and gets their number... But then what happens after that? When I hear date I think of tied down and I do not want that so early when I am trying to get better with women and also hopefully get laid in the process.
So my question is what is the exact definition of dating and how should one go about it?
Hey CollegeFreshman, Glad to hear you have been reading my posts 
hopefully youve gotton alot of good information from them.(In my College game post I did not post what I did after I got the numbers because I found it irrelevent to the idea of my post, I put it up as a guide for ways people can meet girls in College simple as that.) As too what happens when I get those girls numbers, I follow a process formatted by Chase and Ricardus. I text the girl a text saying "hey (her name here) this is "the Tool" save my number" about 1 hour after getting her number. Then 2 days later I send a text saying "Hey Julia was thinking you and I should grab some coffee sometime. Whats your schedule like next week?" to which they respond and I set it up. I then send a text 2 hours before the said date saying something like "Hey Julia when you get to Starbucks ill meet you by the doors outside". I then have the date, do chase framing and sexual framing, deep diving, connection building ect. I then use the "Yes ladder" to have a more secure position on pulling them home, I then take them home and we become lovers. (P.s I am a big fan of the Manhandle Kiss techniqe its on chase's site.)
The exact definition of dating in my book is when you are causually seeing a women and doing things with her but it hasnt been declared exclusive. (dating usually in my book only lasts about 2-3 months before I get asked if I am seeing anybody else"
As to how you should go about getting dates and dating there are many good articles on Chase's site which will help you out with the dating process which I will post below
https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-chase-framing https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-use-sexual-frame-turn-women
https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-addressing-womens-objections https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-art-deep-dive https://www.girlschase.com/content/date-templates-minimize-confusion-maximize-returns https://www.girlschase.com/content/getting-past-small-talk
There are many more but youll get the idea
Cheers
The Tool
https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-move-faster https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-girl-bed-10-crucial-tips-making-her-yours
hopefully youve gotton alot of good information from them.(In my College game post I did not post what I did after I got the numbers because I found it irrelevent to the idea of my post, I put it up as a guide for ways people can meet girls in College simple as that.) As too what happens when I get those girls numbers, I follow a process formatted by Chase and Ricardus. I text the girl a text saying "hey (her name here) this is "the Tool" save my number" about 1 hour after getting her number. Then 2 days later I send a text saying "Hey Julia was thinking you and I should grab some coffee sometime. Whats your schedule like next week?" to which they respond and I set it up. I then send a text 2 hours before the said date saying something like "Hey Julia when you get to Starbucks ill meet you by the doors outside". I then have the date, do chase framing and sexual framing, deep diving, connection building ect. I then use the "Yes ladder" to have a more secure position on pulling them home, I then take them home and we become lovers. (P.s I am a big fan of the Manhandle Kiss techniqe its on chase's site.)The exact definition of dating in my book is when you are causually seeing a women and doing things with her but it hasnt been declared exclusive. (dating usually in my book only lasts about 2-3 months before I get asked if I am seeing anybody else"
As to how you should go about getting dates and dating there are many good articles on Chase's site which will help you out with the dating process which I will post below
https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-chase-framing https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-use-sexual-frame-turn-women
https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-addressing-womens-objections https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-art-deep-dive https://www.girlschase.com/content/date-templates-minimize-confusion-maximize-returns https://www.girlschase.com/content/getting-past-small-talk
There are many more but youll get the idea
Cheers
The Tool
https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-move-faster https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-girl-bed-10-crucial-tips-making-her-yours