What is the nicest/least damaging way to reject a girl in peripheral but important social circle through text?

[Merchant's-Kin]

I only met this girl once through social circle in my college 4 months ago but been doing online college until now for 3 months. Then right now this girl suddenly direct messages me.

I can tell she's quite inexperienced. First time she saw me she was shivering with anxiety. I don't want to give this girl the wrong idea so I want to in some way tell her to stop thinking of me as any kind of option.

She's part of this social circle in which I want to make connections with the guys but she has massive power in this social circle, with the all the guys listening and putting way too much importance on what the girls in the social circle say.

I wouldn't really mind if she threw me under the bus in that social circle but I would like if I was able to stay cool with the guys. I'll have to see her again after I get back to college after the pandemic. And I don't want to make her feel too bad. I don't give a shit what exactly she wants from me.

Should I lie to her and tell her I'm not single?

I'm thinking something like:

Hey (her name)
(some form of greeting)
I'm not single so I won't give u the wrong idea
If that's what's happening here...

SO far she's only DMed me once and I haven't read or replied anything.

Or does anyone else have better ideas?

Would really appreciate ideas from anyone

 

[Skills]

I only met this girl once through social circle in my college 4 months ago but been doing online college until now for 3 months. Then right now this girl suddenly direct messages me.

I can tell she's quite inexperienced. First time she saw me she was shivering with anxiety. I don't want to give this girl the wrong idea so I want to in some way tell her to stop thinking of me as any kind of option.

She's part of this social circle in which I want to make connections with the guys but she has massive power in this social circle, with the all the guys listening and putting way too much importance on what the girls in the social circle say.

I wouldn't really mind if she threw me under the bus in that social circle but I would like if I was able to stay cool with the guys. I'll have to see her again after I get back to college after the pandemic. And I don't want to make her feel too bad. I don't give a shit what exactly she wants from me.

Should I lie to her and tell her I'm not single?

I'm thinking something like:


SO far she's only DMed me once and I haven't read or replied anything.

Or does anyone else have better ideas?

Would really appreciate ideas from anyone

Just do what women do when they are not interested, be slow to text, give short answers, do not invest, women are very intuitive she will get the hint...

 

[Merchant's-Kin]

Just do what women do when they are not interested, be slow to text, give short answers, do not invest, women are very intuitive she will get the hint...

I see. Thanks for the advice @Skills !

 

[Fuck This]

Friend zone her...

One DM does not interest make. What did she say? There is no reason to falsely put yourself in a relationship. Having other women "coveting you" is a huge attraction builder. After being the "married guy" in a social circle with a lot of women for a number of years, then becoming single I noticed a lot more female interest that my previous relationships created. When I brought in an outside girl she commented on how "all those women are in love with you . You can see it."

Women are naturally competitive. Use it to your advantage but don't abuse it.
You can pee in the pool , just don't do it from the outside in...

 

[Merchant's-Kin]

Hi @Fuck This , I like the screen name

Thanks for following, it's based on what happened the first time she met me through social circle. Was just completing focussing her attention on me in the group. It's the first time she even saw me though she knew of my existence before. I don't really like the girls from that social circle and I have a lot of fears regarding social circle game as well, will just focus on cold approach.


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[Fuck This]

Seriously just treat her like "one of the guys" You can be warm and engaging. Her interest or reaction is irrelevant. You are demonstrating your social IQ. Imagine yourself as a celebrity with thousands of screaming fans if you have to . Show them that they are appreciated.

 

[Merchant's-Kin]

Thanks for ur advice! @Fuck This