What should my intention be when approaching?

[Starboy]

So like the majority of men that read from this site I have a form of approach anxiety and I think the biggest reason for me not approaching is because i'm not sure what to do. I think approaching itself wouldn't be so hard for me if I knew exactly what I would say and how would I act. I understand that when starting out no guy knows exactly what the right thing to say and do is, but if you're a beginner and you're trying to get started in this game what should your objective be when you're approaching a girl whether it's the daytime or nightime? Should it be just to get their number so you can arrange a meetup later on?Should I approach every woman with that intention and not even think about sex at least until approaching becomes easier for me and sex doesn't feel like something unobtainable for me?

 

[Fuck This]

So much depends on the context of the meeting place. To start simply making eye contact and greeting women is a good start. Once you are doing this confidently they will occasionally pick up the conversation . Gotta walk before you run so don't feel like you have to ask out the first girl you talk to. But if the convo takes you there then go with it...

You gotta prove to yourself that you don't NEED a girl. That you are engaging her to see if she is worthy of YOUR time. Once you have that confidence, and realize you determine the out come, then a whole world becomes available that you never knew about.

 

[Tony D]

I have a daygame guide coming out any day now on GC. But I'll try to help.

Yes, every guy has AA and doesn't know what to say. Every single guy. Also, every single guy learned how to do this by going out and practicing. It may take a few years.

It's called finding your balls. Can you find them? Good. Now go talk to women and learn.

In daygame I have three objectives.

1. Last at least 2 minutes in set.
2. Get kino, or touch.
3. Always Be Closing.

So even if you don't know what to say, you still have a brain, lungs and can form vowels. Just talk for two minutes minimum. Don't leave. That's how you learn what to say. That's the only way.

Touch is proven to increase attraction. So at least a handshake or a pat on the shoulder.

Ask for the number. Even better, say what's your number.

The rest is all in your imagination.

 

[sneaky_charm]

Ben,

Here are a few links that may help you:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/tact ... pproaching

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how- ... are-easily

https://www.girlschase.com/content/maki ... girls-meet

Now about overcoming approach anxiety, most guys, including some RSD guys, say that you can't ever fully get rid of it. It stays there. You just have to train yourself to become excited to open when you get anxiety, instead of backing off.

This video specifically deals with the topic, and it's good:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BBhxkOai2HM

About having nothing to talk to, just open, and wait a few seconds. You will probably come up with something to say as you relax into the interaction.

Other than that, you can watch Jon Matrix infield videos on YouTube, and adopt his style. He usually opens with 'You look very nice.' Then he talks about what he noticed about the girl for about 30 seconds. After that, it's usually smooth sailing.