I did a cold approach in a bus 2 days ago, I met this cute Eritrean girl and we really hit it off. The conversation would fall sometimes and I would reinitiate and sometimes she would too. The conversation got to its hook point and we talked for a long time. It was a 1 and a half hour bus ride and we were talking through most of it. Deep diving really helped she told me about her family, her childhood and what she does. It was a really good approach. I made a mess of it when getting the number though. At that point it was still slightly early and it was around after one of the lulls in the conversation. There were like 3 lulls which didn't last more than 45 seconds.
At that point we were talking about music and the idea to get her number popped in my head and I just went for it. Being a part time music producer I told her that I can send her a link to one of my tracks and she seemed pretty into it. I then asked her for her number so that I can send the link later. She agreed. She even put in the number in my phone on her own. After that I kept on talking as we were before and the conversation later hooked.
I think I drifted into the conversation and started touching her later. I asked her about a band she was wearing and I touched it and also illustrated something I was talking about while holding her hand. I didn't do any sexual touch though and the conversation was more on the connecting level. (No flirting).
Later that day I texted her.
Dex: Hi Aisha, this is Dex... save my number.
She didn't reply.
Today I sent her a link for the music on watsapp and I wrote
Dex: Hey Aisha, worth a listen
She replied 30 minutes later.
Aisha: Hey. Okay lemme listen.
I opened the message but I didn't add anything else to it.
My question is what to do from here. I feel kind of stuck since we did not agree to meet up before. I'd like to know how to convert this into a date or if I should just delete the number before it goes cold and meet someone else. I would also like to know how to smoothly bring sexual frames and flirting into a conversation. I would also like to know how to use tension without being creepy when there is a lull in the conversation that way I do not feel like I am chasing. Thanking you all in advance.
Onwards and Upwards - Ricardus
At that point we were talking about music and the idea to get her number popped in my head and I just went for it. Being a part time music producer I told her that I can send her a link to one of my tracks and she seemed pretty into it. I then asked her for her number so that I can send the link later. She agreed. She even put in the number in my phone on her own. After that I kept on talking as we were before and the conversation later hooked.
I think I drifted into the conversation and started touching her later. I asked her about a band she was wearing and I touched it and also illustrated something I was talking about while holding her hand. I didn't do any sexual touch though and the conversation was more on the connecting level. (No flirting).
Later that day I texted her.
Dex: Hi Aisha, this is Dex... save my number.
She didn't reply.
Today I sent her a link for the music on watsapp and I wrote
Dex: Hey Aisha, worth a listen
She replied 30 minutes later.
Aisha: Hey. Okay lemme listen.
I opened the message but I didn't add anything else to it.
My question is what to do from here. I feel kind of stuck since we did not agree to meet up before. I'd like to know how to convert this into a date or if I should just delete the number before it goes cold and meet someone else. I would also like to know how to smoothly bring sexual frames and flirting into a conversation. I would also like to know how to use tension without being creepy when there is a lull in the conversation that way I do not feel like I am chasing. Thanking you all in advance.
Onwards and Upwards - Ricardus
