What to do?

[Clout]

I went to a quiet pub with a friend for a catch-up (been a month since we last saw each other due to the holidays). Anyway there was a stunning barmaid working there which I had not seen before, my friend instantly starts chatting which caused me to remain quiet yet looking confident. As she answered my friends questions she stared at me, so I thought make the most of a bad situation and use this for a sexy smile from the corner of my eyes. She loved it.

Now we left with our drinks and the only chance I had to strike a convo alone at the bar while getting another I didn't take because I had an audience. I am really annoyed at myself for this. She works at a bar...of course there is going to be an audience ::facepalm::

We left and I walked out sexy, noticed her looking in my peripheral vision but didn't engage eye contact as I thought it wouldn't help unless I was approaching here there and then.

So I figure (this was Mon - 4 days ago);
1) I go there after I finish work tonight - Looks ballsy, I will not be getting a drink just popping in to chat her up but if she isn't there looks a little silly? is 4 days to long to return just for that?

2) I go there again Mon with same friend but get him to go to the toilet as we walk in, he would be fine with it - looks like I am not chasing and I have a legit reason to be there.

What would you guys do?

Recently I have been talking with girls online and in person and they mention me being 'smooth'. Now I have only been single for 4 months and was in a 5 year relationship prior to this (I am 22) so I had no experience until now. Is this good for women to outright say? I thought it was sarcasm at first but as I was moving fast on first dates so didn't think about it :S

Any thoughts?

I would also like to thank Chase for this site. As without it I would be a man without direction in this aspect of my life and I am a firm believer in education to shave a few years off a learning curve.

 

[Flames]

Personally I wouldn't go out of my way, but do stuff I'd normally do. If you want to make Monday night a regular night then that's fine however.

Either of those two options is fine depending on how comfortable you are going out alone.

Sorry I can't give you a bit more.

 

[Clout]

Cheers flames, I agree with the not going out of my way thing. Guess I just annoyed because I have been not letting opportunties walk by recently and that one slipped through the net.

Any thoughts on the smooth part? I am not sure if its good for a girl to outright say :S am I being too forward?

 

[Flames]

On the being smooth, well don't read too much into what girls say just what they do matters. It's hard to know really what she meant by that without being there, just take it as a compliment.

Thing is with Game you'll realise your mistakes because you'll get into more situations where you can make mistakes. It starts to tail off eventually and that's where your experience kicks in. The key is not to worry about mistakes where you may have done something wrong or missed an opportunity, because another opportunity will be just round the corner.

 

[Light]

Some things to remember; shes at work. She is more likely to be busy, so she may not want to get distracted. She may feel awkward if you keep her in a conversation for longer than 1 minute. She may not be focused or giving you 100% attention, even if she is giving you compliance.

So what do we do...? - Nothing! (Well thats what it will appear to look like any way)
Non verbal communication is your friend here.
You remember the way you looked at her and gave her sexy smile? Remember how she liked that?
Keep doing that!
You don't even need to talk to her. You can build a connection with her with eye contacts, winks, smiles, body language.

The trick is... to get her to talk to you first! (Usually saying "Hi" is enough..) Get it?

 

[Clout]

Now I never thought of it that way Light, guess I have been focusing on moving things fast which has been fine because they have never been in work.

So if I go there on an evening and make sure my non-verbals are down go to the bar for a drink and she says 'Hi' so I greet her back, ask her how she is then after her reply to keep the interaction short go for somehting like 'I can see mischief in your eyes, looks fun. Fancy getting drink sometime?'

This was actually what I was going to say when I first saw her as after my sexy smile all she gave me were promiscuous eyes.

 

[Light]

Now I never thought of it that way Light, guess I have been focusing on moving things fast which has been fine because they have never been in work.

So if I go there on an evening and make sure my non-verbals are down go to the bar for a drink and she says 'Hi' so I greet her back, ask her how she is then after her reply to keep the interaction short go for somehting like 'I can see mischief in your eyes, looks fun. Fancy getting drink sometime?'

This was actually what I was going to say when I first saw her as after my sexy smile all she gave me were promiscuous eyes.

Perfect..... Think James Bond when you actually do open her.
Be flirty, Be smooth, Tease her. make her giggle if you have to, but be sexy and serious