What to say when She asks about your age when you're younger

[aliparpar]

I have done a bit of research around this topic before posting here and couldn't find anything rather than "some women won't care that you're younger if they fall in love with a guy and some would when they find out that the guy is at least two years younger than them." Some women care some won't . But for those who care what can us younger guys do?

Well, I haven't been had any problems around this topic until now.
One of my friends knew a girl that was looking for someone and when she showed pictures of her to me, I liked her and the same goes with her . She thought I'm cute. So I called her the next day and talked a bit and set a date for the next week.

However, I've been told by our mutual friend that the first priority for this girl is to be in a relationship with a guy who is older than her or at least the same age. Both I and my friend know that if I can get her to fall in love with me she would probably ignore the fact that I'm four years younger when she finds out. (I'm 20 and She's 24 at the moment) .

From my past experience lying has worked. I have had told a girl before that I'm the same age as hers (I was 18 at that time and the girl was 21) and we actually got together for some time. I don't want to lie this time.

I just don't know here what exactly to do. I can lie to her about my age or tell her the truth which might lead to her friend-zoning me. OR I can somehow bypass the AGE question when I get asked about it during the date. I just don't know how.

1- What do you guys think?
2- Should I lie or tell the truth? Or conceal my age until we build a better connection before telling her?
3- Would this even worth it or should I drop her as things might not work out anyway?
4-Do you have any suggestions for me on what to do?

Thanks a lot for the insights guys
-Ali

 

[Ross]

Re: What to say when She asks about your age when you're you

Ah.. My specialty. I've always been younger than the women I've been interested in as I started out school a year earlier than most people my age, and I'm not quite at the point in which the women who are younger than me are the most attractive.

There are many, many avenues that one can take when addressing the issue of age. Believe it or not, simply saying that you are younger is great for disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend, as most women are going to say they want to date someone that's older than them. Then you can sleep with them and all of the sudden they change their mind about age and disqualifications. Sometimes women just flat out don't care.

I found that the key to releasing age is to delay it a little. If the women know that you are younger before they find themselves attracted to you, there are going to be a lot of challenges headed your way. But, if they are already attracted to you and then find out that you are younger, it suddenly doesn't matter as much, as they aren't going to throw up a barrier for something that's already effected them.

How do you release the reveal of your age? Simply play the mysterious card. If she directly asks, "How old are you?" just give a non-answer and deflect the question to another topic, "Age is just a number. I'm more interested in what makes you different from everybody else." Most often they'll follow your thread, and it works well because you are also issuing a challenge in this situation. This is how you completely bypass the whole issue of age. (Tip: If you're not sure about her age, make sure she is 18 before switching the age topic to something else!)

So I would say don't let it come up until you form an emotional connection and establish some obvious sexual tension. When you finally tell her your age act make sure that the age difference doesn't bother you, and it most likely won't bother her.

 

[aliparpar]

Re: What to say when She asks about your age when you're you

Thanks for the useful reply Ross.

Ah.. My speciality. I've always been younger than the women I've been interested in as I started out school a year earlier than most people my age, and I'm not quite at the point in which the women who are younger than me are the most attractive.

This is exactly the same situation as mine. I started Uni one year earlier and generally I'm younger than attractive women I meet.

There are many, many avenues that one can take when addressing the issue of age. Believe it or not, simply saying that you are younger is great for disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend, as most women are going to say they want to date someone that's older than them. Then you can sleep with them and all of the sudden they change their mind about age and disqualifications. Sometimes women just flat out don't care.

I guess the challenge for me here is I haven't figured out a way to make them sleep with me when they know I'm younger than them. Sure, It will disqualify me as a boyfriend material but Wouldn't it automatically friend-zone me as well? They would look me as a "boy" rather a guy they consider as a sexual option and will stay as friends but even when I've taken them to a restaurant they think of it as anything but a date. I've also tried sexual talk on them but it has not worked much for me. If you're getting success, I guess my problem might be from my fundamentals. Either my style or my body language. ?

I found that the key to releasing age is to delay it a little. If the women know that you are younger before they find themselves attracted to you, there are going to be a lot of challenges headed your way. But, if they are already attracted to you and then find out that you are younger, it suddenly doesn't matter as much, as they aren't going to throw up a barrier for something that's already effected them.

That's exactly my plan with this girl if I don't FU. I will post in the Field reports what happens hopefully with a LR tag

How do you release the reveal of your age? Simply play the mysterious card. If she directly asks, "How old are you?" just give a non-answer and deflect the question to another topic, "Age is just a number. I'm more interested in what makes you different from everybody else." Most often they'll follow your thread, and it works well because you are also issuing a challenge in this situation. This is how you completely bypass the whole issue of age. (Tip: If you're not sure about her age, make sure she is 18 before switching the age topic to something else!)

I'm sure she is 24 so that's good. However, are you sure women would just drop it here? Logically, if she asks about my age and I change the topic or say your line to her she would think to herself : "Why is he hiding his age? Maybe he's younger and he's trying to conceal it..." . If not then I guess women are dumber than this and I'm over-thinking here.

So I would say don't let it come up until you form an emotional connection and establish some obvious sexual tension. When you finally tell her your age act make sure that the age difference doesn't bother you, and it most likely won't bother her.

Thanks for the tips Ross. Definitely will remember to do these!

 

[Ross]

Re: What to say when She asks about your age when you're you

I guess the challenge for me here is I haven't figured out a way to make them sleep with me when they know I'm younger than them. Sure, It will disqualify me as a boyfriend material but Wouldn't it automatically friend-zone me as well?

Not necessarily.. If you offer nothing other than friendly material and can't figure out a way to incorporate sexual tension than of course you are only ever going to be a friend. I've had girls that have known this and teased me on it, for instance they say, "You're so young!" Very easy to turn around and frame it by saying, "That must make you a cougar." It's not a dead end, it's more of an opportunity to turn it into something else.. Always look at things as opportunities.

I guess my problem might be from my fundamentals. Either my style or my body language. ?

It might be. Are you visibly frustrated by the fact that you are younger, or does it not bother you? Showing frustration and helplessness due to your age isn't going to help here. Showing that it doesn't frustrate you makes it much easier to let her know that it's not a big deal.

"Why is he hiding his age? Maybe he's younger and he's trying to conceal it..." . If not then I guess women are dumber than this and I'm over-thinking here.

That is a possible question, but there is also the very real possibility that she thinks you are older than her. She doesn't know. The whole idea of deflecting the question into another topic is that she will forget about the age. Unless she is keen on asking your age as a type of screening process, she will often just go with the flow of the conversation. If she's trying to screen you and would improperly disqualify you on your age, you don't give her an answer so she never knows for sure, and therefore never disqualifies you as a potential lover. Most women screen men based on boyfriend material as opposed to lover material, so either way you are in the positive.

Thanks for the tips Ross. Definitely will remember to do these!

No problem mate, good luck on your date.