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weekendwarrior

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Hi guys,

Any feedback for what went wrong with these chicks?

Chick A
I met this chick in a night club, it was her friend's birthday, and they were all dressed as ghost busters. She was eyeing me up and we kept making lingering eye contact. I approached her and we got on really well. Her friends were going to the dancefloor, I waved her over, told her she seemed fun, and we should go for drinks, she enthusiastically agreed, I got her number and let her get back to her friends.

ME: Hi Chick A it was fun meeting you at CLUB :)# warrior x (10 minutes after meeting)
CHICK: It was lovely meeting you! Xxx (within 10 minutes)
ME: You must have done a great job rounding up the ghosts, I can't see any on the streets # hope you had a good night xx (next morning)
CHICK: Haha we did! We caught them all, I did thank you and you! # xx (within an hour)
ME: We should grab those drinks sometime to celebrate :)# I had a good night thanks xx (about an hour later)

Radio silence ever since, its been over a week.
She agreed to drinks when I got her number, I made a joke/banter to what she was wearing/our interaction. Seemingly high interest, soft closed on a high note and ironically got ghosted. Guess she didn't catch them all!

Chick B
I met this chick outside a night club, at one point when her friend was commenting how hot she found me she said "ngl you're hot af". While chatting I checked her logistics to discover that she had a flat and lived with a flat mate, she lived near me, so we shared a taxi where I deep dived and managed to connect with her and learned she was waiting for a start date for her new job. We were sitting next to each other and touching throughout, at her flat she number closed me and asked me to text her when I got home.

ME: Hi Chick B it was fun meeting you x
CHICK: Hi it was lovely meeting you! Text me when you get home! X
ME: I've already got back x
CHICK: That was quick!
ME: It's not too far up the road x

CHICK: Thank you for taking me home x
ME: Not a problem, hope you had a good night x

CHICK: I had a great night thank you, I hope you did too x
ME: I had a great night too thanks I enjoyed
hanging out with you we should grab a drink sometime x
CHICK: Yeah that would be nice! x
ME: When are you free? x

CHICK: I'm not really sure, obviously still waiting on work but I'm usually free on a weekend like Friday/Saturday? x
ME: Cool I can be free Friday night x


She doesn't even read this message for months, I see her two weeks after meeting her and she's out with some fat guy and looked like she got caught with her hand in the cookie jar when she seen me. I seen her out the following month still with this fat guy. I'm assuming they're seeing each other.

Her friend keeps coming over and talking to me, it's a shame she's the size of a bus and not much of a looker. No wonder I keep giving the slow game chick chances!

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weekendwarrior

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Thanks @Skills I'm very familiar with your text guide/method and I've used your: banter > soft close > hard close, process religiously.

I used it with chick A, but got ghosted on the soft close. I'll try more banter but this hasn't been successful in the past, from experience I get into a conversation and if I don't text for 1 day they cancel or ghost.

I didn't banter much with chick B but she had high interest, I went for qualification with a soft close which got a positive response but then she dropped off immediately after.

On reflection I think I didn't lead, when I told her I could be free Friday I didn't ask what time was good, though she didn't even read the message so maybe this wouldn't make a difference. 🤔

Thanks for the link, great information!

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Skills

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Thanks @Skills I'm very familiar with your text guide/method and I've used your: banter > soft close > hard close, process religiously.

I used it with chick A, but got ghosted on the soft close. I'll try more banter but this hasn't been successful in the past, from experience I get into a conversation and if I don't text for 1 day they cancel or ghost.

I didn't banter much with chick B but she had high interest, I went for qualification with a soft close which got a positive response but then she dropped off immediately after.

On reflection I think I didn't lead, when I told her I could be free Friday I didn't ask what time was good, though she didn't even read the message so maybe this wouldn't make a difference. 🤔

Thanks for the link, great information!

Warrior
oh i see! i was at work i will tell you... on interaction 1 "we should have a drink to celebrate?" she did not bite on the soft close... So you needed to follow up..... Next day maybe Morning with sun emoji, and then sequence again... (though you need a bit more of high point of interaction) it was not high to go for soft close....


in the second one she did not respond to the hard close, again maybe follow up... one more time... but don't wait days or weeks that kills momentum again use either the ping of eyes emoji, or the good morning ping but don't wait days or weeks...



 
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weekendwarrior

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Thanks @Skills I'll give it another go! (Not with these chicks, to much time has passed)

I've tried the morning/sun/eyes ping before and it frustrates me when they don't reply because I should have known better than to text them again. I guess I need to revisit persistence! At least it's low effort enough

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