What went wrong with this texting series?

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

(I met her spontaneously after breaking my sandal)

She's new to college + first semester.

*Posts an ig story of her with some friends*

Me: aw seems like ur transitioning well!
Her: yesss I'm gettin there LOL
Her: how about you?
Her: Breaking any more sandals? (Laughing emoji)
Me: I-
Me: Actually broke the 2nd one I bought (laughing emojis)
Me: (Take a pic of yeezy sandals)
Me: These babies are my replacement. Unbreakable (finger crossed emoji)
Her: (Likes the pic)
Her: upgradessss
Me: haha just tired of poor quality sandals
Me: hows the adjustment been? I never c u around X part of campus
Her: it's been chill midterms are rough though literally so stressed
Her: Yeahhh i try to avoid X part of campus it's too much going on
Me: Figures. Altho I remember u were really passionate about medicine so all that hard work will pay off (Smile face)
Me: nothing worth having comes easy. Except maybe going to X part of campus in ur case (Here i try to make a joke about her having a hard time going to x part of campus)

My analysis: I feel like after i sent her the picture of yeezy sandals, it felt like i was impressing her. Also, I felt like I tried too hard on the last 2 sentences. I shoulda just said "sounds like you need a drink" or something like that instead of trying to 'qualify her'.

 

[Will_V]

(I met her spontaneously after breaking my sandal)

She's new to college + first semester.

*Posts an ig story of her with some friends*

Me: aw seems like ur transitioning well!
Her: yesss I'm gettin there LOL
Her: how about you?
Her: Breaking any more sandals? (Laughing emoji)
Me: I-
Me: Actually broke the 2nd one I bought (laughing emojis)
Me: (Take a pic of yeezy sandals)
Me: These babies are my replacement. Unbreakable (finger crossed emoji)
Her: (Likes the pic)
Her: upgradessss
Me: haha just tired of poor quality sandals
Me: hows the adjustment been? I never c u around X part of campus
Her: it's been chill midterms are rough though literally so stressed
Her: Yeahhh i try to avoid X part of campus it's too much going on
Me: Figures. Altho I remember u were really passionate about medicine so all that hard work will pay off (Smile face)
Me: nothing worth having comes easy. Except maybe going to X part of campus in ur case (Here i try to make a joke about her having a hard time going to x part of campus)

My analysis: I feel like after i sent her the picture of yeezy sandals, it felt like i was impressing her. Also, I felt like I tried too hard on the last 2 sentences. I shoulda just said "sounds like you need a drink" or something like that instead of trying to 'qualify her'.

Most of it seems fine, however the last 2 sentences imo are hard to decipher as to what exactly you mean, and might have thrown her off.

A lot of the time when girls don't reply it's because they aren't sure what to say. Ambiguous threads of conversation are one thing in my experience that can cause a girl to just not reply, especially if they veer toward a personal thing (such as talking about medicine and her passion for it) without really saying anything clear. This can happen when you try to force the conversation to something you have decided is a good idea for the seduction without really figuring out how someone would spontaneously bring it up.

A good test of a message is to read it and think to yourself 'is there an easy way to reply to this that doesn't require a lot of investment and has very little chance of being a 'wrong' answer'?

I feel you though, I'm working on my texting but it's a weak part of my game. Lately I'm trying to be more chill and just saying stuff that comes to mind as my texts sometimes, when I look at them later, seem a bit contrived.

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

Most of it seems fine, however the last 2 sentences imo are hard to decipher as to what exactly you mean, and might have thrown her off.

A lot of the time when girls don't reply it's because they aren't sure what to say. Ambiguous threads of conversation are one thing in my experience that can cause a girl to just not reply, especially if they veer toward a personal thing (such as talking about medicine and her passion for it) without really saying anything clear. This can happen when you try to force the conversation to something you have decided is a good idea for the seduction without really figuring out how someone would spontaneously bring it up.

A good test of a message is to read it and think to yourself 'is there an easy way to reply to this that doesn't require a lot of investment and has very little chance of being a 'wrong' answer'?

I feel you though, I'm working on my texting but it's a weak part of my game. Lately I'm trying to be more chill and just saying stuff that comes to mind as my texts sometimes, when I look at them later, seem a bit contrived.

i think ur right, she dm'd back 2 days later saying 'LOLLL. and thanks i rly needed that'

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

I heard in the chat the other day that its better to say too little than to say too much, difference between needy and aloof. Maybe you said too much? The maximum effect with minimal effort is what you should always try to go for.

 

[HoofHearted]

But my man, this isn't texting.

You sound like you got her Insta, saw a story and messaged her.

Nononono.

What you wanted was her phone number, and for her to know what it was about.

"A) She might say no so B) Insta is safer."

Her winning = you on insta and IRL giving her free attention and effort.

A) "she might say no"

'No' is your friend. 'No' means you move on, instead of simpin' on the gram and lookin like a fool.

B) "insta is safer"

These vague situations where you get nothing but give time, energy and attention is what she like best. Never that anymore, my friend.