When do I tell her I have kids

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone,

I only recently discovered this website and it's already a great source of information for me. I'm definitely improving my game a lot. However, I have this strange set up, where I am quite successful at my job, have two kids and am separated from my wife, but I'm only 26.
Now I've recently met a cute girl that is considerably younger and we had a great first date, though i didn't tell her I have kids. This got me wondering, when is the best time to drop that piece of information. I usually tell everyone I have kids, as I am very proud of them, but with girls I like to get closer to I am unsure.
Of course, when/if they come to my apartment they'd know instantly as they would see the kids room and all their toys.

Any advice/experience you'd like to share with me?

Cheers guys and thanks for all the great content on the site.

 

[almosteasy21]

If I were just trying to have a short term good time with her then I wouldn't mention it. It could only harm but not help your outcome unless she has kids. Now if you're thinking of having something long term with her then I would tell her after you have sex with her and she's hooked on you.

It's like if you were shopping for a car and you found out it had a issue. If you already drove 300 miles to pick it up then you're probably still going to buy it. But if the seller told you upfront then you probably wouldn't have made the trip.

 

[Dash]

Depends. What are you after?

Do you know if she has friends with kids? Could be part of your screening. If she does, then that could change the dynamic.

I've dated single women with kids and they usually brought it up quick, using by saying something like "I'm not looking for a Dad for my son\daughter. He\she already has one." That set the tone pretty quick.

Some women find Dads sexy, right? But if she's young and inexperienced then she might be freaked out.

 

[Light]

Hi everyone,

I only recently discovered this website and it's already a great source of information for me. I'm definitely improving my game a lot. However, I have this strange set up, where I am quite successful at my job, have two kids and am separated from my wife, but I'm only 26.
Now I've recently met a cute girl that is considerably younger and we had a great first date, though i didn't tell her I have kids. This got me wondering, when is the best time to drop that piece of information. I usually tell everyone I have kids, as I am very proud of them, but with girls I like to get closer to I am unsure.
Of course, when/if they come to my apartment they'd know instantly as they would see the kids room and all their toys.

Any advice/experience you'd like to share with me?

Cheers guys and thanks for all the great content on the site.

The first time you meet her... or on your first date at the latest.
The sooner the better.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hey kfs,

Hi everyone,

I only recently discovered this website and it's already a great source of information for me. I'm definitely improving my game a lot. However, I have this strange set up, where I am quite successful at my job, have two kids and am separated from my wife, but I'm only 26.
Now I've recently met a cute girl that is considerably younger and we had a great first date, though i didn't tell her I have kids. This got me wondering, when is the best time to drop that piece of information. I usually tell everyone I have kids, as I am very proud of them, but with girls I like to get closer to I am unsure.
Of course, when/if they come to my apartment they'd know instantly as they would see the kids room and all their toys.

Any advice/experience you'd like to share with me?

Cheers guys and thanks for all the great content on the site.

It's cool to hear you only 26, have kids and successful in your job. i suggest too, you telling her you have kids. Just be normal about it. She might be feeling abit of "responsible weightshift* and thinking that maybe you are expecting a marriage out of her fast. Just reassure her emotions. IT will be okay.


Zac