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DaVinciMatrixStyle

Space Monkey
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So I had two girls do this to me recently. Basically, we would be talking and somewhere along the lines they would mention their ex-boyfriends 'who can't accept the fact that the relationship is over'.

"Yeah, my ex-boyfriend has been stalking me and can't get over the fact that our relationship is over ugh"

Or

'yeah, my ex boyfriend constantly still texts me or calls me. He just doesn't know when to stop'

What would be the reasons for these random mentions?
 

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So I had two girls do this to me recently. Basically, we would be talking and somewhere along the lines they would mention their ex-boyfriends 'who can't accept the fact that the relationship is over'.

"Yeah, my ex-boyfriend has been stalking me and can't get over the fact that our relationship is over ugh"

Or

'yeah, my ex boyfriend constantly still texts me or calls me. He just doesn't know when to stop'

What would be the reasons for these random mentions?
She is DHVing.
Even we guys do this by working pre-selection into the conversation.
 
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Rakehell

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So I had two girls do this to me recently. Basically, we would be talking and somewhere along the lines they would mention their ex-boyfriends 'who can't accept the fact that the relationship is over'.

"Yeah, my ex-boyfriend has been stalking me and can't get over the fact that our relationship is over ugh"

Or

'yeah, my ex boyfriend constantly still texts me or calls me. He just doesn't know when to stop'

What would be the reasons for these random mentions?
Assuming you’re already an attractive option.

Women are much less nefarious with their words than us skilledseducer folk. She might’ve done it for any number of reasons. She might’ve just read a blog post on “how to get any guy hooked”.

You’ll spin yourself trying to nail down the why as it could’ve been for any number of reasons.

I’d be more focused on how you can use it to move forward. Assume they did it to impress you because they’re into you and want to show that they have options too.

Only focus on what you can control; how you respond, how it benefits your goal with them, how you can keep things moving forward.
 

Skills

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She is DHVing.
Even we guys do this by working pre-selection into the conversation.
^ yeah this! you can just display your knowledge of relationships and sexual dynamics and differentiate yourself:

"that is creepy, needy and they don't get that by doing that it turns you off, and pushes you more away, and ruins the memory of the good moments you had in the past"

^ and how you don't engage in that behavior once you are done you are done blah blah, take the oportunity and dhv yourself by displaying relationship knowladge and then bring the convo to seductive topics, "do you miss the sex?" "how was the sex?" then you can go into second gen...
 

Chase

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@DaVinciMatrixStyle,

+1 on the DHV'ing comment.

One possible reason is if your attainability is too low, and she is trying to boost her value up to your level:



Whenever girls do this to me I always respond the same way:

Her: blah blah just keeps calling me blah blah can't accept that it's over.​
Me: Why do you go for such clingy guys? [said half in disbelief, half laughing at her ridiculous situation]​
Her: [laughs] I don't know! They all get so attached! [laughs]​
Me: Raise your standards, woman. Stop dating from the bottom of the barrel! [said half in jest]​
Her: They're good guys! They just can't let go! [laughs]​

Then after that you just flip her frame on her and keep busting her on "I hope you're not going to get all attached and send me like 50 texts before I've even had a chance to respond."

Chase
 
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