A little bit of background:
I have been going out with this girl a couple of months now. She is doing her semester abroad and she is probably gonna be here for 2 more months. We started this out as a casual relationship, but it somehow got serious. The sex has been good, but it was not mind blowing or anything for either of us. She always had this feeling that I am too good for her something. There is a bar at her dorm and she always hangs out there socializing with other people. She never wanted me there because she said she thinks I get bored there it's a bit uncomfortable for her( I was there with her once it was a bit boring for me as I didn't know any people). But this day one of my friends wanted to check this place out, so i came with him spontaneously. I tried calling her before but couldn't reach her. But we got there anyway, she pretty drunk socializing with a lot of people, guys and girls, getting a little touchy and everything. She told she made out with one of her lesbian friends and she was sorry. I acted out normal but she kept making out with her in front of me for many times. Every now and then she told she is sorry or asked me if it was bad, but she kept doing the same. She also tried kissing me sometimes in the middle. She was pretty drunk, I guess some guys tried with her and I don't know what happened. Finally I put her room and she passed out. I was still ok to stay at her place, but then she got a call in sometime which she could not pick up and I dont know who it was and after 10 mins I heard a knock on the door and it was a guy standing with a smile on his face, he got freaked out when he say me and he just left.
Then i immediately left her place and the next day she called me and when i asked about all this, she lied about the guy for sometime and then she finally admitted that it was the guy she had an one night stand with few weeks ago (she already told about this ONS few days ago and I was ok with it as this started out as a casual relationship I was seeing other women in the beginning, but a few days of days ago she told she was jealous of it and kinda wanted me not to see other women).
I dont know if she planned to meet that guy that day, but it felt like it as she did not want me to come to her place that night. I have met this guy once before in the same bar a week ago when she kinda wanted me to go to the bar, but she never told me that he was the guy.
Then after all this lying and a long phone call, I broke up with her. She came to where i work the next day, told that she told the ONS guy everything about us and blocked him. When I asked to show me the chat, she told she deleted it to put everything behind. She said she was apologetic and everything, but to me she was just trying to be sad, but it didnt feel like she was that sad. Its been three days now, but she has been persistently trying to get in touch with me through phone calls, mutual friends and even wrote me a letter. One of her close friends tried to convince me a bit, but she didnt know the whole story until i told, but she still tells that the girl is really sad and everything. The thing is, she is gonna be gone in a couple of months, but she says she wants to spend this time with me; all my friends hate her and dont want me to get back. What should i think here? Is it at all possible to trust someone like that again after all this lying? Should i give importance to the chronic lying or not? is it some sort of childhood issue?@Chase @Warped Mindless @ZacAdam @Skills @topcat @Glow
In the beginning, she was a total bitch to me and lied a lot, but last couple of weeks were good after some fighting and then all these happened. I am sad about whatever happened, really confused. went on a date yesterday, but it was not so great. I am having a lot of ups and downs.
P.s: she is in a long distance relationship that I came to know after a week of hanging out with her. She lied about breaking up with him after a few days which she admitted a few days ago. After I broek up with her, she agian told that she broke up with her bf.
I have been going out with this girl a couple of months now. She is doing her semester abroad and she is probably gonna be here for 2 more months. We started this out as a casual relationship, but it somehow got serious. The sex has been good, but it was not mind blowing or anything for either of us. She always had this feeling that I am too good for her something. There is a bar at her dorm and she always hangs out there socializing with other people. She never wanted me there because she said she thinks I get bored there it's a bit uncomfortable for her( I was there with her once it was a bit boring for me as I didn't know any people). But this day one of my friends wanted to check this place out, so i came with him spontaneously. I tried calling her before but couldn't reach her. But we got there anyway, she pretty drunk socializing with a lot of people, guys and girls, getting a little touchy and everything. She told she made out with one of her lesbian friends and she was sorry. I acted out normal but she kept making out with her in front of me for many times. Every now and then she told she is sorry or asked me if it was bad, but she kept doing the same. She also tried kissing me sometimes in the middle. She was pretty drunk, I guess some guys tried with her and I don't know what happened. Finally I put her room and she passed out. I was still ok to stay at her place, but then she got a call in sometime which she could not pick up and I dont know who it was and after 10 mins I heard a knock on the door and it was a guy standing with a smile on his face, he got freaked out when he say me and he just left.
Then i immediately left her place and the next day she called me and when i asked about all this, she lied about the guy for sometime and then she finally admitted that it was the guy she had an one night stand with few weeks ago (she already told about this ONS few days ago and I was ok with it as this started out as a casual relationship I was seeing other women in the beginning, but a few days of days ago she told she was jealous of it and kinda wanted me not to see other women).
I dont know if she planned to meet that guy that day, but it felt like it as she did not want me to come to her place that night. I have met this guy once before in the same bar a week ago when she kinda wanted me to go to the bar, but she never told me that he was the guy.
Then after all this lying and a long phone call, I broke up with her. She came to where i work the next day, told that she told the ONS guy everything about us and blocked him. When I asked to show me the chat, she told she deleted it to put everything behind. She said she was apologetic and everything, but to me she was just trying to be sad, but it didnt feel like she was that sad. Its been three days now, but she has been persistently trying to get in touch with me through phone calls, mutual friends and even wrote me a letter. One of her close friends tried to convince me a bit, but she didnt know the whole story until i told, but she still tells that the girl is really sad and everything. The thing is, she is gonna be gone in a couple of months, but she says she wants to spend this time with me; all my friends hate her and dont want me to get back. What should i think here? Is it at all possible to trust someone like that again after all this lying? Should i give importance to the chronic lying or not? is it some sort of childhood issue?@Chase @Warped Mindless @ZacAdam @Skills @topcat @Glow
In the beginning, she was a total bitch to me and lied a lot, but last couple of weeks were good after some fighting and then all these happened. I am sad about whatever happened, really confused. went on a date yesterday, but it was not so great. I am having a lot of ups and downs.
P.s: she is in a long distance relationship that I came to know after a week of hanging out with her. She lied about breaking up with him after a few days which she admitted a few days ago. After I broek up with her, she agian told that she broke up with her bf.
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