Hey guys, thanks for any advice you can give on this topic.
So I met two great girls at a party yesterday (technically met a lot, but these two were my favorites). I enjoyed talking with the first one (girl A), got her contact information and moved on to to talk to other girls at the party. As the night is coming to a close, I see this one really cute girl (girl B) I wanted to talk to for a while standing off to the side and go to introduce myself. We click immediately and are having a great conversation when all of her friends come over to grab their stuff since the party is ending. And that's when I see the other girl I was talking to in her friend group... I confirm they are friends and play it off like that's cool when deep down I'm of course disappointed. So I need some advice on how to proceed with this.
This friend group of six or seven college girls were actually all really attractive (8/10). I knew some of them were together, but didn't realize they were all friends obviously. So girl A is someone who under any other circumstances I would definitely want to date, but girl B and I really did click more and she has a slightly more entertaining personality. I don't want to ask out girl B though, have her say no and end up being ignored by girl A because I didn't choose her first. I also don't want to be seen as a "bad" player guy by them both and have them both block my number. This group of six or seven girls are so attractive that I'd date any of them so being cautious seems like the best approach as I'd rather be friend zoned by girl A and B so that I could still meet up with their friends, than have them both end up seeing me as a player and blocking me.
So what would you do in this situation? The party was last night and I figure a bunch of guys will message them today so I'll stand out if I wait a day or two to message them (also gives me more time to think). Ideas I have (haven't dealt with this situation before):
1. I could text them both at almost the exact same time, and see who answers back. It's possible that one will just ignore me or take forever to respond showing low interest.
2. I could text girl B and ignore girl A (destroying my link to a great girl...) It's also possible that girl B might have other guys in the picture she likes more than me.
3. I could not text either for two days and see if one reaches out first. However, we are in Japan and that rarely if ever seems to happen to me with Japanese girls so I don't know if that's a valid option.
4. This doesn't seem like the right thing to do, but I could try to act like I want to hang out with both of them and basically sort of friend zone myself. I could probably determine who likes me more in a smaller group setting or the dominant one might make it clear that she's taking me.This has happened to me before with two twins I met here in Japan. Obviously they were both cute, and when I met up with them a second time the dominant one was giving me all of her attention and the submissive one kept her distance and basically ignored me.
Thanks for your thoughts!
So I met two great girls at a party yesterday (technically met a lot, but these two were my favorites). I enjoyed talking with the first one (girl A), got her contact information and moved on to to talk to other girls at the party. As the night is coming to a close, I see this one really cute girl (girl B) I wanted to talk to for a while standing off to the side and go to introduce myself. We click immediately and are having a great conversation when all of her friends come over to grab their stuff since the party is ending. And that's when I see the other girl I was talking to in her friend group... I confirm they are friends and play it off like that's cool when deep down I'm of course disappointed. So I need some advice on how to proceed with this.
This friend group of six or seven college girls were actually all really attractive (8/10). I knew some of them were together, but didn't realize they were all friends obviously. So girl A is someone who under any other circumstances I would definitely want to date, but girl B and I really did click more and she has a slightly more entertaining personality. I don't want to ask out girl B though, have her say no and end up being ignored by girl A because I didn't choose her first. I also don't want to be seen as a "bad" player guy by them both and have them both block my number. This group of six or seven girls are so attractive that I'd date any of them so being cautious seems like the best approach as I'd rather be friend zoned by girl A and B so that I could still meet up with their friends, than have them both end up seeing me as a player and blocking me.
So what would you do in this situation? The party was last night and I figure a bunch of guys will message them today so I'll stand out if I wait a day or two to message them (also gives me more time to think). Ideas I have (haven't dealt with this situation before):
1. I could text them both at almost the exact same time, and see who answers back. It's possible that one will just ignore me or take forever to respond showing low interest.
2. I could text girl B and ignore girl A (destroying my link to a great girl...) It's also possible that girl B might have other guys in the picture she likes more than me.
3. I could not text either for two days and see if one reaches out first. However, we are in Japan and that rarely if ever seems to happen to me with Japanese girls so I don't know if that's a valid option.
4. This doesn't seem like the right thing to do, but I could try to act like I want to hang out with both of them and basically sort of friend zone myself. I could probably determine who likes me more in a smaller group setting or the dominant one might make it clear that she's taking me.This has happened to me before with two twins I met here in Japan. Obviously they were both cute, and when I met up with them a second time the dominant one was giving me all of her attention and the submissive one kept her distance and basically ignored me.
Thanks for your thoughts!
