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When your fiine work mentor's like, "if there is anything else I can do for you"

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Space Monkey
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Hey fellas,

Argh, I'd let this chick slide because our formal relationship came to a natural end. Mousy brunette, sweet smile, thick legs, smooth skin, round curves, expensive taste, into fashion and a bit of a self confessed alpha female.

She was my work mentor, we met like four times over a few months earlier this year. We'd meet for hot drinks, chat and I'd get feedback.

Now that I'm out of work again and I saw this ad I hit her up to enquire about a job club her male co-worker faciliates that's starting soon. She forwarded me onto him.

But at the end of the email she wrote, "If there is anything else I can do for you let me know."

First of all, I'm wondering if that's her work talking or her interest in me talking. Why would she wanna help me if her boss is gonna help me?

Admittedly, I did have a minor case of twoitis when I was meeting with her before about work. There was her and another fit chick I was indirectly working on. Both came to a natural end.

Anyway, we goto the same church so we're fairly hip i.e. "hey, how are you." period.

I want to seize the opportunity to ask her for 'help' for something, without making it sound weird and obvious that I jist wanna turn up the flirt dial with her...

I asked her previously about meeting up to discuss life coaching. She saw my CV and asked me about my life coaching training as she was getting into it. Seemed an area we both shared an affinity for. And so I asked her again about meeting up (said I had some good resources lol) and she said she was so busy up til April '18. We were still in correspondence at this time (April) so I mentioned it at the end of an email, she didn't respond to that part.

I feel like I could mention coaching again.. I feel like the balls in my court fellas...

Or do I soundway off? Am I obsessing? And so should let it go? It's just her being courteous.

Thanks for reading,
 
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Cro-Magnon Man
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Re: When your fiine work mentor's like, "if there is anything else I can do for

If your relationship started as a work relationship, then interpret everything as work related. You already called her your mentor, so your frame is one of someone coming to her for help.

Unless she gives you the full on press of a package grab and whispers in your ear "anyTHING else I can do for you?" you are in de facto friends zone
 

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Space Monkey
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Re: When your fiine work mentor's like, "if there is anything else I can do for

Okay, I'll read around getting out of the friend zone and frames.

Thanks for the insight Fuck This, there may still is time NOT to Fuck This...
 
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