Where do I start?

[mrubin]

Hello guys,

Following the thread that I posted yesterday about a break up (viewtopic.php?f=7&t=12535) and although I feel like crap and depressed I am ready to move on! The thing is that I have been out of the dating business for more than 5 years and I do not know where to start.

Any recommendation about what to read in this site would be great for me. I need a clean start and I want to be as sharp as possible, physically and mentally when in 2 months I move to Costa del Sol to spend half a year there.

I find this site amazing! With lots of people ready to help a heartbroken bro, so if you have any advice it would be really appreciated!

Thanks!

 

[normajean106]

Where you start depends on what you are looking for. Can you be more specific?

 

[mrubin]

Where you start depends on what you are looking for. Can you be more specific?

You are right! I am sorry that I did not explain myself well enough. I want to be back dating different girls, but after all the time that I have spent in a relationship I do not know how to approach women anymore. Ray replied to me and gave me the following link viewtopic.php?f=13&t=34 with Chase newbie assignment which I will start right away! And I hope that eventually I become charismatic and not a beta person. For the moment I am not looking to settle down with anyone in the near future but instead I want to improve my social skills, my style, and I would love to know how to attract more women.

Cheers,

Alex

 

[normajean106]

You are right! I am sorry that I did not explain myself well enough. I want to be back dating different girls, but after all the time that I have spent in a relationship I do not know how to approach women anymore. Ray replied to me and gave me the following link viewtopic.php?f=13&t=34 with Chase newbie assignment which I will start right away! And I hope that eventually I become charismatic and not a beta person. For the moment I am not looking to settle down with anyone in the near future but instead I want to improve my social skills, my style, and I would love to know how to attract more women.

Cheers,

Alex

That's a great idea. I'm glad to see that you're taking advantage of this opportunity.

Good luck!

 

[ray_zorse]

I forgot to mention to either read site articles until your eyes bleed (on www.girlschase.com, starting with "How to get girls: The last post you will ever need" and reading everything by Chase Amante), or if you can afford it buy Chase's ebook "How to Make Girls Chase". The articles are more up to date and comprehensive, however I much prefer the book because it is integrated and laser focused on getting you from HERE to THERE. The "Spellbinding" conversation series is also good. But helpful as it is to do your research, it is more important to TAKE ACTION. With no books and the newbie assignment you can get laid if lucky. With no action you cannot get laid
Ray

 

[mrubin]

You are right! I am sorry that I did not explain myself well enough. I want to be back dating different girls, but after all the time that I have spent in a relationship I do not know how to approach women anymore. Ray replied to me and gave me the following link viewtopic.php?f=13&t=34 with Chase newbie assignment which I will start right away! And I hope that eventually I become charismatic and not a beta person. For the moment I am not looking to settle down with anyone in the near future but instead I want to improve my social skills, my style, and I would love to know how to attract more women.

Cheers,

Alex

That's a great idea. I'm glad to see that you're taking advantage of this opportunity.

Good luck!

Thank you for your kind words. I hope to contribute as much as I can in this forum and share experiences that I will DEFINITELY have with women.

 

[mrubin]

I forgot to mention to either read site articles until your eyes bleed (on https://www.girlschase.com, starting with "How to get girls: The last post you will ever need" and reading everything by Chase Amante), or if you can afford it buy Chase's ebook "How to Make Girls Chase". The articles are more up to date and comprehensive, however I much prefer the book because it is integrated and laser focused on getting you from HERE to THERE. The "Spellbinding" conversation series is also good. But helpful as it is to do your research, it is more important to TAKE ACTION. With no books and the newbie assignment you can get laid if lucky. With no action you cannot get laid
Ray

Yes, I started reading today a few articles and I will certainly buy the book (is there a review of the book in the forum, experiences and opinions?), and you are totally right, with no action I will no get laid not matter how many books I read.

Alex

 

[Bboy100]

All the advice above is great. But also, start small. Don't feel like you have to do every step of the newbie assignment the way it's designed. For example, if you still feel like you're pushing your comfort zone after Day 3, feel free to repeat it as many times as necessary before you move on to day 4.

Also, I recommend signing up for some sort of classes/group activities as well. They're a good way of upping your social skill in a low-stress environment (i.e. no AA, and unless you're genuinely creepy/weird, you won't get rejected very often either.)
...Just make sure that it isn't your only way of meeting women. Cold approach is a must.

One other thing you might want to consider doing is making a Tinder. It takes literally 5 mins to set up an account. Even if you get very few matches, its still worth it. Cause it expands pretty much no time or effort, but it still might get you dates.

 

[mrubin]

All the advice above is great. But also, start small. Don't feel like you have to do every step of the newbie assignment the way it's designed. For example, if you still feel like you're pushing your comfort zone after Day 3, feel free to repeat it as many times as necessary before you move on to day 4.

Also, I recommend signing up for some sort of classes/group activities as well. They're a good way of upping your social skill in a low-stress environment (i.e. no AA, and unless you're genuinely creepy/weird, you won't get rejected very often either.)
...Just make sure that it isn't your only way of meeting women. Cold approach is a must.

One other thing you might want to consider doing is making a Tinder. It takes literally 5 mins to set up an account. Even if you get very few matches, its still worth it. Cause it expands pretty much no time or effort, but it still might get you dates.

Thank you for the advice Bboy! I started with the newbie assignment and I did not realize how many good places and hot chicks are in Downtown Buenos Aires, right next to where I work. Setted up Tinder account and also I signed up for Couchsurfing as my ex is in her Country for a couple of weeks and I can offer accommodation to traveling girls who want to spend a few days in the city, did not realize about that! Even though if I do not get laid I can start having some serious conversations and get the hell out of my safe zone that I have built over the past 5 and a half years.