Which article? About losers framing losing as winning?

[Dylweed]

It was a while back, like a decade I think. But Chase had an article that in part of it, went on about how society has tried to frame losing as winning. Turning the tables. Basically saying, most men are failing, and instead of acknowledging that, they framed themselves as winning to not feel bad. Anyone know which article this was?

Chase has great pick up advice but in a lot of his articles he touches on even deeper concepts. Like his article about mainstream dating advice, he talked about how mainstream in general has shifted to be feminine. Which is even deeper than just dating advice. Chase is a smart dude and I wanna read that article again lol anyone know which one it is?

 

[Chase]

@Dylweed,

Should be this one:

Loser Mentality, or Why You Can’t Identify with Winners

You see a guy get success, but it doesn’t move you. You see a guy with girls all over him, but you just feel worse. Loser mentality makes everything a lot more loser-y. I’ve begun to tie together some common threads among scientific research and reactions we see among commenters on this website...

www.girlschase.com

Quote from the article (after reviewing a scientific study that found this):

That’s weird, right?

Show guys a clip of two girls competing over a guy, and men who view themselves as masculine start to feel more attractive and feel like they can be pickier, while men who view themselves as not so masculine start to feel less attractive and feel like they can’t be as picky.

Completely opposite effects. Show the guy winning with girls, and some guys feel better about themselves while other guys feel worse. Why?

In the pick up artist world, there’s a lot of talk about something being ‘out of someone’s reality’. Going out to a bar, picking up a girl, and bringing her home for a one-night stand – that’s just out of a lot of guys’ realities. They can’t really believe it’s possible, or they can’t imagine themselves doing it, or they make all kinds of zany assumptions about the girls who might do it... like “these girls must all be sluts.”

Show a man victory when he is unable to relate to the victor, and how does he take it?

Well, apparently, he takes it as a loss.

If you’ve read my article on the winner effect, you know well the cascading effect on hormones and, thus, emotions and behavior, of wins vs. losses.

Get a win and you feel better, stronger, bolder, more confident. You even start to win more.

But get a loss and you feel weaker, more vulnerable, less confident. You begin to lose more.

Could it be as simple as men who have it in their realities that, “Yes, I can get girls,” are able to relate to guys who succeed with girls, and empathize with a win when they see it... While men who don’t have this in their realities find it impossible to empathize with the winner, and so imagine themselves the loser instead, and get the commensurate hormone hit that comes with it?