Why am I interviewing? And how to stay away

[Twosees]

Hey gents back after a while. My social intuition is getting better these days but it still needs more work. I got my fundamentals for walking and eye movement on lock.
Anyway there's this cute girl at our school. Let's call her S. Shes very receiptive when I open her and she's always being mean playfully.
Today she kind of commented on my enthusiasm in greeting others, except for her. Is this interest?
Later on the day I greet her ask about the family. But I keep starting in such a weird way
asking her these questions like I'm in an interview. 'Where you going?
With who? '
Can't really understand why I do this though. That's basically my opening for girls these days and I fail to go into conversations that flows and have phrases.
And before I forget.. Should I still try to forge on or practice on another cute girl?

Really hope you guys could help.
Thanks

 

[Fuck This]

I remember being challenged with making conversation with people. It got to the point where one of the older guys in the fraternity would greet me with "OK what's your question NOW?"

I finally had to organize my thoughts to where I could answer myself those small talk questions people always ask. Some folks call them DHV stories.

You have got have the right balance of give and take to have an effective conversation so you might consider phasing these questions as a statement so it doesn't sound so interviewy.


"Man I hate going to concerts alone, but it is so tough to find a group of friends who like the same concert experience. Some want to sit back and listen to the music, others want to drink a lot, and dance. Seems like we all end up doing our own thing once we get there. What is your group of friends you go to concerts (or whatever) with like?

You gotta ask questions that aren't yes or no answers and give her a chance to explain herself. Find opportunities to share commonalities.
"man I had a dog that did that too! When it came time to do laundry I had to get my socks out of his dogbed." or "I think we all have had that friend we keep around so we remember how good our life is"

But sometimes you get caiught in an endless loop of questions and you just have to break out.

"Listen I didn't mean to play twenty questions. I just want to know more about you and what is important to you."

And then Shut up...

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

 

[Twosees]

I remember being challenged with making conversation with people. It got to the point where one of the older guys in the fraternity would greet me with "OK what's your question NOW?"

I finally had to organize my thoughts to where I could answer myself those small talk questions people always ask. Some folks call them DHV stories.

You have got have the right balance of give and take to have an effective conversation so you might consider phasing these questions as a statement so it doesn't sound so interviewy.


"Man I hate going to concerts alone, but it is so tough to find a group of friends who like the same concert experience. Some want to sit back and listen to the music, others want to drink a lot, and dance. Seems like we all end up doing our own thing once we get there. What is your group of friends you go to concerts (or whatever) with like?

You gotta ask questions that aren't yes or no answers and give her a chance to explain herself. Find opportunities to share commonalities.
"man I had a dog that did that too! When it came time to do laundry I had to get my socks out of his dogbed." or "I think we all have had that friend we keep around so we remember how good our life is"

But sometimes you get caiught in an endless loop of questions and you just have to break out.

"Listen I didn't mean to play twenty questions. I just want to know more about you and what is important to you."

And then Shut up...

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

Ay. Great to meat you man and thanks for giving your time to reply to me. Yeah this sounds like that advice that gets you excited. Now I have to implement it.
Again thank you