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Re: Why are girls attracted to dominance so much? why is it masculine to be domi
Jaegar,
I skimmed through this thread and may have missed some details. But there are a few things which immediately catch my eye
1. No matter what we tell you, you manage to spin it in a negative light, make it seem unfair, shitty or otherwise pessimistic. Here's the truth dude...there's nothing anyone can tell you which will break through that filter. The human mind is very powerful. We can interpret almost any exterior fact and write our own narrative about it (weather positive or negative). This narrative in turn, affects our behavior. The good news is that this is a conscious decision. You can choose to interpret the things that happen to you and the way the world is either positively or negatively. The choice is yours to make. And until you decide to view things in a positive light, you will never find success. And this isn't some Philosophical mumbo jumbo either. There's real science to back this up (I would link studies, but I'm too lazy to find them right now).
2. You say you took some action and got no results? I want to commend you on that.
The fact that you did something is great. But as you probably already know, its going to be shitty for a while. Such is the case with any new skill. Dating is no different. I had go to on 10-20 first dates before I got even a slight semblance of confidence. To put into context what I mean...I was literally in fight or flight for my first 10 dates or so. I was terrified. And the girls I met probably thought I was autistic or some shit. It was only after that that I started feeling comfortable with my surroundings, let alone finding any success.
And it wasn't until a year or so of consistent effort that I started consistently getting laid. So my advice would be to be patient.
3. Consider other options. Cold approach is not the only way to meet women. In fact, 99% of the population doesn't do it. And a good chunk of people are pretty happy. So if you don't like the "pain period" ( Which is what you're going through now. Where you try really hard but get no results for a while), consider meeting women by signing up for stuff where there is context for talking to women. So think...
-Charities
-Conferences
-Classes
-Sports
-Dance
....and so on. Pretty much anything you like to do...sign up to do it with a group of people. Some of which will be women. This can be advantages because the women you do meet will not flake on you very much. And they'll be much more inclined to have a conversation with you, there's a lot less pressure/anxiety to go with it, there's already built in context for talking to each other etc. But it also comes with a variety of drawbacks (you have to sign up for shit, more male competition, less women, you have to deal with groups and so on) But overall, its still easier at the start than cold approach is.
Jaegar,
I skimmed through this thread and may have missed some details. But there are a few things which immediately catch my eye
1. No matter what we tell you, you manage to spin it in a negative light, make it seem unfair, shitty or otherwise pessimistic. Here's the truth dude...there's nothing anyone can tell you which will break through that filter. The human mind is very powerful. We can interpret almost any exterior fact and write our own narrative about it (weather positive or negative). This narrative in turn, affects our behavior. The good news is that this is a conscious decision. You can choose to interpret the things that happen to you and the way the world is either positively or negatively. The choice is yours to make. And until you decide to view things in a positive light, you will never find success. And this isn't some Philosophical mumbo jumbo either. There's real science to back this up (I would link studies, but I'm too lazy to find them right now).
2. You say you took some action and got no results? I want to commend you on that.
The fact that you did something is great. But as you probably already know, its going to be shitty for a while. Such is the case with any new skill. Dating is no different. I had go to on 10-20 first dates before I got even a slight semblance of confidence. To put into context what I mean...I was literally in fight or flight for my first 10 dates or so. I was terrified. And the girls I met probably thought I was autistic or some shit. It was only after that that I started feeling comfortable with my surroundings, let alone finding any success. And it wasn't until a year or so of consistent effort that I started consistently getting laid. So my advice would be to be patient.
3. Consider other options. Cold approach is not the only way to meet women. In fact, 99% of the population doesn't do it. And a good chunk of people are pretty happy. So if you don't like the "pain period" ( Which is what you're going through now. Where you try really hard but get no results for a while), consider meeting women by signing up for stuff where there is context for talking to women. So think...
-Charities
-Conferences
-Classes
-Sports
-Dance
....and so on. Pretty much anything you like to do...sign up to do it with a group of people. Some of which will be women. This can be advantages because the women you do meet will not flake on you very much. And they'll be much more inclined to have a conversation with you, there's a lot less pressure/anxiety to go with it, there's already built in context for talking to each other etc. But it also comes with a variety of drawbacks (you have to sign up for shit, more male competition, less women, you have to deal with groups and so on) But overall, its still easier at the start than cold approach is.
