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-Liam Mcrae's http://rapidescalation.com/focus-positive-reference-experiences/ helped center me on this one.
Met girl online. slow but steady unneedy messaging
Saw windows to get a date FIRST/ get number/ saw window to invite her over that night.
Set up meet at supermarket for beer and to make a safe place to meet.
Early, so sitting in car. Then think CUTE GIRLS IN SUPERMARKET.
While in the store, see a cute blonde who I open, genuinely wanting to know where the organic grapes are.
She gives me great signals of interest with her eyes which I hold and she broke off first. The way we made eye contact may have been the best (or more obvious than the rest) indicator of interest I have ever gotten. Perhaps because I was also dressed very sexy and opened confidently loud. I totally could have picked her up. I let it slip though/ missed the window and then was trying to figure out what to do with her next which started to give me awkward vibes as she crossed my path in the store a couple more times. Soooo should have picked her up!
I totally need to internalize the DARK SIDE as Liam Mcrae puts it. Allowing myself to fail, feel humiliation, awkwardness, rejection instead of fearing it and then being paralyzed by it.
See girl meeting up with, not as cute but still cute.
Actually may be the least attractive girl I have hooked up with but I am glad I did.
Back at house listening to music.
I'm cold and I throw the blanket over us and tell her she's going to help keep me warm.
She warms up to me, but at first she literally says "no" to the blanket which I just completely ignore and laugh a bit inside.
drinking helped loosen us up, don't like to drink much but tonight I wanted a drink.
She actually got into a more comfortable cuddling position, I was doing things right because she was helping me a long.
I can totally see how sexuality is an art form, different styles held by different men. I was comfortable in my own style and being a man.
On the technical side of things
When she resisted or said she should go now (things were getting too hot) I just calibrated to her emotions and made her feel comfortable and let her know if she wanted to leave she could at anytime, also that I would let her go with little fuss but that I wanted her to stay. I literally said "Okay, you can go.... But I want you to stay" in a sexy whispery voice and still caressing her, maintaining the sexy vibe. MELTED.
I also man handled her, pulled her hair and groaned when she jerked me off which she loved all of.
Put my dick in her face when I thought she might take it, but she resisted.
After a while I let her sober up for the drive home
I didn't hug her when she left. I wanted to totally disqualify myself as a boyfriend (I was disqualifying myself as a boyfriend throughout the whole inetraction, but still am new to it) leading girls on sucks for them as much as it does for us. I think I could have hugged her anyway.
Pros
opening the cute blonde
and realizing I could have picked her up
slightly more bold escalation
lowered my standards and found she was very fun and sexy
handled resistance LIKE a pro
turned her on like I was in control
dominance
fun and hand job
Cons
failed to hit window with cute blonde
still a bit reserved when initiating escalation. (this is probably because the escalation essentially starts immediately, could have touched her and been more playful at store.)
talking a bit too much about self, but caught it
unsure where I fell, boy friend/lover
unsure how I handled her emotions, I'd like to leave girls better than I found them
Learned a lot on this one!
- J Wick
Met girl online. slow but steady unneedy messaging
Saw windows to get a date FIRST/ get number/ saw window to invite her over that night.
Set up meet at supermarket for beer and to make a safe place to meet.
Early, so sitting in car. Then think CUTE GIRLS IN SUPERMARKET.
While in the store, see a cute blonde who I open, genuinely wanting to know where the organic grapes are.
She gives me great signals of interest with her eyes which I hold and she broke off first. The way we made eye contact may have been the best (or more obvious than the rest) indicator of interest I have ever gotten. Perhaps because I was also dressed very sexy and opened confidently loud. I totally could have picked her up. I let it slip though/ missed the window and then was trying to figure out what to do with her next which started to give me awkward vibes as she crossed my path in the store a couple more times. Soooo should have picked her up!
I totally need to internalize the DARK SIDE as Liam Mcrae puts it. Allowing myself to fail, feel humiliation, awkwardness, rejection instead of fearing it and then being paralyzed by it.
See girl meeting up with, not as cute but still cute.
Actually may be the least attractive girl I have hooked up with but I am glad I did.
Back at house listening to music.
I'm cold and I throw the blanket over us and tell her she's going to help keep me warm.
She warms up to me, but at first she literally says "no" to the blanket which I just completely ignore and laugh a bit inside.
drinking helped loosen us up, don't like to drink much but tonight I wanted a drink.
She actually got into a more comfortable cuddling position, I was doing things right because she was helping me a long.
I can totally see how sexuality is an art form, different styles held by different men. I was comfortable in my own style and being a man.
On the technical side of things
When she resisted or said she should go now (things were getting too hot) I just calibrated to her emotions and made her feel comfortable and let her know if she wanted to leave she could at anytime, also that I would let her go with little fuss but that I wanted her to stay. I literally said "Okay, you can go.... But I want you to stay" in a sexy whispery voice and still caressing her, maintaining the sexy vibe. MELTED.
I also man handled her, pulled her hair and groaned when she jerked me off which she loved all of.
Put my dick in her face when I thought she might take it, but she resisted.
After a while I let her sober up for the drive home
I didn't hug her when she left. I wanted to totally disqualify myself as a boyfriend (I was disqualifying myself as a boyfriend throughout the whole inetraction, but still am new to it) leading girls on sucks for them as much as it does for us. I think I could have hugged her anyway.
Pros
opening the cute blonde
and realizing I could have picked her up
slightly more bold escalation
lowered my standards and found she was very fun and sexy
handled resistance LIKE a pro
turned her on like I was in control
dominance
fun and hand job
Cons
failed to hit window with cute blonde
still a bit reserved when initiating escalation. (this is probably because the escalation essentially starts immediately, could have touched her and been more playful at store.)
talking a bit too much about self, but caught it
unsure where I fell, boy friend/lover
unsure how I handled her emotions, I'd like to leave girls better than I found them
Learned a lot on this one!
- J Wick
