Wing-men: Who not to go with

[cuffs]

I hate typing, so I'll make this as short as possible.

I started hanging with this dude, and the first day, it was awesome. I was approaching and not caring about what anybody thought. He also approached, but not as much as me. I thought it was because he might be analyzing me, so he could better correct me when I make a mistake.

After hanging with him for awhile, I started noticing how insecure this dude is. He gets pissed when a girl ignores him, thinking a girl who looks at him wants to phuck him, kept on saying that going out to approach is lame and acting like he knows game through and through.

I had little to no approach anxiety, but this dude managed to make lose the enjoyment I had, when approaching, which makes me really anxious.

Bottom line is, you're better off doing it alone than with someone who always has something negative to say about going out to meet girls.

 

[Chase]

Cuffs,

Absolutely. The right wing can be an amplifier to your outings, but there are a LOT of guys who will detract.

My personal opinion is that game is best learned going out alone, although you'll have a bit of an initial hump to overcome (feeling weird or awkward for being solo). After a few months going out often enough though, that goes away, never to return, and you're flying.

It's also generally easier to pick up when you're by yourself - fewer considerations or responsibilities to worry about then. A good wing can be very helpful though, so long as the two of you are meeting new women and not spending 100% of your time just chatting because you're both cool people!

Chase

 

[Just_Dave]

Going out alone is way better especially when driving, you don't want to be responsible for dropping people off. Your main focus should be on you and the girl, besides three is a crowd.

If you do go out with a wing man go with someone who compliments you and knows you. I've gone out with my older brother before when we were at the mall or comedy clubs. Basically, you want someone who won't cock block you.

 

[Anonymous]

Going out alone requires time to get adjusted to it. Had to learn it when i travel for work and it is actually fun. You become all of the sudden independent and don't have take anyone into account before acting... Try it buddy and good luck.

 

[cuffs]

Thanks for the advice guys and yes, going out alone is fun. I used to do it, but I don't know why I stopped.Guess, I've got to start again.

 

[Light]

That raises up a good question...

Does anyone know if Chase has any blog up about "How to be a great Wing-Man" ??

I'd like to read up on that.

Thanks in advance.


Light

 

[Just_Dave]

That raises up a good question...

Does anyone know if Chase has any blog up about "How to be a great Wing-Man" ??

I'd like to read up on that.

Thanks in advance.


Light

https://www.girlschase.com/content/10-surprising-rules-how-be-wingman

 

[Light]

Thanks Just_Dave!

 

[Just_Dave]

Thanks Just_Dave!

No worries man!

 

[BdCohoe]

Ya I am in total agreement. If the goal is going out to meet women then having a wingman in most situations a drag. I go out with the guys for a few drinks at a pub and start chatting up a girl 1) I feel bad my friends are not having as much fun as I am. 2) your friends can unintentionally cock block you. They may mean to build you up but they can harm you much more then help.

 

[kneek0]

Yeah, most of my buddies are not very good wingmen, so I end up going out to bars with them, but then approaching women solo.
Sometimes I even go out by myself when my friends are lame and don't want to go out, and I have had success pulling women that way too. It takes a little getting used to, just be calm and confident, and focus on approaching how you would normally. You end up liking it a lot better because you end up having to meet new women or you'll be standing there by yourself!

 

[BdCohoe]

I have gone out by myself but I get a lot of "of why are you out by yourself". Questions. A lot of girls think its strange or they think your a player.

 

[kneek0]

BdCohoe,
A quick way to respond to a question like that is to just say, "I enjoy the nightlife and like to meet new people." You can even at to the end, "Especially beautiful women like yourself"