Wing of a Dancing Monkey!!!

[Spyce D]

So , I was out with a new wing ( who I met via whatsapp group) and were approaching ( basically doing Daygame) .

What felt really off to me was that whenever girls would talk to us , he would energetically react while they were speaking , for example , " hmmm" , " that's so awesome" , " wowww" . Now , he was saying it really loudly and energetically that sometimes even the girl would stop speaking for a bit .

Basically , being All high energy in a chill environment.

I was just being really relaxed because I had no other idea on what to do ..... I don't know if that makes me a less of a leader in girls eyes for not controlling the situation .

What should I do to handle such situations where peeps ( due to being so much high energy ) won't really let me speak ....whether in seduction or non seduction situations ??

 

[SeptemberGold]

I'm not sure exactly what would be the "smoothest" way of doing this in this particular situation... Off the top of my head, giving him a bored look might be a way of indicating you aren't paying much attention or that he's messing up a bit. You would probably have to have a private conversation with him afterwards, as you are going out with him as a friend, not approaching him (obviously!)

In general, people who talk non stop tend to be really oblivious to it, and sometimes (usually) get immediately bored or uncomfortable when not talking. When I used to do door-to-door years ago my partner and I would just straight interrupt them, speaking firmly with pauses /eye contact, following that up with giving them something to read out loud. While that made them listen and temporarily gave us control of the conversation, they often were startled and then went right back to speaking ad-nauseum once we were done. So with certain people we just had to learn to be comfortable with firmly interrupting when we needed to talk.

 

[Chase]

@Spyce D,

Guys have all different kinds of styles, and you will get guys like this who, while new, have this overly pushy sort of approach (just as you will meet overly shy guys, and guys doing all sorts of things).

So here's an idea: if you want to keep winging with this guy, do this:

• Next time you go out with him, ask him if he's down to debrief each other at the end of the session. Tell him to keep an eye out for anything he thinks you do well, plus things he thinks you need to work on. You'll do the same.
  
  
• Then at the end let him go first, and tell you what he thinks you're doing well, versus what he thinks you aren't. Then you go: tell him stuff he does well, then go for the criticism. You can bring up his overeager reactions too and suggest that he make those come across more subdued/natural.

(or you might just realize this guy's too annoying to wing with and keep looking for wings. If you don't have much choice though, gotta work with what you've got... or else roll solo!)

Chase

 

[Spyce D]

@Spyce D,

Guys have all different kinds of styles, and you will get guys like this who, while new, have this overly pushy sort of approach (just as you will meet overly shy guys, and guys doing all sorts of things).

So here's an idea: if you want to keep winging with this guy, do this:

• Next time you go out with him, ask him if he's down to debrief each other at the end of the session. Tell him to keep an eye out for anything he thinks you do well, plus things he thinks you need to work on. You'll do the same.
  
  
• Then at the end let him go first, and tell you what he thinks you're doing well, versus what he thinks you aren't. Then you go: tell him stuff he does well, then go for the criticism. You can bring up his overeager reactions too and suggest that he make those come across more subdued/natural.

(or you might just realize this guy's too annoying to wing with and keep looking for wings. If you don't have much choice though, gotta work with what you've got... or else roll solo!)

Chase

I see.

So, next time when I go out with him I will do as you say .

Let's see if he complies . And if he doesn't I will simply look for another wing .

I am also preparing myself so that I can roll solo .

Thanks for the advice .

Spyce.

 

[Spyce D]

I'm not sure exactly what would be the "smoothest" way of doing this in this particular situation... Off the top of my head, giving him a bored look might be a way of indicating you aren't paying much attention or that he's messing up a bit. You would probably have to have a private conversation with him afterwards, as you are going out with him as a friend, not approaching him (obviously!)

In general, people who talk non stop tend to be really oblivious to it, and sometimes (usually) get immediately bored or uncomfortable when not talking. When I used to do door-to-door years ago my partner and I would just straight interrupt them, speaking firmly with pauses /eye contact, following that up with giving them something to read out loud. While that made them listen and temporarily gave us control of the conversation, they often were startled and then went right back to speaking ad-nauseum once we were done. So with certain people we just had to learn to be comfortable with firmly interrupting when we needed to talk.

Interesting .