Socializing Woman teases about money.

[SunnyVibes]

Hello all!

I have been in 2 situations where cashier women tease me about the price of an object.

1) I am boarding a flight. I ask if online ticket is sufficient or do I need a physical boarding pass. Also, I ask if printing the boarding pass cost money.

The woman prints out the ticket and asks for $25. I say I didn’t ask for her to print it.
She starts laughing and says its a joke.

I laugh because of mirror neurons I imagine. But later I don’t want to have laughed.

2) I am at Chipotle. I ask for the cost of an extra serving of chicken. It is $6. I say no thank you. When I get to checkout, the girl says would I like a paper bag it costs $2. I say no thank you-she laughs and says she’s just kidding. She packs it to me and passes me my order.
Because of her positive body language, I respond with positive eye contact- slow 2 eye blink and a small smile. I wish almost immediately I did not.

What is the correct way to handle similar situations?
Also, how to get control of my body language in these situations?

 

[topcat]

Hello all!

I have been in 2 situations where cashier women tease me about the price of an object.

1) I am boarding a flight. I ask if online ticket is sufficient or do I need a physical boarding pass. Also, I ask if printing the boarding pass cost money.

The woman prints out the ticket and asks for $25. I say I didn’t ask for her to print it.
She starts laughing and says its a joke.

I laugh because of mirror neurons I imagine. But later I don’t want to have laughed.

2) I am at Chipotle. I ask for the cost of an extra serving of chicken. It is $6. I say no thank you. When I get to checkout, the girl says would I like a paper bag it costs $2. I say no thank you-she laughs and says she’s just kidding. She packs it to me and passes me my order.
Because of her positive body language, I respond with positive eye contact- slow 2 eye blink and a small smile. I wish almost immediately I did not.

What is the correct way to handle similar situations?
Also, how to get control of my body language in these situations?

My immediate thought is “who cares? you’ll likely never see these women again. Were you trying to seduce them? no.. so why then do you care how many times you blinked at them?”

They were having a laugh and a joke with you. It’s far more seductive to not take yourself too seriously than it is to worry about a girl joking about $2. Laughing back is fine.

I’ve slept with countless girls that made fun of me on a date. One not too long ago told me i needed therapy and told me i have commitment issues.

Banged her 30mins later.

Don’t take things (especially girls) so seriously.

 

[SunnyVibes]

Laughing back is fine

Gotcha TopCat. Thanks!

Warmly,
SunnyVibes

 

[Chase]

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I think what you're getting at in the post here is that "didn't catch the joke, then feel a bit goofy just standing there laughing at yourself for not having caught it."

When cashiers joke to me that something that should be free costs something, if I catch it, I just joke back:

CASHIER: That'll be $600 for these two tacos, then.​

​

ME: Wow, this inflation sure is getting out of hand, isn't it?​

Or:

CASHIER: There's a 30% gratuity on your order. (joking)​

​

ME: I knew I should've taken a loan out before coming here.​

If they catch me with the joke (like in your examples... it happens sometimes... they ask you for some extra cash and you are like, "Huh?" thinking they might really mean it... then they tell you it's a joke), you just recover and do the same thing:

CASHIER: That'll be $600 for these two tacos, then.​

​

ME: Uhhh... you mean $6?​

​

CASHIER: Yeah, I was joking. It's actually $4.37.​

​

ME: Oh, right. Here I was thinking, "Sheesh, these darn food prices... getting crazier all the time!"​

It's a better recovery than just standing there with a dumb grin on your face going, "Oh, yeah..." and then you feel dumb for not having caught the joke and they feel dumb for having made a joke you didn't catch that made the customer uncomfortable.

Chase

 

[SunnyVibes]

Hey @Chase , a very informative reply-the comeback article will be useful.

think what you're getting at in the post here is that "didn't catch the joke, then feel a bit goofy just standing there laughing at yourself for not having caught it."

Actually, I feel a hint unsure.
The situation:
I ask for any extra charges a service might cost before making a decision.
The cashier notices my calculations and decides to make the extra charge joke.

This joke happens in areas not related to money, and the person’s intentions are friendly but the connotation of the joke is negative:

Easily bothered, cheap, etc.

I personally am not worried about what this trait of mine says about me, but nowadays I wonder if I should discourage anyone from making remarks for social reasons.

Maybe you could offer an insight into the mindset? I hope you can help! Also, thoughts from everyone else is welcome!

Warmly,
SunnyVibes

Side note, what is the appropriate tone of the comeback for showing unacceptance.

 

[Skills]

Hello all!

I have been in 2 situations where cashier women tease me about the price of an object.

1) I am boarding a flight. I ask if online ticket is sufficient or do I need a physical boarding pass. Also, I ask if printing the boarding pass cost money.

The woman prints out the ticket and asks for $25. I say I didn’t ask for her to print it.
She starts laughing and says its a joke.

I laugh because of mirror neurons I imagine. But later I don’t want to have laughed.

2) I am at Chipotle. I ask for the cost of an extra serving of chicken. It is $6. I say no thank you. When I get to checkout, the girl says would I like a paper bag it costs $2. I say no thank you-she laughs and says she’s just kidding. She packs it to me and passes me my order.
Because of her positive body language, I respond with positive eye contact- slow 2 eye blink and a small smile. I wish almost immediately I did not.

What is the correct way to handle similar situations?
Also, how to get control of my body language in these situations?

Yes when this happens consider the interactions iois so take the opportunity to flirt and extend interactions...like chase examples, I do similar...