Women at work

[Boom_1982]

I've women at work who like me and all are married or have boyfriends including myself. I like them too and in general I like women. Their presence in my life matters because I learn from them and it's mutual learning and respect on both sides however due to work environment I am unable to pursue LTRs with them. Should I find a diff place to work?

 

[sejinlee09]

Just practice flirting (or at least don't ignore them completely cause they might take offense and get petty with you) while keeping your distance. Focus on work.

 

[Boom_1982]

That's precisely what my game has been and I guess they all understand and co-operate. However, we do have our moments when no one is watching which keeps it fresh and exciting. Few have taken offense because I reached out for help and was ignored point blank but that's alright. Part of game. In the long scheme of things, I'm planning to move to diff org so that I have meaningful relationships with them.

 

[Teevster]

You have a boyfriend and want women with boyfriends?

 

[Boom_1982]

My bad. Attached women with whom I share mutual attraction and liking. Understand discretion, dominance, focus and logistics should be my key strengths to achieve success and I'm working on them. Only challenge is shared work environment

 

[Orgasmatron]

I've women at work who like me and all are married or have boyfriends including myself. I like them too and in general I like women. Their presence in my life matters because I learn from them and it's mutual learning and respect on both sides however due to work environment I am unable to pursue LTRs with them. Should I find a diff place to work?

Hey dude,

I don't think moving jobs so you can date women at your work is a good move.

Plenty of chicks out there who don't work at the same place as you.

Also, I don't think you should be changing what you do to accommodate them.
Are they going to move jobs to get with you? I doubt it.

 

[Boom_1982]

Got it and thanks for perspective. Well it could also be that they have rejected offers to be in this office because they know that only place where we can meet is work because meeting outside is a hassle

 

[sejinlee09]

I think the best option for women from work is to just build tension with them without escalating. For me, If I were to pursue it, I use them for preselection and just to flirt with. Nothing more cause the downsides just aren't worth it.

 

[Boom_1982]

I think the best option for women from work is to just build tension with them without escalating. For me, If I were to pursue it, I use them for preselection and just to flirt with. Nothing more cause the downsides just aren't worth it.

I agree. Are there any benefits of building tension? What's the point in making so much?

 

[sejinlee09]

I agree. Are there any benefits of building tension? What's the point in making so much?

Well, like you said. If there ever comes a time where the opportunity comes (I.e you leave or she leaves the work place), you can choose to escalate because the tension is already built slowly over time.

 

[Boom_1982]

Good point. Yes, I'd like to have meaningful relationships outside of work however the urge to form them at workplace is strong and the challenge is going to be to control that urge. Thanks all.