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Hello guys!
In time I have noticed that women pretty much reject you the same way, regardless of whether your attainability is too low or too high. I, for instance, usually come off as rather un-attainable. I flirt and tease a lot and I sometimes fail to deepen the connection. However, what I've noticed is that whenever girls go into what looks like auto-rejection, they reject me in a similar way to what you hear from your ordinary nice guy that he encounters.
For instance, one of the most common ways a girl shuts a nice guy down is by no longer texting / ghosting. Yet I've had a girl do the same to me, even though I'm quite certain she was auto-rejecting, as she herself hinted when I encountered her at a later date.
So do I get it right when I say that women will reject you in the same way, regardless of where your attainability stands?
If so, how do I know which one it is? One difference that I've noticed is that women who are auto-rejecting are usually getting mad at you. I must mention though that I've only ever white-knighted a girl once. She once got mad at me and I acted like a total wuss til' she blew me off. That was 2 years ago and looking back, her getting mad at me (or rather acting mad cuz we didn't really fight) was actually a shit test which I failed because when she blew me off she acted totally indifferent and she ended up friend-zoning me. Now, because of her and her shit-test, each time women get mad at me I'm thinking I'm getting shit-tested again so I don't actually make any adjustments and I seem to deepen their auto-rejection.
I guess that you can tell by now that I'm kinda confused, and indeed I am. That's why I'm here, trying to figure out the flaws in my game and if anyone could help me shed some light, I'll be very grateful.
So to get to the point:
1) How do I make the difference between a woman rejecting me because my attainability is too high versus too low?
2) If a woman is getting mad at me and actually engaging in fights with me, telling me that I don't care, blaming stuff on me etc is it safe to assume that she's truly mad and auto-rejecting rather than throwing a shit-test at me?
Also when girls go cold and lift their walls really high up in the air, is that also a sign of auto-rejection? Judging by what I've described so far, am I accurate when I say that I seem to have a problem with my attainability being too low? Most of the advice out there is designed to cure the nice guy syndrome and I feel like Chase is right when he says that low attainability is an underrated issue and it might come off as hard to believe at first but that it actually happens quite a lot.
If you could give some tips on how to determine where my attainability stands and how to fix it, that would be great.
Thanks a lot!
In time I have noticed that women pretty much reject you the same way, regardless of whether your attainability is too low or too high. I, for instance, usually come off as rather un-attainable. I flirt and tease a lot and I sometimes fail to deepen the connection. However, what I've noticed is that whenever girls go into what looks like auto-rejection, they reject me in a similar way to what you hear from your ordinary nice guy that he encounters.
For instance, one of the most common ways a girl shuts a nice guy down is by no longer texting / ghosting. Yet I've had a girl do the same to me, even though I'm quite certain she was auto-rejecting, as she herself hinted when I encountered her at a later date.
So do I get it right when I say that women will reject you in the same way, regardless of where your attainability stands?
If so, how do I know which one it is? One difference that I've noticed is that women who are auto-rejecting are usually getting mad at you. I must mention though that I've only ever white-knighted a girl once. She once got mad at me and I acted like a total wuss til' she blew me off. That was 2 years ago and looking back, her getting mad at me (or rather acting mad cuz we didn't really fight) was actually a shit test which I failed because when she blew me off she acted totally indifferent and she ended up friend-zoning me. Now, because of her and her shit-test, each time women get mad at me I'm thinking I'm getting shit-tested again so I don't actually make any adjustments and I seem to deepen their auto-rejection.
I guess that you can tell by now that I'm kinda confused, and indeed I am. That's why I'm here, trying to figure out the flaws in my game and if anyone could help me shed some light, I'll be very grateful.
So to get to the point:
1) How do I make the difference between a woman rejecting me because my attainability is too high versus too low?
2) If a woman is getting mad at me and actually engaging in fights with me, telling me that I don't care, blaming stuff on me etc is it safe to assume that she's truly mad and auto-rejecting rather than throwing a shit-test at me?
Also when girls go cold and lift their walls really high up in the air, is that also a sign of auto-rejection? Judging by what I've described so far, am I accurate when I say that I seem to have a problem with my attainability being too low? Most of the advice out there is designed to cure the nice guy syndrome and I feel like Chase is right when he says that low attainability is an underrated issue and it might come off as hard to believe at first but that it actually happens quite a lot.
If you could give some tips on how to determine where my attainability stands and how to fix it, that would be great.
Thanks a lot!
