Location: nearly dead at this time. Come back earlier.
Girl 1: An Indian girl sitting at an outdoor table. Approach was competent but not too confident, just the usual "thought you were cute wanted to talk to you". She mumbled something so I leaned in and said "I"m sorry?" She then yelled at me "I don't know you, you can go now!" I've been shut down before but never yelled at. Fortunately, I handled it with aplomb and walked off without another word but still slightly rattled.
To improve on: She was probably just having a bad day, but my opening could have been stronger to transfer states and make her feel better.
Girl 2: Walking past the school library, a cute hispanic girl was lying on a bench. I didn't approach her because I have the anxiety again but she looked up and saw me which made it easy for me remark "Tired?" From there, it was easy to make conversation. She said she was there for orientation and she was very energetic. I weaved a question about her age into the conversation and she told me she was 18 and had just graduated high school which explains her chirpy demeanor. I asked her if she would like to see the art building (an easy excuse to move her). She complied and on our way there I got the number but not in the smoothest way. It went something like this: "Would you like to meet up again?" "Sure, so you go to *other school*? I know a guy who goes there, do you know him?" I saw how this was either her being scatter-brained or deflecting my attempt so I simply said "Hold up a minute, let me get your digits first, then you can tell me" I say digits instead of number because of what Chase said about the word "number" having a negative connotation in girl's minds. Get the number then proceed to walk around some more making slight banter and slight touching. Girls commonly forget my name because it's foreign so I did my "Chi Flow Gambit" wherein I take her hand and tell her if she can feel the energy flowing from her to me and then guess my name. Although, it wasn't nearly as sexy as it could have been probably because I was a little jarred from losing a frame encounter earlier. I try to do this with two hands so I asked her to put down her bag. She said no. Told her it'll be fine. Still said no. We parted ways some minutes later. A nice encounter which picked up my spirits but probably a low rate of return.
To improve on: There was ZERO sexual tension in this encounter, her personality diffused any I tried to build. Also, be more commanding; don't lose frame encounter. Asking her to put down her bag might have put thoughts like I would steal it in her brain so I should have said :"don't worry, it'll be fine, nobody's going to steal it"
Girl 3: Sitting on a outdoor table, studying for calculus. More confident from before so I tell that I think she's beautiful (go big or go home, right?) Sitting down is a little awkward because she had her bag there and I knew that I was bothering her somewhat so I wasn't as sure of myself when I asked her to move it but she did and I sat down. Did some okay deep diving, asked her why she wanted to be a mechanical engineer and she said that five years of teaching english didn't appeal to her anymore and everyone else in her family is an engineer of a different variety. She had sunglasses on so I tried to build some tension by asking her what color her eyes were. She pulled her sunglasses down and said "What color are they today?" which now that I think about it was probably slight flirting but I botched it by not holding her gaze and answering her question too soon defusing any tension I myself tried to build. Tried to move her some minutes later, but she says she was okay. A couple of minutes later and she says the dreaded "Well, I have to..." in this case studying but in any case, a nice way to try to get you to leave. I asked if she wanted to meet up sometime and she said "I PROMISE I'm okay".
To improve on: Failed attempt at tension building not to mention slightly clunky deep diving. After she refused to move, I knew I had lost so I guess I should have persisted instead.
Girl 4: Walking back to my car, I see her walking towards me. Feeling better now, I stop her to tell her she's very cute but she is obviously not flattered and just keeps walking past slightly. I turn my body to her so as to not disengage the conversation and she stops fully but she is not jiving at all with my attempts to make conversation. She answers more out of social politeness than out of enthusiasm. I let her go.
To improve on: Be cooler? Look better? I guess I was sweating pretty profusely in my button down in the Southern summertime. It was awkward and I have trouble knowing why. I think that I was trying too hard.
Girl 1: An Indian girl sitting at an outdoor table. Approach was competent but not too confident, just the usual "thought you were cute wanted to talk to you". She mumbled something so I leaned in and said "I"m sorry?" She then yelled at me "I don't know you, you can go now!" I've been shut down before but never yelled at. Fortunately, I handled it with aplomb and walked off without another word but still slightly rattled.
To improve on: She was probably just having a bad day, but my opening could have been stronger to transfer states and make her feel better.
Girl 2: Walking past the school library, a cute hispanic girl was lying on a bench. I didn't approach her because I have the anxiety again but she looked up and saw me which made it easy for me remark "Tired?" From there, it was easy to make conversation. She said she was there for orientation and she was very energetic. I weaved a question about her age into the conversation and she told me she was 18 and had just graduated high school which explains her chirpy demeanor. I asked her if she would like to see the art building (an easy excuse to move her). She complied and on our way there I got the number but not in the smoothest way. It went something like this: "Would you like to meet up again?" "Sure, so you go to *other school*? I know a guy who goes there, do you know him?" I saw how this was either her being scatter-brained or deflecting my attempt so I simply said "Hold up a minute, let me get your digits first, then you can tell me" I say digits instead of number because of what Chase said about the word "number" having a negative connotation in girl's minds. Get the number then proceed to walk around some more making slight banter and slight touching. Girls commonly forget my name because it's foreign so I did my "Chi Flow Gambit" wherein I take her hand and tell her if she can feel the energy flowing from her to me and then guess my name. Although, it wasn't nearly as sexy as it could have been probably because I was a little jarred from losing a frame encounter earlier. I try to do this with two hands so I asked her to put down her bag. She said no. Told her it'll be fine. Still said no. We parted ways some minutes later. A nice encounter which picked up my spirits but probably a low rate of return.
To improve on: There was ZERO sexual tension in this encounter, her personality diffused any I tried to build. Also, be more commanding; don't lose frame encounter. Asking her to put down her bag might have put thoughts like I would steal it in her brain so I should have said :"don't worry, it'll be fine, nobody's going to steal it"
Girl 3: Sitting on a outdoor table, studying for calculus. More confident from before so I tell that I think she's beautiful (go big or go home, right?) Sitting down is a little awkward because she had her bag there and I knew that I was bothering her somewhat so I wasn't as sure of myself when I asked her to move it but she did and I sat down. Did some okay deep diving, asked her why she wanted to be a mechanical engineer and she said that five years of teaching english didn't appeal to her anymore and everyone else in her family is an engineer of a different variety. She had sunglasses on so I tried to build some tension by asking her what color her eyes were. She pulled her sunglasses down and said "What color are they today?" which now that I think about it was probably slight flirting but I botched it by not holding her gaze and answering her question too soon defusing any tension I myself tried to build. Tried to move her some minutes later, but she says she was okay. A couple of minutes later and she says the dreaded "Well, I have to..." in this case studying but in any case, a nice way to try to get you to leave. I asked if she wanted to meet up sometime and she said "I PROMISE I'm okay".
To improve on: Failed attempt at tension building not to mention slightly clunky deep diving. After she refused to move, I knew I had lost so I guess I should have persisted instead.
Girl 4: Walking back to my car, I see her walking towards me. Feeling better now, I stop her to tell her she's very cute but she is obviously not flattered and just keeps walking past slightly. I turn my body to her so as to not disengage the conversation and she stops fully but she is not jiving at all with my attempts to make conversation. She answers more out of social politeness than out of enthusiasm. I let her go.
To improve on: Be cooler? Look better? I guess I was sweating pretty profusely in my button down in the Southern summertime. It was awkward and I have trouble knowing why. I think that I was trying too hard.
