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fearlessuk

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Approached a girl and felt she was nervous. I didn't think going direct would work, so experimented with asking for directions.

F: excuse me, do you know where Camden Town station is by the way.

+ Camden Town is nearby

+ I think this is the worst opener ever for me. The problem here is I shot myself in the foot because I was born here. This info obviously would come out later, if the interaction went well. If you lie about this, what else could you lie about. Girls are looking for honest signals. The best asking for directions is asking for a place. I really wanted to do an opinion opener but didn't have the guts to.

+ An other opener I could try is. I saw you from over there and I had to say hello (if you feel she didn't react well)

+ I could try directions and then launch into an opinion opener

NOTE: I think because I like going direct so much, I haven't really experimented with the other openers. That's why I'm weak at the other one's. I haven't decided what I want to do with my game yet. I think I just stick to direct openers at the moment

STICK WITH THIS ONE FOR THE TIME BEING: maybe just go direct and if you get blown, just open an other girl. There will be times where you get blown out a lot and you have to accept that. This will happen and it's normal. Eventually like always, you will find a girl that's into you.

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fearlessuk

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+ direct

F: where you from? You look like your from korea

F: my name is F, whats your name?

+ I felt this girl wasn't interested from her reaction towards me. So I backed away a bit. She wasn't pretty at all, when I spot a girl, I open quickly to not get into my head. She was quite ugly actually lol. Maybe a Hb4 or 5. I got blown out a lot so decided to practice my self amusement on her, at this moment I was opened to socialising with anyone because of the blow outs.

+ I believe 5 or 6 minutes in, I invaded her personal space and she didn't back away lol. I was scared to escalate on her because I really didn't want to haha. I still wanted to have fun with this.

HB: May

F: May is not a Korean name

HB: it's an English name

+ she gave one worded answers, I felt she think I looked dodgy or wanted something from her. We where outside gap where the entrance door was. The gap employees where looking at us. I wanted to move her to one side but she decided to stay and plant her feet.

+ Next time don't worry about the staff members looking at you, pretend they are not there. If they don't want you to block the entrance, they will tell you.

F: you look like a tourist, you look like a traveller or something

HB: yeah

F: is it, do you like it in the UK?

HB: yeah

+ she has a professional camera

F: what are you taking pictures of? landscape or haha

+ I kept plowing and plowing even though she gave me one word answers

HB: now?

+ still confused why I was chatting her up. I guess no one chats her up and that's why it confused her.

F: yeah are you travelling or something?

HB: yeah, just travelling

F: why is you English very good

HB: err no

F: hahaha so have you been to central london?

HB: maybe, I don't know which is central

F: this is Central London, how long are you staying for in the Uk?

F: can we stand over here

+ I move her to the side, good :)

HB: I think I have to go now

F: oh, you have to go but your English is very good

HB: thank you

F: so have you been learning English in Korea?

HB: I'm studying in Malta

F: where is that

HB: it's a small Island near Italy. It's below Italy on the map

F: how long are you staying in Uk for?

HB: an other 3 days

F: so an other 3 days and bye bye :)

HB: I like it but have to go to other countries

F: your English is good, do they speak English in Malta?

NOTE: I think I wasn't expecting anything from the conversation, so I was able to plow. I just wanted a conversation.

F: you look like a photographer, do you study photography or something

HB: no, I just study Chinese language

+ I speak to her in Chinese but she couldn't understand it

F: are you the oldest in the family

HB: yes

F: so your the strong one, the one that strangles him

HB: maybe

F: slap him around abit. If he is naughty sphh spphhh ( slapping hnad movement)

HB: no

F: haha what does your brother do then?

HB: He is in the army

F: the army?

F: In Korea, you have to be in the army?

HB: when your 20, you have to join the army, it's your duty

F: I think it's the same in Taiwan

F: your so lucky, you don't have to join the army :) why you so lucky

HB: I don't know because I'm a woman

F: I'm a women but you can say, no, i'm a man. look how big I am

HB: I think in future it will change

F: nah, it's better to not have women out there but do you not want to go?

HB: yeah i want to go

F: then why you didn't put your hand up and say, I want to go

HB: you can not

F: really, they are very sexist

F: you should tell your prime minister, your very sexist, you can't be like that, you should give woman a chance to go into the army

F: what do you do for fun then, apart from chatting to men

HB: where are you going to

F: basically i finished dim sum with my friend, and then I came out here to do some shopping, then i saw you and thought, you kind of look cute

HB: okay thank you but I think I have to go now

F: really why so quick.

HB: because I'm a traveller and not have so much time.

F: how do you say bye bye in Korean

HB: onion

F: onion. i thought that was hello

HB: it's hello and good bye

F: so have you been to Big Ben and London Eye

NOTE: good change the thread an continue. Something you did really well was, you knew she wanted to travel more and you recommended more places for her to visit. If there is a place, she has not visit before, she will see value in that.

F: how about Greenwich, you should definitely go, you have 3 more days and I recommend Greenwich

HB: Greenwich

F: I also recommend Primrose hill

HB: I been there

F: you can go back to Korea and become an English Teacher. Your English is very good

HB: ah no

HB: I saw there is a toy shop with harry porter

F: you like harry porter

HB: yeah

F: you should get a scar on the forehead or a tattoo on your head. You can be like harry, you can be special like him.

HB: no :)

F: then you can get harry porter hair. Do you like Daniel Radcliffe

HB: Yes I like him

F: he is your dream man, you want him to be your husband. He is still single, do you know that. I got his number, you can call him and

F: hello Harry, nice meeting you, I'm a big fan of yours

HB: I don't want

F: I'm kidding. British humour

HB: haha British humour

NOTE: you can learn a lot of thing from girls you have no interest in. You can ask them to break things down for you. This will help with other girls in the future

F: what other parts of Korea are there apart from Soul

HB: Buzan

F: I heard of Buzan, whats that like

HB: blah blah

F: there is a zombie movie in Buzan

F: blah blah

F: they are combining Zombie move with history

HB: Kingdom tv drama

F: do you have any tattoos, you look like you have tattoos

HB: no I don't have

F: you look like a bad girl

F: I should take you to a tattoo parlour and get you a tattoo

NOTE: I now have the ability to plow. I love the fact, she only gave one worded answers and i only focused on pressing my own self amusement buttons. It's like i didn't care about how she felt and focused on my own mood. I chatted with her for 18 minutes even though she wanted to leave a few times, i was able to keep the conversation going.

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fearlessuk

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The shy girl from china

Direct

+ i believe she is frightened of guys approaching her based on her reaction. She has a (what does he want) kinda face.

Repeat opener to her

HB: no

F: no haha

F: my name is F, whats your name?

HB Cherry

F: Cherry, what you doing down here? are you from China or?

HB: er

F: yes or no ha

+ With this girl, I spoke very genitally. She very nervous which kind of make me nervous. I carried on to see what is happening, not enough info at the moment

F: so , you look like your studying or something

HB: study

F: do you study here?

HB: yeah

F: your first time or?

+ I felt awkward and unsure of what to do but plowed because I didn't see myself doing anything wrong or bad

F: you look like you study art

HB: no costume

F: so this your first time in Uk or?

HB; first time

HB: I need to go for dinner, is there anything you want or I can help you with

F: no problem, it's fine. I think you look very pretty. I just wanted to get to know you but i also know you think it's strange because you look very funny right now haha. You look like omg, what does he want. i don't want anything, I just want to get to know you.

F: it's okay, don't worry, it's fine. it's okay to be pretty

NOTE: this is very good :) You told her how you felt and it's okay to tell a girl she is pretty or cute. Don't feel bad about it. Don't allow her to box you in and make you feel bad about it. I know she has no interest based on my gut. She is allowed to feel what she feels and you are allowed to feel what you feel. Your allowed to express yourself and that's what a man does. No bullshit and stick to your guns and tell her she is pretty.

HB: because I'm very

F: shy or what

HB: yeah

F: in China no one tell you are pretty?

HB: no stranger

F: just through a friend

HB: yeah

F: friend tell you, you are pretty but stranger never tell you are pretty

HB: yeah

F: how old are you, if you don't mind me asking

HB: 20

F: ahh kind of make sense because maybe your first time in Uk or something and this is strange for you

NOTE: i like the way you make it sound normal lol

F: because you don't know me and when i tell you, you are pretty

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