4 Approaches/Day (30 Day Challenge)

[AspiringStoic]

Have had to take a pause!
Unfortunately, I have had to take a pause in the 30 day challenge. Have caught a flu and a really bad sore throat. So I did not leave the house today at all. Just stayed in, getting plenty of rest and drinking tea.

Hopefully I recover asap and hope to be back infield asap. Would be great if I can get back tomorrow but more realistically looks like I should recover by Sunday.

 

[AspiringStoic]

So....

Unfortunately the pause lasted a lot longer than I expected. I developed quite a cough so had to stay at home and rest.

Now I think I am recovered enough to dive back in from tomorrow. I am just going to continue counting from Day 13 though I am sure I have lost a lot of momentum due to this break.

But will go ahead now and try to get to Day 30 uninterrupted. The 30 days in a row without a gap would have been way more powerful. But lets see where I am by Day 30 and will decide what to do after that.

 

[gameboy]

Glad to read you're feeling better! Good luck!

 

[alexlaguma]

Commenting so I get updates. keep going bro ... this is fun to read.

Actually doing a similar re-introduction to daygame myself at the moment. Kind of informally forcing myself to do 3 approches a day to build up the social momentum after a little hiatus. A lot of the themes you've touched on here are resonating with me.

So much randomness attached to it. Just gotta keep ploughing away. Do the numbers and you will get your rewards.

 

[DarkKnight]

I also do 4 approaches. Always good to have a funnel of new women. It is so automatic at this point that I feel cognitive dissonance if I dont do it.

Ofcourse some days I am more occupied than other days but you guys get what I mean

 

[AspiringStoic]

So got back to it a day later.

Day 13 (30 November, 2024)

Definitely rusty after a week of no approaches and being couped up inside the house for most of it.

Approach 1
At the tram stop. Just a compliment and left. Just wanted to get the ball rolling.

Approach 2
At the same tram stop. Girl with a nice coat. Gave her a compliment on the coat. She thanked me but she was on a phone call. So just wished her a good day.

Approach 3
2 set Asians walking. Went in, stopped them and opened with a compliment. Cold read on nationality. Turns out they are Chinese. Just chat a bit. But they look like they want to leave the interaction. They are just tourists. So just wish them a good day and leave.

Approach 4
Pretty girl with glasses in a pink coat. She just passes me and is walking in the opposite direction. I turn around and catch up to her and stop her just before she is about to cross the road. I deliver my compliment. She is stunned. Immeditae wide eyes, blushing and comes closer to me etc. But... unfortunately her English is bad. I switch to her native language for a bit, it calms her down and we switch back to English. We have a short conversation. But its still quite tough so I ultimately wish her a good day and leave.

In hindsight should have just gone for the close.

Takeaways
Nothing much except I can see how much consistently plays a part in this. Was definitely rusty and if I had momentum on my side I think I would have been sharper and gone for the close on the last interaction.

 

[DarkKnight]

You know what i hate aboyt 4 approaches a day although i also do it .. it is a bit harder to combine with sniper game where you look for ai or interest. So you need to adjust that you are going to get less favorable results as you are focusing on getting the numbers.

Seriously for me it is now like doing mandatory amount of pushups per day or something

 

[AspiringStoic]

You know what i hate aboyt 4 approaches a day although i also do it .. it is a bit harder to combine with sniper game where you look for ai or interest. So you need to adjust that you are going to get less favorable results as you are focusing on getting the numbers.

Seriously for me it is now like doing mandatory amount of pushups per day or something

I see. But its not really an issue for me. I don't check for AIs or anything. I literally just see a girl I like and go approach. Most of them will only know I exist once I stop them and start talking to them.

 

[Stark]

Definitely rusty after a week of no approaches and being couped up inside the house for most of it.

Glad to see you back on the challenge!

Rust is real when a week goes by without approaches. But this was a legitimate break because of flu, so nothing to worry.
The first approach is the hardest once you get back.

Takeaways
Nothing much except I can see how much consistently plays a part in this. Was definitely rusty and if I had momentum on my side I think I would have been sharper and gone for the close on the last interaction.

That's true. As @Warped Mindless wrote in an old post, social momentum is that tiny factor that causes 70% of your results, when it comes to cold approach.

The good news is your instincts take over once you get warmed up in the next few days.

 

[DarkKnight]

I see. But its not really an issue for me. I don't check for AIs or anything. I literally just see a girl I like and go approach. Most of them will only know I exist once I stop them and start talking to them.

Yes i dont check for ais right now either. Otherwise 4 approaches every day becomes more hard between my already chaotic busy life

 

[Social_Artist91]

This thread is amazing. It has motivated me to start a similar challenge of my own. But mine is more basic. I will just aim to compliment girls everyday. But thanks for giving me this inspiration.

 

[AspiringStoic]

Day 14 (1 December, 2024)

Slightly better today as expected after breaking free of the rust a bit yesterday.

Approach 1
Tram stop. Open with a compliment. She is smiley and we enter into a conversation. But within a minute she mentions a boyfriend in passing. I still continue to talk to her for another couple of minutes, then the tram arrives and I just wish her a good day and eject.

Approach 2
Bus stop. Taller girl with funky style. I open with a compliment, she likes it. I continue speaking, she understands me but her English is pretty non existent. She is very smiley and nodding her head but cannot really respond to me. I see the bus arriving, so I just go for the close anyway. She takes off her glove and shows me her ring and tells me she is married. I wish her well and she gets on the bus.

Approach 3
Asian girl walking. I cannot really tell if she is very young but I just decide to open anyways. I go up and try to stop her, she sees me but just continues walking.

Approach 4
Blonde girl walking. I stop her and deliver my direct opener. She loves it, and we start talking. She is a tourist and was here for the weekend is leaving tomorrow. Its going well so I ask her to just walk with me. We walk for a couple of blocks and now we have to go separate ways. I pitch an instant date but she is walking back to her hotel and is going to a show with her friends. I don't see any point in taking her contact but she herself asks me for mine and adds me on social media.

Takeaways
Sundays are always slower in the evening. Less single sets. Better to go out earlier in the day on a Sunday.

Just need to get that momemtum back and the only way is to just keep doing the basics and doing the daily approaches.

Have a busy week coming up next week. I think it will be hard to both do the approaching and write detailed reports here. So I will probably just collect them and post consolidated reports once in 3 days or something.

 

[AspiringStoic]

Okay. I need to come clean here. This week was very busy. I just could not keep up with the challenge.

I did 4 on Monday, then did not do it on Tuesday and Wednesday. Did 3 on Thursday and then did 1 each on Friday and Saturday.

The coming week is not as busy. But I really feel continuing to post on this thread is not good. The whole point of the 30 day challenge is the consistency and momentum and I have broken both.

Since it was a "challenge", I have to admit that I have failed it.

But there are some huge takeaways. The momentum I experienced was great. In just 10 days I could see a huge change in me. And it also got me results.

I am now more determined to try this challenge again and complete it. But starting now again would be pointless as I would definitely miss days during the holiday period.

So maybe I will come back to it next year. So for now, I will just continue to post in my orginal journal when I go out infield.

Thanks for all the encouragement and support you guys gave me while I was attempting this.