A few questions: girls and groups

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What should I do when I see her with her friends and I know her?

Should you ever meet groups (sort of like street game and you see a group)?

And also, how forgiving are quiet girls when it comes to rambling? Do they hate you or do they understand and appreciate it? Especially in group situations where you’re the one doing the most talking. Do people dislike you for it?

Is it ok to meet people in your accommodation? Even if they’ll find out about each other eventually? And also.....banging your neighbours...... good or bad?

But the most important question I need answered is the first one. I think it’s one of the reasons why I was a loner a lot. I had no idea how to react to friends with friends. What do you do? Do you be friendly or a stranger?

 

[NealIRC]

From where I'm at, White women can go to the beach solo, never Hispanic women.

3/4th of the time White women go to beaches with at least 1 other girl or as a group or co-ed. Hispanic girls almost never go solo to da beach, they bring at least 1 other.

So that is the good news if you want to approach random White women at the beach.

However, the bad news for that go is most of the time, they're either sleeping, reading a book or something, or with earphones in their ears. They rarely sit and people-watch the people walking by, if they do that, then eye contact is everything.

 

[silenceinthesnow]

Hey Ash,

A lot of this changes on context but there's nothing wrong with being social. If this was night game it would be essential because you don't get many opportunities when the girl is on her own. Winning over the group also makes life a lot easier and ups your social value. You might even get on with them and develop your social circle which can come with its own rewards. Depending on situation you can be normal with her even when she's with her friends. The big issue to this is if you're just casually seeing each other and her group doesn't know you from Jack. This can potentially blow the lid of anything covert going on which could slow down your advances.

Try to get eye contact and establish the situation, smile at her and see if its welcoming. You might be surprised she could even run across the room and straight to you.

Meeting groups is a skill, and if you're waiting for isolation it might never happen so don't let approach anxiety get in the way. I know you run a risk of embarrassing her in front of her friends but again different contexts mean different things. There's no hard or fast rules.

Quiet girls can be forgiving about rambling and they might be happy that something is filling the void. Personally I avoid it because you look clumsy rambling; girls can pull it of. The deep dive can really open this up for you. I've just been on 2 dates with 2 quiet girls and I got them to do the talking by asking questions on what they gave me; I offered very little information about myself because it wasn't required. I only filled in the gaps. The context of the group situation changes, if you're leading and adding value they'd see your social status. The downside is if you give to much you become an entertainer.

Every situation is different but if you can lead her away you'll have more success, and if you can't set up something quieter where its just you two.

You can be friendly to strangers, a stranger is a friend you haven't met yet. I bet you have no idea who 90% of this forum are but you're asking and getting advice all the same. See what the dynamic is; see if they're friendly and mirror there response. If its girls touch them, break the awkward moment so you're not standing 2ft apart all the time, because then when you touch them it will seem awkward and weird which is not what you want.

SilenceintheSnow