Advice for highschool

[Garrett]

Correct me if I am wrong! Now I have two questions for you:
1-What will be the difference between me not approaching girls or the socially awkward introvert not approaching girls?
2-Can I use facebook to text girls without the intention of a relationship, just casual social bonding?

Hey Stranger, thanks for condensing my points, that post was long as hell! Now for your questions...

1. Well firstly, I don't know you personally, therefore, I'm going to shy away from any labels. If you are the type who is confident and has his fundamentals down, then you will obviously be more attractive to girls. Some girls have different preferences though, so you could be Cristiano Ronaldo and she may not like you, it depends. The difference between you and the socially awkward guy? It's that you'll likely have a greater perceived attractiveness, not much other difference. The difference between someone who doesn't approach girls, and someone who does? It's easier to say if we're talking about the same guy who never approached girls and then decided to go approach girls. Reason being, if you take a guy who looks like a model, who has a sexy walk, voice, and mannerisms, yet shies away from approach, and you compare him to a weak little unattractive guy who has no fundamentals or social skills and approaches girls, it's hard to make a comparison like that, granted the socially awkward guy is likely better at approach still. In comparison, if you take the same guy and you get him to approach 1000 girls, he's going to do better than the guy who didn't approach, simply because he'll eventually (depending on his talent/awareness/understanding) pick up on what works and what doesn't, will discover patterns, and will be more efficient/effective in picking up girls.

I feel like you're asking that question because you don't go out and approach girls, I could be wrong though. It's simple logic. I've never gone and cold approached a girl so I'm not the best to ask about approaches, but I have gained logical insight from Chase so I believe my description reflects one of someone who has practiced and has data points. Albeit, I don't think data points are required to answer your question; however, this is the most logical way of looking at it. The correlation is, the more you approach, the better you'll get at social skills, getting girls attracted to you, etc. How do you think Chase knows what he does? He didn't just pull everything he knows out of his ass, he actually went out, field tested all kinds of things, then noted patterns on what works and what doesn't. You can read the blog till you're blue in the face, but it's important to practice what you learn and to learn on your own because I'm sure there are some things Chase hasn't mentioned that you could pick up by constantly meeting new girls and honing your skills. He has great insight/writing ability and communicates his ideas effectively, so I don't think you'll learn a substantial amount more about pickup but you definitely will pick up nuggets here and there along the way that will improve your game.

2. You can use facebook to talk to girls you want to be friends with, but I mean, why would you? You can always do something, it's clear though that you want to know if it's a good idea. My opinion is that you use texting/IM to get her out and interacting with you in person. Make it clear to the girl what your intentions are so you don't hurt her, and simply explain that you just want to be friends. There is nothing wrong with being friends, but make sure no one gets hurt along the way, and ideally, this girl 'friend' is someone who you like to spend time with and offers value. I used to be like this where I would just message girls on facebook/text them because I was too shy/nervous to meet in person. You have to throw yourself into situations that make you uncomfortable to get over your fears. I'm planning on doing this someday with approaches and I know I will do it. I'm setting goals and once I move out I'm going to devote my free time to pickup, assuming my aspirations stay relatively similar to how they are today. Anyways, I hope I helped answer your questions, Stranger!

Goodluck,
Garrett

 

[Stranger]

Thanks for the reply, I think I didn't explain myself enough in the previous post, I guess I will have to make myself clearer:
1-Why the comparison with the introvert? You said yourself in the post NOT to approach girls in school, if I am wrong correct me, how will that make me more attractive than an introvert? If my fundamentals are right (like the walk, talk, eye contact, etc)?
2-Why would I text a girl on facebook? Well, actually I would text a girl or a guy, since it is just for the sake of making friends. I am foreigner in the US so I try to spent most of my time socializing because it is a big issue. I only chat with people with who I could socialize with in real life.

 

[Jay]

Guys,

I'll let Garrett answer the questions posed to him himself, and I'd like to add to and comment on a couple of his summary points...

Get a job and license as soon as possible. License you should get even if you don't want/need to drive because eventually when you're going out to meet a bunch of girls, it'll make things a lot easier. Job is up to you. If you have a lot of free time, you should do it for the experience, you'll gain transferable mechanical/social skills and you'll make money!

Very true, I got my license at 16 basically because it is what everyone did, and I didn't fully appreciate what I had in one until I got it revoked a month ago, being able to drive is very useful, especially in high school to have that much more freedom of movement away from your house and parents. As for a job; a job equals money, and money equals greater ability to further pretty much any of your goals in this society, so a job is always beneficial.

If you enjoy spending a lot of your time alone, that's okay. I do it, and I know Chase did it too. Keep in mind moderation/balance, and go out every so often for fun so you don't develop a scarcity mentality. If you are improving yourself and your fundamentals, it'll help you get girls, you'll get more respect from your peers, and you'll set up a better future for yourself

I love my alone time as well, and I just have time to myself some days; it gives me time to reflect on my life and wind down some of my stress. However I can never stay that way for long, if I spend more than a day or so without seeing anyone or speaking to someone I feel like I'm going crazy. Dorm life helps with this for me, and on a side note, I strongly suggest that everyone attending a University live in the dorms first year. The social and logistical (both sexual and getting to class) benefits greatly outweigh the lack of a place of your own freshman year. Back on topic, as Garrett also stated, you can't tighten your fundamentals and improve in the field by yourself, so try and balance your alone time and game time (though you can study girls chase and surf these forums to learn some shit while you are alone).

I suggest delete facebook/getting too involved with people because most of the people you have on there aren't your true friends. Just add your friends on your phone. It looks more attractive when someone doesn't have it because you're different, don't follow everyone else/what society tells you, it's respectable, and you look busier

While I wouldn't exactly suggest deleting your Facebook if you already have one, because it IS a useful social tool; I do not have one myself, because I like to interact with people solely face to face, and don't believe that Facebook offers a realistic enough picture of me (or anyone else for that matter) as a person. It is also not a good place to game, and should be treated like texting when you are interacting with a girl you hope to lay on it; keep it short and focus on a face to face meeting.

n my opinion, pick up isn't the best idea in high school because it's hard when you go to school with the same girls for 4 years. Their attraction for you will be high when they first meet you then a lot of it will die out over time. If you're a freshman, it's a lot easier, but as you progress to higher grades, it gets tougher if you're around the same girls everyday. It's better to meet girls outside the classroom, and for that reason, I suggest you focus on improving things like your walk/speech and not so much on picking up girls at school. Chase has you covered on classroom game too

While this is true of the high school you attend, this doesn't mean you can't succeed there, just that it is more difficult. What I would suggest is dating/hooking up with girls from other high schools in the area. That is mainly what I did in high school; it lessens both the social pressure and stigma associated with specific girls at your school and the potential awkwardness of seeing a girl you failed an attempt at laying day after day at school. It also leads to more mystery in the relationship, and less likeliness that you will have to settle for a single girl.

Those are my thoughts.

Jay