Advice to your younger self

[Rakehell]

For the most part men are stimulated visually, for women it's about an emotional journey of which you, as a man, can influence and increase their receptiveness to your advances.

Well said.

Did that new understanding influence your approach to gaming girls?

For example did you stop focusing on physical appearance and switch to learning verbal techniques?

 

[Derek da man]

Well said.

Did that new understanding influence your approach to gaming girls?

For example did you stop focusing on physical appearance and switch to learning verbal techniques?

It made a huge change - I started asking questions about how they felt, what they enjoyed, what they didn't, etc. Therefore they feel a connection with me and moving things along, escalating and so on became much more natural and comfortable for both of us. Previously when I was asking questions and showing a genuine interest in them would probably have felt a bit like a job interview to them.

I still dress well, although I've learnt that "over dressing" can make you seem unattainable and reduces opportunities, but my verbal communications have improved drastically. I also try and present "intrigue" where as before I was like an open book which basically screamed "nice guy" but boring.

 

[Stark]

Hey guy’s,

to make this short I recently graduated highschool (yay). I plan on studying abroad in the UK and continuing my seducers journey out there.

I’ve been going seriously hard on my social skills
since the beginning of this year trying to refine them and maximize them. I’ve quickly progressed and so have my abilities with girls.
I’ve mostly been focused on connecting with strangers and cold approaching, attempting to make friends wherever I go.

Some of my approaches have been blowouts, other times I just wasn’t in the headspace to hold a conversation so I let her get away.

I’ve had success and failure but I try and learn from every interaction. I find myself discouraged and equally motivated at the fact that there is still so much to improve on. It’s bitter yet sweet.

I even find improvement needed in my nonverbals and fundamentals which before this year I’d have told you were perfect.

I was lucky enough to be blessed with good genetics but have let alot of girls slip away in the past so I think that’s why i’m so headstrong on getting super super good at game.

As of lately I’ve found myself restless and on days where theres nothing to do I go out in search of practice. Sometimes I’ll only run into one girl which really blows me. Or i’ll run into a girl who’s in a negative state that lets their anger out on me.

I crave socialization at this point and opportunities have been slim lately lol.

I guess my reason for making this post is to ask for any advice you guys have for me as a younger seducer serious on climbing to the top of the social skills/seduction mountain. I’m 18 so I realize alot of you guys are older and have been doing this for a significantly longer amount of time.

If you could go back in time and tell your younger self something what would it be?

I would say

" Calm Down". Don't stress about the goal. It will happen. Relax

I'm 35 btw

 

[West_Indian_Archie]

Hey guy’s,

to make this short I recently graduated highschool (yay). I plan on studying abroad in the UK and continuing my seducers journey out there.

I’ve been going seriously hard on my social skills
since the beginning of this year trying to refine them and maximize them. I’ve quickly progressed and so have my abilities with girls.
I’ve mostly been focused on connecting with strangers and cold approaching, attempting to make friends wherever I go.

Some of my approaches have been blowouts, other times I just wasn’t in the headspace to hold a conversation so I let her get away.

I’ve had success and failure but I try and learn from every interaction. I find myself discouraged and equally motivated at the fact that there is still so much to improve on. It’s bitter yet sweet.

I even find improvement needed in my nonverbals and fundamentals which before this year I’d have told you were perfect.

I was lucky enough to be blessed with good genetics but have let alot of girls slip away in the past so I think that’s why i’m so headstrong on getting super super good at game.

As of lately I’ve found myself restless and on days where theres nothing to do I go out in search of practice. Sometimes I’ll only run into one girl which really blows me. Or i’ll run into a girl who’s in a negative state that lets their anger out on me.

I crave socialization at this point and opportunities have been slim lately lol.

I guess my reason for making this post is to ask for any advice you guys have for me as a younger seducer serious on climbing to the top of the social skills/seduction mountain. I’m 18 so I realize alot of you guys are older and have been doing this for a significantly longer amount of time.

If you could go back in time and tell your younger self something what would it be?

In terms of females? (Cause money wise i'd tell myself to double major in CS and Finance, and put all my money in FB, Goog, Amazon, Aapl, Random tech stocks, and Crypto)

1) Talk to more people, all the time, and enjoy it.

All that social experience carries over to women.

I didn't focus on connecting w/people in general, until I started talking to women. Taking my fledgling seduction skills into social skills was ass-backwards. It was developing my social skills that really made my seduction skills better.

And keep in mind, I wasn't some autistic loner. I had friends and people knew me. But turns out, for me at least, meeting more people, making more friends - made my external skills with women better as well as the social proof and deep inner game that comes from dealing with people regularly.

2) Get in the life long habit of working out, eating right, and enjoying those things -not doing them because you want approval.

WIA

 

[Skills]

In terms of females? (Cause money wise i'd tell myself to double major in CS and Finance, and put all my money in FB, Goog, Amazon, Aapl, Random tech stocks, and Crypto)

1) Talk to more people, all the time, and enjoy it.

All that social experience carries over to women.

I didn't focus on connecting w/people in general, until I started talking to women. Taking my fledgling seduction skills into social skills was ass-backwards. It was developing my social skills that really made my seduction skills better.

And keep in mind, I wasn't some autistic loner. I had friends and people knew me. But turns out, for me at least, meeting more people, making more friends - made my external skills with women better as well as the social proof and deep inner game that comes from dealing with people regularly.

2) Get in the life long habit of working out, eating right, and enjoying those things -not doing them because you want approval.

WIA

I have a finance degree, it would be a waste of resources to go to college get in debt and get a finance degree it is no needed to learn how to trade, i am also a former stock broker... everything else right on

 

[Rakehell]

1) Talk to more people, all the time, and enjoy it.

All that social experience carries over to women.

I didn't focus on connecting w/people in general, until I started talking to women. Taking my fledgling seduction skills into social skills was ass-backwards. It was developing my social skills that really made my seduction skills better.

And keep in mind, I wasn't some autistic loner. I had friends and people knew me. But turns out, for me at least, meeting more people, making more friends - made my external skills with women better as well as the social proof and deep inner game that comes from dealing with people regularly.

This is very true to a deep level, knowing how to connect well socially absolutely translates to women.

I used to do good with girls alone but could never really interact with them how I wanted in groups or stranger like scenarios. Knowing how to lead convos, prolong interactions, and connect with anybody wayyy helps your ability to connect with women.

Especially on the approach.

 

[sunnygirl]

If I could go back in time, I'd tell my younger self to get off the internet and take my academics more seriously. I have a pretty high IQ and have been told by my parents how much I'm wasting my potential by not studying more, its kinda frustuating because if I can easily get top marks by putting a little effort in but the problem is my internet addiction lol. Dw guys, I got all your recs in the chat. Here's a couple techniques I'm utilizing now..
1) The Pomodro Tecnique
2) DOPAMINE DETOX (I watch Hamza's videos and they're revelant to me even as a young girl)
3) This sounds silly but using a wristband and if I catch myself getting off guard just flick it enough to cause some pain

Welp I got accepted into some pretty top Florida colleges this year, but I always aimed for the top 20 in the nation and the Ivy Leagues. Fuck, it could've been done, I was on track freshman year but sophomore year kinda developed an ed...then I went on the internet to look up advice and just spent all day online... so much wasted time and potential. Honestly growing up half Asian with a tiger mom even though she was very hard and strict on me, I accomplished a lot and felt a lot of pride, inner validation is the key word. I didnt feel the need to seek outward validation because I worked hard and knew my worth.

Don't take the opinions of the internet seriously, unless they genuinely want the best for you and are equally positive and motivated to help you out. Cut out the junk so you can be your best self. A few posters that have helped include @King @Lofty @Double_O_69 @Train @Gaturro @Surveyor and many more. Everyone here is so incredibly positive and uplifting.

 

[Conquistador]

1) The Pomodro Tecnique

Pomodoro defs works! It's best for big, unstructured tasks like studying or writing tho

Welp I got accepted into some pretty top Florida colleges this year, but I always aimed for the top 20 in the nation and the Ivy Leagues.

Honestly whichever one you end up picking is good enough for undergrad.

That said..."Young people these days don't realize that the choices they make now impact their earning capacity for the next 50 years." --My friend's stepmom

 

[sunnygirl]

Pomodoro defs works! It's best for big, unstructured tasks like studying or writing tho

Yeap, fosho, Surveyor it really helps break those big, seemingly impossible chunks down into manageable parts

Honestly whichever one you end up picking is good enough for undergrad.

That said..."Young people these days don't realize that the choices they make now impact their earning capacity for the next 50 years." --My friend's stepmom

Ah, very true. I have a cool story to tell you guys, my dad is a cataract surgeon and graduated from a pretty local school (the acceptance rate was 95 percent), so almost like a community college yet he gained all the wisdom necessary to proceed to med school, residency, and so on before becoming a doctor. His coworker graduated summa cum laude from YALE, and now they are coworkers...making pretty much the exact same amount of $$. What's funny is that the Yale coworker has the worse reviews because he comes off as pretentious, arrogant, and acting like the peak of his life was when he was an undergrad from Yale, and he NEVER forgets to mention it. Well, he spent hundreds of thousands dollars more on his undergrad degree, so at the end of the day going to Yale may have been a net loss from him. Perhaps he gained connections there though. Who knows? You're right, it's never good to compare oneself as we are on our own journey!

Btw, your friend's stepmom is right. Sometimes I feel like it's a bit unfair that the choices we make from 14-21 make SUCH a big impact on our earning potential later on, but it is what it is. You just gotta play the game and have fun while doing so as well.