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Hey all,
I'm at a bit of a crossroads in my life, and I'm unsure how to move forward. I've been talking with people I trust, but also wanted advice from people in seduction who also might have dealt with these goal issues.
At this point, I'm in my very late 20s, in a cushy software job. The plan I'd had when I was younger had always been to use the cushy job to allow me to focus on seduction until I became super good and consistent, and then switch to focusing on business once I had that handled on autopilot. I didn't succeed to the degree I wanted.
I had about 1.5 years post graduation before COVID hit, then chose to live with my parents, before venturing back out into the world in 2021. After a year of floundering, I started coaching with teevster and picked up a lot of steam, however I decided to start a graduate program that took up roughly 100 hours a week for a full year (while working full time), and opted to devote the time to the program as opposed to seduction-I still went out but it was much less, and not enough to avoid backsliding. 2023 I dealt with a health issue and basically was at a chronic level of pain all year-so the focus had been on becoming healthy again. This year started off well, and I was able to devote a lot of time to seduction, and again saw improvement that was accelerating, and then the final semesters of my program picked back up and I chose to devote the time to finishing.
I'm about to graduate, and I'm still at the cushy job paying me a lot. But it's a dead end job, and while it used to have autonomy, that has been reducing more and more.
I still have the obsession with seduction and have a lot of coaching sessions with Hector that I am planning to focus on next year. It's very clear to me that if I am able to devote the time and focus to a field, I can succeed-since I've done it multiple times before with seduction and getting close to new levels. I've also done it in other fields, but when I spread my attention too thin, I can't keep up the growth I want either.
I'm just feeling... crushed by the cushy job and its boredom-plus just the lack of creative outlets. There's probably a lot of burnout as well.
I've also been feeling a lot of victim mentality lately and worry that if I stay in corporate I will let that mentality continue to escalate.
A large part of me want to quit and focus on building something (I have the technical skills, but have never attempted anything like it before) to monetize-but I'm scared, both that I will fail, and that I can't balance seduction and work.
I understand the difficulty of starting a business, and the time commitment, and the risk. I don't expect easy success, nor do I expect to have things handed to me.
The way I see it, there are three choices. Staying at the cushy job and building something on the side while focusing on seduction (and doing the bare minimum for the job). Switching jobs to a new field that will give me exposure to more ideas that could be used in a few years to find a more targeted niche, while focusing on seduction on the side (leaving product development as the item with less focus). Or to quit my job, and focus on building a product and also focusing all the remaining free time on seduction.
The first and second options are the safest. But the first option means I have to fight against the soul drudgery of corporate-and makes me less and less employable over time, and the second will involve a much higher time commitment to be successful while giving me new skills. The third option is the riskiest, since I won't make money unless I build something people want to buy-plus there's the seduction issue wherein if I can't build something that pays, I don't know how I'd find time to seduce.
But it's also the option that's been speaking to me a lot-mainly because I envision a lot more freedom in that route, and development of more grit, hustle, and control within myself. I have enough runway to last a year without any real issue, and could stretch it out to two years by dipping into savings.
At the same time I'm worried that I'm being delusional and reckless. Mainly because my job is insulated from external customers, so I don't have that experience, and also don't have as many niche interests that are usually fodder for product ideas for monetization. I've basically only been focused on work, seduction, and school for the past decade. And my current job pays well and lets me live very comfortably.
Was hoping to get some advice from people who have been in similar positions, or who have found success, who might be able to help me find clarity.
Posts I've read already and found useful:
I'm at a bit of a crossroads in my life, and I'm unsure how to move forward. I've been talking with people I trust, but also wanted advice from people in seduction who also might have dealt with these goal issues.
At this point, I'm in my very late 20s, in a cushy software job. The plan I'd had when I was younger had always been to use the cushy job to allow me to focus on seduction until I became super good and consistent, and then switch to focusing on business once I had that handled on autopilot. I didn't succeed to the degree I wanted.
I had about 1.5 years post graduation before COVID hit, then chose to live with my parents, before venturing back out into the world in 2021. After a year of floundering, I started coaching with teevster and picked up a lot of steam, however I decided to start a graduate program that took up roughly 100 hours a week for a full year (while working full time), and opted to devote the time to the program as opposed to seduction-I still went out but it was much less, and not enough to avoid backsliding. 2023 I dealt with a health issue and basically was at a chronic level of pain all year-so the focus had been on becoming healthy again. This year started off well, and I was able to devote a lot of time to seduction, and again saw improvement that was accelerating, and then the final semesters of my program picked back up and I chose to devote the time to finishing.
I'm about to graduate, and I'm still at the cushy job paying me a lot. But it's a dead end job, and while it used to have autonomy, that has been reducing more and more.
I still have the obsession with seduction and have a lot of coaching sessions with Hector that I am planning to focus on next year. It's very clear to me that if I am able to devote the time and focus to a field, I can succeed-since I've done it multiple times before with seduction and getting close to new levels. I've also done it in other fields, but when I spread my attention too thin, I can't keep up the growth I want either.
I'm just feeling... crushed by the cushy job and its boredom-plus just the lack of creative outlets. There's probably a lot of burnout as well.
I've also been feeling a lot of victim mentality lately and worry that if I stay in corporate I will let that mentality continue to escalate.
A large part of me want to quit and focus on building something (I have the technical skills, but have never attempted anything like it before) to monetize-but I'm scared, both that I will fail, and that I can't balance seduction and work.
I understand the difficulty of starting a business, and the time commitment, and the risk. I don't expect easy success, nor do I expect to have things handed to me.
The way I see it, there are three choices. Staying at the cushy job and building something on the side while focusing on seduction (and doing the bare minimum for the job). Switching jobs to a new field that will give me exposure to more ideas that could be used in a few years to find a more targeted niche, while focusing on seduction on the side (leaving product development as the item with less focus). Or to quit my job, and focus on building a product and also focusing all the remaining free time on seduction.
The first and second options are the safest. But the first option means I have to fight against the soul drudgery of corporate-and makes me less and less employable over time, and the second will involve a much higher time commitment to be successful while giving me new skills. The third option is the riskiest, since I won't make money unless I build something people want to buy-plus there's the seduction issue wherein if I can't build something that pays, I don't know how I'd find time to seduce.
But it's also the option that's been speaking to me a lot-mainly because I envision a lot more freedom in that route, and development of more grit, hustle, and control within myself. I have enough runway to last a year without any real issue, and could stretch it out to two years by dipping into savings.
At the same time I'm worried that I'm being delusional and reckless. Mainly because my job is insulated from external customers, so I don't have that experience, and also don't have as many niche interests that are usually fodder for product ideas for monetization. I've basically only been focused on work, seduction, and school for the past decade. And my current job pays well and lets me live very comfortably.
Was hoping to get some advice from people who have been in similar positions, or who have found success, who might be able to help me find clarity.
Posts I've read already and found useful:
