Advise on the area between openers and normal conversations

[jeff_64]

I previously used to think that openers were the hardest part of approaching but after reading some articles it is actually pretty basic. The part i have been struggling with is I guess "reaching the hook" so to speak.

I've read Chase's book but I've found the articles that dive deeper into certain sections have been extra helpful. Are there any articles on girls chase that specifically talk about this area of game? Or does anyone have any helpful advise on the subject? I have a hard to time figuring out what to say and usually resort to trying to go into a normal conversation.

Thanks!

 

[Lucky]

Okay Jeff after a opener I usually deep dive so just ask them about themselves along with a bit of playful teasing and from there move up to flirting
But if your a bit nervous change your stance shoulder's straight along with your back, playful smile and devilish eyes then your mood should change a bit and your ready to go...
But for more information on this see if you can find one of Light's posts (He's the one who introduced this tactic on the boards.)

 

[Fuck This]

It just comes with practice. If you strike up conversations that aren't dating approaches you get more comfortable when there isn't anything at stake.

Really your openers should lead into a conversation. That conversation should revolve around similarities

I have that book...How far along are you in it?
Did you go to XYZ university? I took a seminar there....
Are you from XXX place? I drove through there and liked XXX...
My kids were that age/are that age....
Did you get that coffee down at XYZ coffee bar? Ever had the mocha? It's my favorite...

Also pick topics/questions that require an active answer:

Your dog reminds me of one I had as a kid. How did you get him?
How long have you had that BMW? Do you like it?
What is your favorite meal from here?

After a little bit of banter, and an introduction it is easier to say "join me for a walk?" or " i'd like to get to know you better over dinner...."
Practice on Bartenders and waiters you have no intention of asking out. It is their job to converse in passing with customers. it will help you loosen up.

 

[jeff_64]

It just comes with practice. If you strike up conversations that aren't dating approaches you get more comfortable when there isn't anything at stake.

Really your openers should lead into a conversation. That conversation should revolve around similarities

I have that book...How far along are you in it?
Did you go to XYZ university? I took a seminar there....
Are you from XXX place? I drove through there and liked XXX...
My kids were that age/are that age....
Did you get that coffee down at XYZ coffee bar? Ever had the mocha? It's my favorite...

Also pick topics/questions that require an active answer:

Your dog reminds me of one I had as a kid. How did you get him?
How long have you had that BMW? Do you like it?
What is your favorite meal from here?

After a little bit of banter, and an introduction it is easier to say "join me for a walk?" or " i'd like to get to know you better over dinner...."
Practice on Bartenders and waiters you have no intention of asking out. It is their job to converse in passing with customers. it will help you loosen up.

I do agree that situational openers seem like they lend to a better segue into conversation. It just feels awkward on where to go when you go with the compliment opener. Like you said though some of that is probably due to practice I just like to have some idea of where to go otherwise I get nowhere.

 

[Fuck This]

It just comes with practice. If you strike up conversations that aren't dating approaches you get more comfortable when there isn't anything at stake.

Really your openers should lead into a conversation. That conversation should revolve around similarities

I have that book...How far along are you in it?
Did you go to XYZ university? I took a seminar there....
Are you from XXX place? I drove through there and liked XXX...
My kids were that age/are that age....
Did you get that coffee down at XYZ coffee bar? Ever had the mocha? It's my favorite...

Also pick topics/questions that require an active answer:

Your dog reminds me of one I had as a kid. How did you get him?
How long have you had that BMW? Do you like it?
What is your favorite meal from here?

After a little bit of banter, and an introduction it is easier to say "join me for a walk?" or " i'd like to get to know you better over dinner...."
Practice on Bartenders and waiters you have no intention of asking out. It is their job to converse in passing with customers. it will help you loosen up.

I do agree that situational openers seem like they lend to a better segue into conversation. It just feels awkward on where to go when you go with the compliment opener. Like you said though some of that is probably due to practice I just like to have some idea of where to go otherwise I get nowhere.

"Your hair is BEAUTIFUL! ya know I had a retriever with hair that color. Best hunting buddy a guy could ever ask for...Hey feel like playing fetch er... catch? " didn't work too well.....