Okay there is this girl I've known for a little over a year now. Back in our freshman year my best friend had a huge crush on her, so I never really felt the need to express my interest in her. We've been friends since then but never really got close, until recently. Lately we've been spending a lot of time with one another but primarily with another friend present (who is a female). We've spent time with just each other about 3 or four times. the last 2 previous times we've spent time with each other we were watching a movie/or TV series in my room and the first time we ended up cuddling; my arm around her at her waist and her head on my chest. This actually happened another time with the third friend in the room but the lights were off so she didn't notice really. The second time we were by ourselves I initiated the same amount of physicality. I told her to move up so I could get my arm around her, she complied but she did really get as cozy and comfortable with me as she did the first two times. Now she just left; she's been here since about 11:30 and its about 6 we've just been here sitting watching a TV series. I tried the same thing as last time I asked here to move up so I can extend my hand and she was not compliant. However, over the course of this time I had my hand on her leg and she didn't seem to mind. One thing I do know is that she is not the type to be flagrantly dismissive, so I'm thinking since I really didn't bring it to her attention she wouldn't dismiss it . Moreover she asked to come over so there must be some interest there, but she did intended for the third friend to come. Generally when we interact either in a group of by ourselves we relate pretty well to one another; there is usually a lot of eye contact among us and physicality (subtle). So what kind of resistance may she be feeling? am I already friend zoned and she just wants someone to spend time with? Another thing to take into consideration is when she first came over I asked her about her valentines day and she said she did nothing but go to work, then she asked me about mine; I went to the movies with a female friend just because we didn't have a valentines (nothing serious). She seemed a bit jealous I guess you could say, she was like at least you had some kind of valentines. I kind of got the impression that she would've liked to hang out with me or something. So she could have been put off by the fact I went to the movies with someone else while expressing all this interest in her.
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She likes you. She's a girl she isn't gonna come out and say it. Make a move or else you'll regret it.
If I were you I'd casually/jokingly make a comment, next time you're alone with her, about Valentines. I'd say "I didn't know you weren't doing anything for Valentine's Day, we should make a pact - if we're both alone next Valentine's Day we should totally spend it together." If she shows a positive reaction to this I'd then say "so, what should we do next valentines - I wonder where'd we go...?" And start bringing up all the date kind of things you'd do and get her to invest in adding to the fantasy. Afterwards just say "that sounds like fun actually! Fuck that I don't wanna wait till next yr lets do that (whatever you discussed about your make believe Valentine date next yr) next week! When are you free?"
You can dick around letting her rest her head on your chest and cuddle with no physical escalation but you'll regret it.
If I were you I'd casually/jokingly make a comment, next time you're alone with her, about Valentines. I'd say "I didn't know you weren't doing anything for Valentine's Day, we should make a pact - if we're both alone next Valentine's Day we should totally spend it together." If she shows a positive reaction to this I'd then say "so, what should we do next valentines - I wonder where'd we go...?" And start bringing up all the date kind of things you'd do and get her to invest in adding to the fantasy. Afterwards just say "that sounds like fun actually! Fuck that I don't wanna wait till next yr lets do that (whatever you discussed about your make believe Valentine date next yr) next week! When are you free?"
You can dick around letting her rest her head on your chest and cuddle with no physical escalation but you'll regret it.
