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monsterslimjim

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Ive decided to mix two separate outings into one post. Im not sure if thats against the rules. So, sorry Chase :)

First the FR.
Went to a house party, it was a total sausage fest. So I invited a bunch of a girls over. People brought more people and you know how the grapevine works. I can usually turn a bad party into a good party even if its not mine because I have assembled a nice social network.
Anyways, it was a bit awkward at first because 2 girls that I have already slept with showed up at the party (without me inviting them) and it just made for an interesting scenario because they both knew about me sleeping with each of them. But I played it cool and didnt let it bother me. Instead I invited a girl who I have made out with a few times but have never closed the deal with. This girl is like a 9 on my chart.
I thought that was gonna be the night. She showed up and was immediately all over me. Holding my hand, taking shots with me, kissing me. I thought for sure it was in the bag. Well a little while later, her boyfriend showed up and that was the end of that. As soon as he came she acted like I didnt exist. This frustrated me a bit, but at the same time it humbled me. Even I, after all the progress I have made in the art of seduction, still have lessons to learn. Because if I was a master, then she would have went home with me and not him. I took it as an experience and not as a failure.

Now for the LR :)
The next day, I went out on a date with a girl whom I have slept with only once in the past, but not recently. We never had any sort of a relationship, it was just a one night thing. Shes a solid 8.
When I saw her that weekend, we hung out very casually. I think what helped me out most in this situation was the law of least effort. I had already slept with her before so it wasnt new territory. I went into it with the mindset that it didnt really matter if I got with her or not because I already have. We watched a movie and listened to music. We left to go get food and it gave us a chance to deep dive and really catch up. We got onto the topic of relationships and were very honest about our sexual pasts. It felt a little odd to be having this conversation but it actually worked to my benefit. We talked about relationships that we had that didnt work out and she kept saying how I deserve so much better and blah blah blah. Then after she would make that comment, she would touch my hand or offer me some of her food. I was trying to pay attention at the indirect stuff and at the non verbals. After we were finished eating, we just sat in my car for another hour talking and we were just having a great time. In the car, there were MANY more non verbal cues. But it was getting late and I had to be up early the next day so I told her I would drop her off. I put my car into reverse and literally as I was backing up, I saw her just glaring at me out of the corner of my eye. So I stopped the car, mid-reverse, and went in for a kiss. She was more than happy to get it. I pulled back into my spot, and we made out for a while, I said we need to either go somewhere else and continue or I have to drop her off. She didnt want to get dropped off. So I pulled my car behind the restaurant into the alley. And the backseat scores again. (;

So my analysis of these reports:
1) with the FR, I realized still have much to learn. I need to figure out how to handle other guys coming in; I need to figure out how to think on my feet and stay collected at the same time with that situation. In all fairness, I was better off letting her go with her boyfriend or else I'm sure there would have been a confrontation. They are obviously not in a very solid relationship if she was making out with me until his arrival. So maybe next time eh?

2) with the LR, the Law of Least Effort is the bread and butter of seduction. Its a foundation to build upon. I think I needed a lay to keep my confidence an momentum going though.

Thanks for reading,
Monsterslimjim


~Stay Classy~
 

Chase

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monsterslimjim said:
Ive decided to mix two separate outings into one post. Im not sure if thats against the rules. So, sorry Chase :)

Nope, not against the rules!

On the girl with the boyfriend: that goes with the territory. If you knew he was coming over, you could potentially have gotten her out of there before he arrived and had her text him something about she was tired and just went home... but you'd have to play it just right, and make sure no one knew the two of you left together and would tell him. Even then, risky proposition for her. Girls will occasionally ditch their boyfriends for other men IF the relationship is winding down in a bad way (or they've just had a colossal fight) and the girl wants to send the boyfriend a big "Screw you!" message. This is pretty rare though.

Remember that you're competing for the lover role - the boyfriend's a completely different role. Lovers are disposable. Boyfriends must be tended to and taken care of. Even if she's more sexually attracted to you, the potential lover, you're still just a potential; the boyfriend occupies the role of higher importance here, since he's not as disposable.

That's the drawback of the lover role, perhaps - women find you more fascinating, more intriguing, and more scintillating, but if you don't also fulfill the provider role certain other men will take precedence over you in certain situations (e.g., boyfriend / husband candidates or currents).

Chase
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake
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