Approach in the library?

[readjusting]

I noticed that when I went to the library to study, I got quite a few of approach invitations. So, today I decided to capture on it.

First attempt: This girl was staring at me a few table away when I walked by. I went near her and sat down.
Me: Do you have a pencil?
Her: Yes
She went into her bag, searching for a pencil, and also giving me a big eraser => good sign, she invested a lot.
I took the pencil, then I did a homework in 30 seconds, and returned the pencil.
Me: Thanks.
Her: Okay.
Me: By the way, are you single?
At this point a few people nearby looked at us.
Her: What're you saying? (Bad sign.)
Me: I need to borrow your pen real quick.

I had a few successes with this opening style in study lounges and classrooms, but not library.

I ejected. But I noticed a few things:
- I got more approach invitations in the library.
- Zero competition.
The problem is: How can I capture on the approach invitations?

Also, I noticed a few problems with me:
- When people looked at us, I crumbled under the social pressure.
- Maybe she didn't hear that clearly because I kept the voice low volume, so it was not clear.

Logistics: The library is quiet. So I can't keep the conversation long. My plan is to use an indirect, then transition to direct, propose a date, get a number, then get out.

Do you approach girls in the library at all?

 

[DLegend]

say it nice and loud so everyone hears so if she rejects you you tell her youre going to ruin her repitation because everyone knows now. o tried it when i was little it worked

 

[Chase]

Curiosity-

SitRel works wonders here:

Girls You’ll Meet in the Library and How to Pick Them Up

Direct ("Are you single?") is usually going to be too much with girls who are seated somewhere. Makes her feel too cornered, even if she's into you:

When to Use Direct Openers Versus Situational Openers

Something more along the lines of, "Calc II, huh? Not exactly light reading," and then a little get-to-know-you conversation after is fine.

When it's time to be more direct, use a compliment like, "You have a great smile," or, "The curls in your hair are fantastic." Direct enough for her to feel you like her if she likes you, but indirect enough she won't freak out (and instead will feel flattered) if she's only being social.

Chase

 

[readjusting]

Chase,

Thanks for the references. I had approached 5 girls in the library with situational opener then sprinkled a genuine interest somewhere, it worked well.
Still no date, I had trouble building rapport with those types.

The article you wrote me before, approaching girls eating. Turn out 40% of the girls I approached in the dining hall were bio major, about to go doctor, average social life, and doing something boring that night. Quite easy to get them on dates once I was familiar with this type.
Nowadays when I meet a bio major, I try to get instant date to stretch my ability.

Library probably will be the same. I need to approach more to be familiar with these girls.