Attitudes towards guys who approach girls

[Samson84]

Doing as much as I can right now to build good mindsets and educate myself. Here's something that I realize holds me back...

On this site, I read:

Picking up women's a tough lot before you've got it down pat. Most women will respect you for doing it - they know most men can't, and they know they certainly couldn't - but that doesn't necessarily mean they'll like you anymore than the next guy.

Is it true in general that women respect guys for giving it their best shot? Approaching her, trying to charm her, trying to lead her, even if he fumbles and drops the ball at some stage? I mean, assuming you are halfway calibrated and not a complete asshole.

I guess I was coming with the assumption that this is more of a "done in the shadows" skullduggery that cannot be named. I even have anxiety about what if two women that I approached somehow discover that I approached both of them? In my mind, they are horrified and label me as a creep and stalker. But what is more likely in that situation?

 

[Fuck This]

I'd say in order to be not considered a creep, it is important to engage people of both sexes initially. No one likes to see a strange dude come in and start talking to all the women and ignoring the other guys. We call it social proof, but it really is simply polite socializing behavior. Now going into a foreign environment is tough when you don't know all the players and what the already existing social structure is.

So your initial approach is to make yourself approachable, so that the women feel at ease showing their interest. Then you can respond to their interest .

In your case I think it is important to understand just what the relationship with the two women is with each other. In college, I wouldn't pursue two women in the same sorority at the same time. But I would pursue two girls on the same residence hall, but not room or suitemates because there is not the same level of "sisterhood" in that assigned living arrangement.

I think you can weigh your options with multiple women in group activities and weight their interest signs, but do your escalation discretely with the individuals (no public makeouts, and no ostentatious pulls).

 

[dcman]

Hi Samson ,

In your lay report you cold approached a girl with ease made her comfortable and lead her. This is one of the most difficult aspects to learn in pick up. When using tinder or other apps folks just swipe and wait for the girl to respond and is more easier compared to cold approaches. If you continue approaching and interacting like the lay report you are way ahead in the curve.

So do not overthink about approaching girls. the hardest part is the cold approach.The other questions etc are easy to handle once you have approached and built rapport.

Good Luck mate.