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- Nov 20, 2012
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*notes: (this format will be consistent with all my FR's, unless the moderators instruct otherwise. These notes will not be repeated in subsequent FR's)
>All names have been changed to protect the innocent, this is indicated by names in []. I go through the alphabet with each successive name (like with hurricanes), then the names will repeat with a number, i.e.: [Claire] is the third girl I've had a "report-worthy" interaction with, [Claire2] will be the 29th, and so forth
>[x/x] is objective/subjective rating, that means how I believe the average person will perceive the girl, followed by my own rating, based on my tastes and proclivities (for example, even slightly overweight girls automatically lose a point with me, while a girl with an interesting tattoo or piercing gains a point). For the curious, my subjective rating system is as follows:
1-3: Do not want, run the other way
4: Not unless somehow tricked or impaired
5: Not particularly attracted, but wouldn't kick out of bed
6: Attractive, with some perceived drawback(s)/flaw(s)
7: Genuinely attractive
8: Hot
9: Model quality
10: Simply beautiful, both inside and out
>[#(+)] estimation of girl's age. Exact ages are provided where available (I have found age is a major factor in how interactions play out). For the record, I am 32, and am perceived as 25+ or 30ish, depending on how I'm dressed/behaving.
>(ongoing/closed)--ongoing: I do expect to have further romantic interactions with this girl in the future/closed--I do not.
>distinct phases of the interaction will be labeled with "open" "move" "escalation" and "close", in the order that they occur, and with a note on the nature of that phase
> [IR] (interaction rating): 1-10--this is a rating of the "value" of the interaction. Regardless of ultimate success or failure, this rating is based on how much I feel I have learned, or progressed as a result of the interaction
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Summary: Girl actually picked me up in a bar, I still managed to mess it up.
[Abbey] Swedish [6/6][30+](closed)
Open: passive
I was in one of my favorite bars, complaining to my friends that I never get girls when an [8/8] tapped me on the shoulder and engaged me. I couldn't quite believe it, but she told me it was actually her friend ([Abbey]) who was interested in me. Somewhat crestfallen, I nonetheless approached [Abbey], who seemed quite drunk.
Move: passive
[Abbey] and her friends informed me that they were leaving immediately to go to another nearby venue, and suggested I come along. I agreed immediately, [Abbey] wrapped my arm around her waist and we were off.
Escalation: passive
We arrived at the next venue and [Abbey]'s friends went ahead to the venue, while [Abbey] actually started kissing me in the street. I was still playing catch up, and didn't know quite what to do. The first thing I did do was to maneuver us out of the street. I quickly decided to move us to a nearby park until I could decide what the heck to do with the girl.
Close: fail
When we got into the privacy of the park, it became clear that [Abbey] was ready to close right then and there. At this point a) my marriage was dead but still legal, b) I wasn't willing to close outside, had nowhere to go and c) still wasn't really sure I wanted to close at all. I awkwardly stalled for time, and [Abbey] simply couldn't understand why I didn't want her (and said as much). I continued to stall, at which point she became furious and slapped me. She then got a text from her x-boyfriend, broke down into tears, and collapsed into my arms. My head was still spinning (more from the craziness of it all than from the slap), but I got [Abbey]'s number and promised I'd call her (she was convinced I wouldn't).
I texted [Abbey] back a couple weeks later, when my marriage was legally ended and I was living on my own, but she was a) sober and b) "in a relationship".
[IR]: 5
This interaction itself was pretty much useless, but very instructive in retrospect. This was a textbook AFC interaction. I had no idea what I was doing, or what I wanted. Something literally fell into my lap, and I still managed to fumble it away.
*notes: (this format will be consistent with all my FR's, unless the moderators instruct otherwise. These notes will not be repeated in subsequent FR's)
>All names have been changed to protect the innocent, this is indicated by names in []. I go through the alphabet with each successive name (like with hurricanes), then the names will repeat with a number, i.e.: [Claire] is the third girl I've had a "report-worthy" interaction with, [Claire2] will be the 29th, and so forth
>[x/x] is objective/subjective rating, that means how I believe the average person will perceive the girl, followed by my own rating, based on my tastes and proclivities (for example, even slightly overweight girls automatically lose a point with me, while a girl with an interesting tattoo or piercing gains a point). For the curious, my subjective rating system is as follows:
1-3: Do not want, run the other way
4: Not unless somehow tricked or impaired
5: Not particularly attracted, but wouldn't kick out of bed
6: Attractive, with some perceived drawback(s)/flaw(s)
7: Genuinely attractive
8: Hot
9: Model quality
10: Simply beautiful, both inside and out
>[#(+)] estimation of girl's age. Exact ages are provided where available (I have found age is a major factor in how interactions play out). For the record, I am 32, and am perceived as 25+ or 30ish, depending on how I'm dressed/behaving.
>(ongoing/closed)--ongoing: I do expect to have further romantic interactions with this girl in the future/closed--I do not.
>distinct phases of the interaction will be labeled with "open" "move" "escalation" and "close", in the order that they occur, and with a note on the nature of that phase
> [IR] (interaction rating): 1-10--this is a rating of the "value" of the interaction. Regardless of ultimate success or failure, this rating is based on how much I feel I have learned, or progressed as a result of the interaction
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Summary: Girl actually picked me up in a bar, I still managed to mess it up.
[Abbey] Swedish [6/6][30+](closed)
Open: passive
I was in one of my favorite bars, complaining to my friends that I never get girls when an [8/8] tapped me on the shoulder and engaged me. I couldn't quite believe it, but she told me it was actually her friend ([Abbey]) who was interested in me. Somewhat crestfallen, I nonetheless approached [Abbey], who seemed quite drunk.
Move: passive
[Abbey] and her friends informed me that they were leaving immediately to go to another nearby venue, and suggested I come along. I agreed immediately, [Abbey] wrapped my arm around her waist and we were off.
Escalation: passive
We arrived at the next venue and [Abbey]'s friends went ahead to the venue, while [Abbey] actually started kissing me in the street. I was still playing catch up, and didn't know quite what to do. The first thing I did do was to maneuver us out of the street. I quickly decided to move us to a nearby park until I could decide what the heck to do with the girl.
Close: fail
When we got into the privacy of the park, it became clear that [Abbey] was ready to close right then and there. At this point a) my marriage was dead but still legal, b) I wasn't willing to close outside, had nowhere to go and c) still wasn't really sure I wanted to close at all. I awkwardly stalled for time, and [Abbey] simply couldn't understand why I didn't want her (and said as much). I continued to stall, at which point she became furious and slapped me. She then got a text from her x-boyfriend, broke down into tears, and collapsed into my arms. My head was still spinning (more from the craziness of it all than from the slap), but I got [Abbey]'s number and promised I'd call her (she was convinced I wouldn't).
I texted [Abbey] back a couple weeks later, when my marriage was legally ended and I was living on my own, but she was a) sober and b) "in a relationship".
[IR]: 5
This interaction itself was pretty much useless, but very instructive in retrospect. This was a textbook AFC interaction. I had no idea what I was doing, or what I wanted. Something literally fell into my lap, and I still managed to fumble it away.
