Banged a girl while in another city - How do i handle communication going forward?

[MadeOfMetal]

Hello,

So basically last week i was in a distant city on vacation visiting a friend, and on the last night there i met up with a girl from bumble.

I was a 24 year old virgin prior to meeting her but using what ive learned from GC, i bedded her quickly and apparently managed to give her great sex, and did everything i could to make her feel special and wanted afterward as i spent the night.

I made it clear early on, before sex, that i was from out of town and leaving to go home the next day.
She seemed very satisfied with the time we spent toghether, and was accepting of the fact that it was a one night thing, albeit a bit sad that she couldn't have me for longer.

Now for the last 2 days since i left she has still been sending me friendly/flirty texts and selfies, to which ive been responding, but im not initiating any of the interactions on my own.

She was actually a really cool girl and i wouldn’t mind keeping in touch with her incase our paths might cross again. However, i do NOT want a long distance relationship.

I dont wanna be a dick and just ghost her, but i dont want her to mislead her into thinking i might want an LDR with her.

Can anyone give me advice on how to proceed in my communication with her?

Like i said above, this was my first time, so i didn't even really expect id do all the prior steps well enough to make it this far and have this problem LOL.
Thanks.

 

[Seppuku]

I was a 24 year old virgin prior to meeting her but using what ive learned from GC, i bedded her quickly and apparently managed to give her great sex, and did everything i could to make her feel special and wanted afterward as i spent the night.

Excellent job!

Here are a few keys to handle the long distance communication.

She will try to suck you into daily text exchanges. You should respond on an irregular manner. Avoid to establish any sort of pattern. In practice, it means sometimes you respond right away. Sometimes you respond 4 hours later. And sometimes you don't respond at all. You, avoiding to be sucked into her texting dance, she will get the picture. On the opposite, if you succumb and respond each time right away, you are giving into her frame of long distance relationship. Ideally, one message every few day would be best just to keep touch. Tons of messages every day is bad, bad, bad.

Also, you need to establish a pattern in which she initiates most of the time (like 2 out of three). If you never initiate, she will eventually have a crisis and leave. If you're the one initiating all the time, that makes you the chaser. The sweet spot is her initiating 2 out of 3 exchanges.

Good luck.

Seppuku

 

[MadeOfMetal]

Thanks a lot, Seppuku!

These tips make good sense to me, and are exactly the type of advice i was looking for.

I’m going to put this into practice.

Cheers.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

I was a 24 year old virgin prior to meeting her but using what ive learned from GC, i bedded her quickly and apparently managed to give her great sex, and did everything i could to make her feel special and wanted afterward as i spent the night.

First off, congrats, man!! Welcome to the game

She seemed very satisfied with the time we spent toghether, and was accepting of the fact that it was a one night thing, albeit a bit sad that she couldn't have me for longer.

Never know when these girls will come back into your life. Always good to keep contact. Also nice if ur ever lonely one night and need some reaffirmation that bitches like you.

I'd say initially talk to her a bunch. Keep emotions high. Then after the first week gone, you can slowly fade away. If you ever go back there (and maybe you like the city, cuz you got some action there and the girls are cute?), you can tap it.

I always like to keep up with girls from my past and it's not always a huge effort. It can be a text every couple months and you'll make both of you happy without setting crazy expectations that now you're her texting-husband.

Hector