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What's up with life...
I really coasted off Tinder in the past 4 years. I have hosted influencer events and really gotten around insanely hot girls that's clickey/in the scene and broke that mental barrier in my head. Dating them sucked though. Honestly give me a fucking normal 7-8 any day over an insane 9. Especially as I'm putting every ounce of energy into business and building a life for myself.
Tinder made me really complacent. I found girls who would tolerate my bullshit and usually won't force me to be my best self. I also matched with girls that are a dime in a dozen. I was fairly comfortable and non-reactive with them, not due to exposure or skill but just what the dynamic is. With pure cold approach and social circle I've hooked up with much much much hotter girls than apps. Could be the apps, could be me being happy with the apps.
I've always ran Adam Lyons style qualification game and Tinder is perfect for that. Just questions, small teases, investment loops, rewards, relating, repeat, etc.
The dates were super boring as well. But I pulled fairly consistently. Sex was pretty good. Honestly I mostly did this for validation and to have someone with me as I was focusing on business insanely hard. At some points I crashed emotionally and got into a game-gf loop. Usually the first month of it was always miserable, full of dumb validation seeking behavior from the most bullshit girls.
For the last 2 years and a half I've been in mostly monk mode with a LTR. 4x'd my business. Learnt so much. Failed so much. Made enough money to make a big move to a European country again. Very stressed & excited about it. Don't want this to involve personal stuff but has been a big dream/goal of mine.
Had a long term girl-friend through monk-mode, I cheated on her, it continued for 6-7 more months after that but was never the same. We broke up and then I had a few random things here and there but mostly I've been single. It was great. But I feel like the candle is burning out. Also as I was purely focused on business, I pulled a really cute girl randomly off a social circle party (still got it lol) 2 weeks ago, after a week it fucked up due to my frame being weak. UGH. Fucking hell, why does this shit happen every time you get back into it. Then my whole RAS turned to game/girls again. Also I met a really cool guy who I can learn a lot from but he's a pussy fiend. After 2 rather docile "winning" years by getting easily wins, feeling rather out of it.
I've also moved to a small town of 50k population (for business monk mode) , which is not helping the matter at all. I will be moving in late Spring, so don't want to move in between.
Maybe I'll expand on this later. The forums have always been a good refuge to recenter. Still haven't decided if I want to go all into going out or not, as I'm working 10-14 hours every day on business on a very small conservative town that I don't fit in at all culturally.
I really coasted off Tinder in the past 4 years. I have hosted influencer events and really gotten around insanely hot girls that's clickey/in the scene and broke that mental barrier in my head. Dating them sucked though. Honestly give me a fucking normal 7-8 any day over an insane 9. Especially as I'm putting every ounce of energy into business and building a life for myself.
Tinder made me really complacent. I found girls who would tolerate my bullshit and usually won't force me to be my best self. I also matched with girls that are a dime in a dozen. I was fairly comfortable and non-reactive with them, not due to exposure or skill but just what the dynamic is. With pure cold approach and social circle I've hooked up with much much much hotter girls than apps. Could be the apps, could be me being happy with the apps.
I've always ran Adam Lyons style qualification game and Tinder is perfect for that. Just questions, small teases, investment loops, rewards, relating, repeat, etc.
The dates were super boring as well. But I pulled fairly consistently. Sex was pretty good. Honestly I mostly did this for validation and to have someone with me as I was focusing on business insanely hard. At some points I crashed emotionally and got into a game-gf loop. Usually the first month of it was always miserable, full of dumb validation seeking behavior from the most bullshit girls.
For the last 2 years and a half I've been in mostly monk mode with a LTR. 4x'd my business. Learnt so much. Failed so much. Made enough money to make a big move to a European country again. Very stressed & excited about it. Don't want this to involve personal stuff but has been a big dream/goal of mine.
Had a long term girl-friend through monk-mode, I cheated on her, it continued for 6-7 more months after that but was never the same. We broke up and then I had a few random things here and there but mostly I've been single. It was great. But I feel like the candle is burning out. Also as I was purely focused on business, I pulled a really cute girl randomly off a social circle party (still got it lol) 2 weeks ago, after a week it fucked up due to my frame being weak. UGH. Fucking hell, why does this shit happen every time you get back into it. Then my whole RAS turned to game/girls again. Also I met a really cool guy who I can learn a lot from but he's a pussy fiend. After 2 rather docile "winning" years by getting easily wins, feeling rather out of it.
I've also moved to a small town of 50k population (for business monk mode) , which is not helping the matter at all. I will be moving in late Spring, so don't want to move in between.
Maybe I'll expand on this later. The forums have always been a good refuge to recenter. Still haven't decided if I want to go all into going out or not, as I'm working 10-14 hours every day on business on a very small conservative town that I don't fit in at all culturally.
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