Being a sexy man when you're sexually inexperienced

[Michael]

I really want to be able to make girls see me as this super-sexual guy, this guy who's dripping with sex, who can get girls wet by talking to them and touching them, or by telling crazy sex stories.

But how can you be a sexy man when you're still inexperienced, like if you haven't taken a girl to bed before? Do you just pretend you're more experienced, like fake it until you make it? If you do, at what point do you stop pretending - or do you just keep pretending? Do you lie when you're playing never-have-i-ever? Or should you not bother trying to be super-sexual until you've had sex a few times; in that case, how do you get that first bit of experience?

I'm guessing the best approach is fake-it-till-you-make-it. It will be awkward when your inexperience comes through, and you can't take off her bra, or have trouble getting it in (although, I'm guessing if you've gotten that far, you're probably home free), but I guess that comes with the territory. What do you guys think?

 

[ray_zorse]

Well I know it is possible to be sexually experienced and still have zero sexual vibe, so I presume the reverse is possible. Sexiness basically comes from your fundamentals, in particular your eye contact and voice (also to some extent touch, how and when you touch and do you seem comfortable doing so). I suggest to read the article about smiling sexy. It's basically just smiling slowly and with the left side of your mouth only. Then practice walking around a crowded department store (with good posture) and anytime a woman gets in your way or similar, give her laser eye contact, narrow your eyes slightly and give a slow sexual smirk. Instant sexual vibe. Practice this until it becomes automatic. I treat this as acting, something I do independently of my true state, but it really helps to think sexual thoughts about her while you do it!
Ray
PS As to general social situations just brazen it out. Nobody gives a fuck or has any clue whether you are sexually experienced. But you can train yourself to make unfiltered sexual remarks etc, and everyone will think you're a sexual man.

 

[Fuck This]

I'm going to say the harder you try, the less genuine it is going to appear.

I think "sexual" is conveyed through actions rather than words, and highly reliant upon response to stimuli. Watch how women respond to eye contact and a smile. That will get you further than innuendos. I think of "creepy uncles" who laugh at their inappropriate emphasis of words out of context. That isn't sexual.

Speak from your diaphragm, make eye contact, make sincere compliments and mean them. Be aware of escalation signals from women. Also be aware of when women aren't receptive by their body language. When she catches you staring at her nipples and crosses her arms, dude you are busted. When she meets your eye contact and smiles, you are golden.

Confidence in your course of action is sexier than any act you try to put on. Sincerity of action as well.

Remember it doesn't do you any good to "turn a woman on" when you can't do anything about it, like in a large group of people. So work on attraction and comfort so you can isolate and then escalate. you have to read the signals right though so learn her signals. Chase has lots of articles...

 

[Edd--19]

I've got to agree with Ray and Rocky here,

It's about fundamentals and not trying too hard at the same time... though at the start you will have to be tryhard to learn what you're doing.

I'm currently trying to learn the same thing and I've noted a few things... You have to pick and choose your moments, not a great idea to be sexy if she's telling you her granny's died, you'll destroy your authenticity and attainability. It really does not matter what you say, how you say it, e.g. I was talking to a friend some rather inoccuous subject came up and I put a sexual twist on it... it was about maths but the underlying connotations were sexual. The law of least effort rules this domain, even fumbling your words will destroy your vibe you're trying to build.

And a quick thing about slowness, only be slow when you don't have to be moving fast. If you got caught off-guard crossing a road you wouldn't look good as a mural on the windscreen.

Here are a couple of articles to help:
- [u=https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-techniques-changing-your-vibe-women] Changing your Vibe with Women [/url]
- [u=https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-sexy-man] How to be a Sexy Man[/url]
- [u=https://www.girlschase.com/content/sexy-body-language-men-learned-hot-girls?utm_source=girlschase&utm_medium=sidebar&utm_campaign=sidebar] Sexy Body Language For Men[/url]

Pick one sub topic and learn it piece by piece. I've tried the "let's do it all now" approach, you won't get anywhere, it takes time and PATIENCE to learn this.

If you want good role models in films here are a few I recommend:
- The Chronicles of Riddick (Vin Diesel) --> especially when he uses the tea cup as a weapon, watch how he retains control of the situation, minimum effort maximum results --> Sexy.
- The Fight Club (Brad Pitt).
- Oceans 11, 12, 13 (George Clooney, Brad Pitt).
- Van Wilder (Ryan Reynolds) --> More party style, better for higher energy approaches.
- Any Bond film (especially ones with Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan and Daniel Craig).

Oddly enough if you want a film to learn some excellent facial expressions, the Pirates of the Caribbean films are great... especially Johnny Depp in those films. I specifically remember him using a bored smile when being laughed at by a group of pirates when he was trying to convince them of something in the 4th one.

Hope this helps.
Edd